Drunk , broke, live-in , fiance. help?

Question

He started out as my best friend. met at a bar when i moved to a new town w/ a new job. making 3 times what he made. i didnt like him at first. just wasnt my type. "lookin" but the more he was around the more i liked him. finaly he moved in w/ me. he has never paid rent because I got him a job where i working making good money. but because it is comition only he was soon fired. and then couldnt find a job. unemployment wouldnt give him any money because he didnt qualify "poor performance" he is a marine back from iraq. he drinks EVERY DAY a min. of 6 beers and causes problems w/ my sleep because he wakes me up. once he got so trashed he grabbed me a bruised me and went to jail but i let him come back. he stopped drinking for 2 months. "remember. im paying all the bills now and feeding him ect." since then he got a dui, and has only found a part time job. bringing in 200$/wk. now all he does is go to his buddies house and drinks. how do i kick him out. im scared of him. hel

Answer 1

Tell him it's over... find a new place to live. Move all your stuff and leave his stuff. Tell him you can't live with a man who doesn't take care of you. "If you loved me, you wouldn't be killing yourself and MAKING me take care of you. I won't spend the rest of my life with a bum. If you change back into the man I met after we split and want to come back another time... I'm open to that, but for now, you need to take your self destructive actions away from me. I don't deserve this. I deserve a healthy lifestyle. I'm sorry. What I'm doing may hurt you, but what you've been doing to me is much worse, believe me. I'm finding a new place to live for me. If you want to keep this place, then we'll make those arrangements. I don't want this to be a painfull transition, and could use your help with the moving. But if you're upset, I understand, and I'll find someone else to help."

Answer 2

If he does not get mail there or it is not on his drivers license or on the lease he can be removed by the land lord or the courts. Since he has hurt you in the past you can get a restraining order against him and make sure that you tell the judge you are frightened of him.Your best advise is to talk to women against abuse they have a 24 hr, toll free hot line in most states if not all they will give you the best answers and will help you any way they can. Luck to you.

Answer 3

Well he has no strings tied to you. There is no marriage papers or no children so I am guessing. You need to have a talk with him and tell him he either needs to go get help for his drinking and find a job to help pay the bills or he needs to leave. If he does not do these things then I suggest you either kick him out and call for help if needed or move out yourself and find another place to live.

Answer 4

While he is out rent a storage unit. Put all of his stuff in it. Put his key out side on front step. Lock him out. When he returns home let him find a note with the key and instructions and a little cash to get him by. When you see him arrive, call the police to stand by. Do not let him in no matter what he says or does. If the poloce try to get your sympathy tell them 'NO" it's YOUR home and he is not on the lease/title. Stay in the house. IF need be, file an emergency protective order on Monday.

Answer 5

I just wanted to see if this type of insight could help others who are suffering?

As my feet slap down against the cold wet pavement, and my face drips rain from the storm, an unrelenting need to drink pushes me further. Exact final destination appears unknown , but it's inevitable that the evil inside will again return me to the source of my nightmare. No control, no will of my own, no power had I found that might evict this hell that had infected my body and mind. Self-identity, and all that was once me, had been buried under countless layers of drunkenness, so deep, that any calls for help were merely an echo inside my head.
This living liquid curse, cunning and without conscience, had been absorbed into a body which at one time eagerly welcomed it's unyielding influence. But now, as the onslaught of alcohol turned viciously against the world around me, it was only I being held responsible for it's drunken destruction carried out during my imprisonment.
Those intense fear ridden mornings, when I awoke to find yet another nightmare of alcohol's creation, devilishly constructed from it's own personality the night before. Whether it was the sight of dried blood crusted over both hands, or the unfamiliar surroundings of a place where I shouldn't have been, alcohol knew how to render me frozen with crippling insecurity. Too frightened to reason out a healthy answer as to what was happening to me, a deliberate terror of conscience always reached out and tightly gripped my soul. This devil, disguised and hidden behind my own recently drunken face, knew exactly where I'd run to for help. This was much more then an accident through drink. Alcohol's intent was to survive at all costs, to live and breath it's own existence using me as it's host of choice.
But, now, unaware of this developing transformation, all I wanted to do was calm the terror inside my head. There would be only one place, one exit, one chance to escape into a feeling of normality. Alcohol left nothing to chance, and as it waited patiently for me to return a bottle to my lips, I could almost hear a deep sullen laughter quicken my mobility. I desperately needed to lock myself away into the only security I knew, and to experience that precious freedom, I once again had to ingest my enslaver.
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Answer 6

I think you will have to file for a pfa (protection from abuse order) through your family court. I would call a women's shelter for advice/support/help in this matter. They can really be a huge asset to you and guide you in how to protect yourself and your stuff. Make sure you have all your important things and a second set of keys where you can get them in case you have to get out in a hurry. You may have to leave/move where he doesn't know where you are and watch out for him when coming and going to/from work. I would have my cell in my hand and a PFA and call the cops in a heartbeat if he comes anywhere near you once you leave or he leaves. How awful. I am sorry for him and sorry for you, but mostly worried for you. I am so glad you are getting out of this. Smart girl.

Answer 7

well call the police and have him removed by force. if he stalks you afterwards, take out a protection order..have some friends with you when you do this, as he will then see you are not to be messed with(safety in number's) he is draging you down with him, he is a burden on your shoulders. after being in iraq he may need to be "counciled" some are affected more than others. you don't need him in your life. you could always pack your bags and move out. if the flat/appartment is not in your name.......

Answer 8

Kick him out, he's a loser. It might pay you to go to the police and tell them of your concern given his previous assult on you. Maybe they will get a officer to be there when you kick him out, preferably when he might be sober. The officer could warm him off at the same time. Good luck

Answer 9

You call the police and tell them that you are kicking him out. Then you file a restraining order against him. You have to get rid of him! He can ruin his own life, but don't let him ruin yours!

Answer 10

You have bad-mouthed him enough with pretty poor English. It is obvious that you asked for this trouble again and again. If you really don't want him around, the answer is so obvious that you don't have to ask. You just want others to help you feel justified