Okay, I'm black and I'm tryin' to fit in with this popular clique everyone is really nice but they can be sooo mean like last year they decorated everybody in the cliques locker except mine and i've been trying to hang out with them since 3rd grade and now they put like 6 other girls infront of me ex. in gym they pick teams of 4 and it's three girls from my elementary clique and a new girl im not exactly what u call funny too im really shyyy and they save everyone spots at lunch except me...I basicaly feel like the odd one out and nobody invites me to their birthday if im friends with them i will be popular but how can i get their attention and feel comfortable with it
2007-02-02 11:12:42 · 19 answers · asked by yadudag 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Popularity means NOTHING!!!
2007-02-02 11:15:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
why r u trying 2 be popular? listen: last year i tried the whole popular thing and it sucked. there r very few nice popular ppl out there. my mom was one of them but the ppl in my school now aren't. unless the popular ppl r friends with EVERYONE and accept everyone as they r they're not nice. don't try 2 be popular. from what i read these popular ppl sound like the ones going 2 my school and the ones going 2 my school aren't worth the try. they've made fun of me. the ppl in this clique r trying 2 make u think that u fit in with them becuz they no that u can't see that u don't. u have 2 be the person that doesn't fall 4 that. i tried so many times 2 fit in with those ppl and they just hurt me even more. i no u may not care what problems i went thru but i want u 2 see that u don't need 2 wait around 4 ppl 2 respect u. u r who u r and stop trying 2 fit in with them. it's so sad when i see ppl that r willing 2 do certain things 2 fit in when they shouldn't have 2 do ANYTHING 2 fit in. they should automatically be accepted 4 who they r. that's not how it is with them though and u shouldn't have 2 change. just be URSELF. don't try 2 impress anyone and don't change 4 anyone cuz ur perfect the way u r and if ppl don't like u that way then they should get over it cuz u shouldn't have 2 change. they were so mean 2 u but i GET why u still want 2 be their friend. it's cuz u just want 2 be accepted. u just want ppl 2 accept u and think ur cool but u shouldn't have 2 change 2 be accepted and u shouldn't have 2 change 2 be labled as cool. u no what ppl r cool? the ppl that r themselves and don't change 4 anyone cuz they're better than that. i tried so hard 2 fit in and they DIDN'T care about my feelings and they didn't care how much i cried. they don't have a heart and they didn't see me breaking but u don't have 2 be as naive as i was. i was blinded by that stupid popularity and u don't have 2 be. u don't have 2 be as stupid as i was. get out there and show them that ur not a doormat! i wanna tell u a story about my friend caitlin. she lets the popular girls yell at her and call her stupid cuz she won't do a THING about it. THAT'S why they do it. they no she won't object 2 it. they let her hang out with them but only becuz she's their personal doormat. she gets walked on mentally. she WON'T stand up 4 herself and i always feel like i'm protecting her. i don't want 2 protect her anymore cuz i want her 2 be able 2 protect herself but she won't. i can literally SEE her self-esteem lowering the more she's around them. DON'T turn in2 those ppl and DON'T be their friend. God bless.
2007-02-03 01:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who would want to be friends with people like that? Thats what you have to ask yourself first before you can move on. You need to find people who enjoy your company and you enjoy theirs. When you have a friend you should not have to try and be something your not. A true friend you will have for life is someone who excepts you just the way you are. Stay away from those losers. Normally the ones that are the most popular turn out to be the losers in the end. Do this and then go to your 5th class reunion. You will see what Im talking about.
2007-02-02 19:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do people really like those s? Probably not. The definition of popular is someone whom everybody knows and likes. If they are mean to people...chances are they aren't popular. Sure, they might have a lot of '"friends" but they would probably turn their back on you in an instant, and it looks like they already have. Find a group of people who are nice and won't leave you out. You will probably feel much more accepted and loved by them, rather than the people who have been cold and indifferent towards you. If they realize what a loss they have had, don't go back to trying to hang out with them. Yes, it will be scary at first but you will end up with really good friends who will be there for you no matter what. Much Luck and Love!!!!
2007-02-02 19:23:52 · answer #4 · answered by Becca Boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not really your friends, I mean I remember in 1st grade when I moved to the states, everyone acted if I had a disease or something. But as elementry school years progressed I made some really awsome friends...who I am friends with even today, who like me for me.Now I'm a sophmore and I am practically friends with everyone, and I don't fall in with just any clique, I hang between cliques If you act comfortable with yourself, people will start likeing you (and who knows maybe the "popular people" will start to like you too). And remember popularity isn't everything. True friends are.
2007-02-02 19:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by Ellen the Estonian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about them. You sound really desperate. You do not need to be desperate for people to like you. You are just hanging out with the wrong people.
Anyway, what I noticed when I was in school is that populars are never shy. So you will have to overcome your shyness. Also most populars are bytches. So you are gong to have to be outgoing and a bytch. Good luck.
I still think that you doh't need them .
2007-02-02 19:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it matters to you know but, in all reality will do those people care about you? Not being rude but, why would you want to be friends with people who aren't taking and interest in you? You will benifet from people who care about you. People like strong people, people who aren't afraid to be different. When you are all grown up, married and have kids, will it really matter? Think about your future and whats best for you. You'll probably never see those people again when your older and married.
I do hope you find some friends that care about you, its no fun feelin left out. Remember Jesus cares.
Be Blessed and Rejoice in the Lord!
2007-02-02 19:24:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi beening popular isn't every thing. If they would be your real friends they should talk to you. i know how u feel. But sometimes its better to be alone than with people who aren't nice.
but u can do this. Try to dress better buy cool cloths that re fashionable and ignore them. try to make your own clique.
2007-02-02 19:29:13 · answer #8 · answered by marybel i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk with them a lot invite them over 4 a sleepover and ask them to go shopping at the mall 1 day just the group of u
2007-02-02 19:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by xobeccaxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try and find friends. who cares if your popular because (well at lesat this is how it is at my school) the popular kids are always in fights and when things come up where they need someone that someone isn't there. but like me i am inbetween popular and not. i have friends who will be there for me no matter what! so just find friends who like you no matter what.
2007-02-02 19:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by ♥volleyball♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, and if they don't hang out with you, then it's their loss. You'll make other friends who have interests more like your own, and those will be friends for life, who will be with you through the good times and tough times.
2007-02-02 19:16:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋