You think you are in wonderland and everything is perfect,You think after five years you know someone well .They are everything you would have hope them to be and then when push comes to shove one day you find out you don't know who you are married to.That open minded woman that you thought was so hot in bed and had sex on the brain has turned into someone that sleeps every chance she gets and snores like a grandmother.You ask her why she never makes sexual advances and she doesn't know and doesn't care to make you feel anything.Although she is a good wife and makes you feel she cares its like you married Dr Jeckal and Ms Hyde. We have had a few traumatic things happen and we made it through them ok.We are both healthy and seem to be ok.But something bizzare has happened to the woman I used to think was my identical twin in everyway and she has closed her mind to the slightest suggestion of anything not wanting to be bothered.I havent changed Im the same so what happened ?Who is she?
2007-02-02 10:56:07 · 14 answers · asked by Isy B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wish you had put her age here. She sounds like she is going through menopause. My husband is dealing with it right now and I feel sorry for him. Those hormones sre a real problem at times. A Dr. could help diagnose the problem best what ever it is.Make an appt. with him and go with her that is what my husband does.
2007-02-02 11:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many reasons for a situation like this to develop. You say she doesn't make sexual advances, maybe that's the problem, was she always the instigator, maybe love making has become routine.
Perhaps she feels her life is becoming routine, and wants some sort of fulfillment.
Situations like this happen to every marriage, the key is to talk, communicate with each other. Don't argue, or accuse, or try and score points off each other. Talk like civilised humans.
You obviously still lover her, so try and get to the root of the problem, and then make sure you action whatever the problem is.
Good luck with it . :-)
2007-02-02 11:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by sirdunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are assuming that people don't grow and change in 5 years. It is said that females want to have a secure "nest" called home, not just sex and play all the time. People realize they need to get their finance in order. Maybe you are still behaving like a boy and she is hoping you turn into a man who is ready to build a family.
All couples evolve. Why do you want to be the same guy 5 years ago? Maybe you are not into responsibilities, just sex and games.
2007-02-02 12:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the traumatic things that have happened still bother her or there is something else going on. You need to talk to her and let her know you desire her after all these years and help bring out that sexy vixen she is. It doesnt have to be this way you can only do what you can before you say its over. I hope you both can get back to where you once were in your marriage and good luck to ya.
2007-02-02 12:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by hotmoma1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a woman. Women's bodies are wired way differently than mens. She sounds depressed. Clinical depression can cause the symptoms you've described, as can thyroid disease and a host of other illnesses. She should see a doctor to rule out physical causes. Could be as simple as you not meeting her emotional needs.
2007-02-02 11:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by shojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone changes.....talk to her nicely and not when your in bed and see whats up with this different attitude she seems to have developed. Make sure YOU really haven't changed and gotton lazy with romance. If that doesn't work..then counseling is about the final alternative
2007-02-02 11:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by Thankyou4givengmeaheadache 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her how you feel. She might be in a rut and be unaware of your feelings, maybe she is content and thinks everything if wonderful in the garden of love. Talk about it and don't let your feeling fester inside
2007-02-02 11:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is when you learn everything you think you know about you spouce. It is all a lerning process for the both of you. People think they know everything about the one they marry and they don't know, you learn something new everyday
2007-02-06 05:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by jenapher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats why they invented porn and email,lol sorry to hear that man. best thing to do is take matters into your own hands and find something, anything that you guys can agree on and are interested in doing together if you want to save your marriage. ppl change, thats life.
2007-02-02 11:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by rockstar_livin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ppl change get her in the mood lights down low, hot bubble bath then ouch watch out she should be hott for u soon, if not i have no clue what to tell ya talk to her
2007-02-02 11:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by lovin_hard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋