In the 1950's radio quiz master Wilfred Pickles asked a contestant if he'd ever thought of divorce? The reply was 'No, never- Murder, yes.' This was because couples stayed together 'For the sake of the children.' The rows continued and the children watched. Are children any better off today with two or three 'Dads'. My ones seem happy but I sometimes wonder that they are troubled and confused.
2007-02-02 10:50:31 · 12 answers · asked by Harriet 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-02-03 23:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-01-29 18:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is fighting and arguing going on in the house, then children are better off with living with just one parent, this could be the mom or dad, just because your female, wont make you the better parent.
I don't think it is a good idea to have men/women coming in and out of their lives though, if they become attached, then they are going suffer the loss, when that particular partner is no longer on the scene.
Love, structure and stability are the most important things a child needs and all these things are free, if a new partner can bring that to the child then thats great but it needs to be thought out and handled in the right way, a succession of partners is not good.
2007-02-02 20:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by portly_pumpkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sweetie had 5 dads while growing up, and he says that after you reach a big enough number its the same as not having one. He says the hurt that happened when the first (real) dad left just settled, and its still with him. He says he still feels unloved, and doesn't know who he is as a man.
If you were to ask him I think he would say the one faithful parent isn't enough, and that a dozen well meaning but transient boyfriends might be worse than none.
My dad left when I was really young so I don't remember him. My mom was very careful and though she dated, she never brought her boyfriends home. She did introduce us to her fiance', the man who eventually became my step-dad, but she knew him for like 10 years before we did.
The same events can affect boys and girls in very different ways. Things that might make sense one way can be perceived by your son in a very different way, because he is wired to and thinks and emotionally processes in a very different way than you might. Be aware of that.
2007-02-02 12:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a little boy who told me and my son he has 5 daddy's. Now my husband is he's 6Th daddy. My husband been having affair with his mom she use to live down the street. Anyways that's a long story. Ya my husband is hes 6 daddy because I told my bum husband to leave so now he lives with her. I wish we still had the same family values back then, then we do today. It's not fair to the children or the spouse who was cheated on.
2007-02-02 11:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, i have noticed that children are happier and more settled after their parents have split up. This sounds mad but once the separation has happened they are not at the middle of a load of screaming rows and tense atmosphere.
2007-02-02 20:30:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The important thing is for the kids to feel support and love. It doesn't matter if there are two parents in their lives or just one. As long as you give them what they need not always what they want. As long as you be there for them in the way that they need you. We sometimes give to much when they really want someone to listen to them. Your time is what they need. Your love is what they need. Your support is what they need. You have given them life but it's nothing without you being in it.
2007-02-02 11:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by relationcounseling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are very resilient and god knows they have to have something to be screwed up about in later life or they will be dead boring. Seriously, as long as there is one constant who is loving and kind, they are doing better than most.
2007-02-02 11:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that it is better for children to not have too many 'dads' drifting through their lives... but that is sometimes easier said than done.... as long as you are offering a stable environment kids will be fine.
2007-02-02 11:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by slsvenus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The difference is in my opinion living a lie or living in reality.
2007-02-02 11:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by Thankyou4givengmeaheadache 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋