I don't want to be a loser what do I do?

Question

I screwed up big time. I screwed up in both personal and professional life. I feel like the biggest loser on earth. And I don’t feel like a loser because I have low self esteem. It’s totally all the way around. I think I’m the most beautiful girl, I feel like the most talented person professionally, I feel like I’m a leader and was born to be successful. But in the reality I think I overestimate myself. I’m not successful and in fact I’m in debt. I can’t pull through and bring to life my professional dreams. I can’t choose between two men and I’m hurting everyone. I can’t even quit smoking. I feel like my brain is overactive and my body is the opposite. And I expect people to treat me like someone that I’m actually not. I don’t know what to do and how to wake myself the hell up

Answer 1

first of all calm down for a second...
now you need to fix one thing at a time...not all at once.
that's what got you in trouble, thinking your the big **** and all. First things first, fix the job thing. Try to be low key and do what you can actually handle. Coz now if you lose your job, you're really gonna be in debt. Put the dream on the back burner for now, just try float a bit and settle.
it's not a matter of looking the part it's a matter of being it. cut down your expenses...a dress a list of what you spend and see what is only necessary, cook instead of restaurant, small things make all the difference.
and finally and only last should you start worrying about the 2 men situation. Put everything on hold on that side, and just fix the 2 previous problems...and go about it rationnally and logically. So what if you seem to be a loser, for sure what you were doing werent working, so enough with what everyone needs to think of you.

when you can get what you want, you get what you need.

that's where you're at. Focus, you have the solution

Answer 2

Sweetie, there is a whole lot of contradictions in what you are saying! First you should'nt expect people to treat you in such or such way, you can not controll how people react!
But you CAN controll your own!
I believe that you are beautifull and talented, but I suspect you dont love yourself enough to forgive your own weaknesses...You must understand that NO ONE is perfect! If I was you I would talk to a good therapist, it would change your life!
Good luck honey and don't be to hard on yourself, ok!

Answer 3

well ur not a loser dont think that for one and how u cant choose between two guys i mean have u sleeped wit both of them? i cant quite smoking either and i have a child and the whole nine yards but look put it this way relax and leave it up to god just trust him he can fix it

Answer 4

I can help. Like the one above(only more polite), write in a journal. That helps to vent emotion, like exercise. Find out your limits. Don't choose either man, find a new one(but try to preserve friendships). To gain respect, one must show it first.

Also, do or do not. There is no try.

Answer 5

I don't know you and have only read a small amount of info about your life.......................but have you ever been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD? I have some very close family members with it and what you have explanied......sounds just like them!!!

Like previous posters have said..maybe seek professional help.

Good luck

Answer 6

Pick yourself back up, and regroup, if your strong you will get through it and succeed. Everybody makes mistakes and that's part of life living and learning.Good luck ive been there.

Answer 7

Do you want to wake up? Stop brain activity. See through it all. This is possible.

Answer 8

wow....that sounds just like me....stop stressing girl...things always work out in the end. Try not to overthink stuff and when it comes to choosing one guy go for what your heart wants...not your mind. good luck

Answer 9

Lol.

Relax. Step back and mabye take one step at a time.

Answer 10

dont take offense to this. if u ask a clearer question i might be able to give u advice.