Second pregnancy moms!! Wanted to know?

Question

Hello and congrats to pregnant moms out there.

I found out 2 weeks ago that I am pregnant for the second time and I am still pretty much in shock about it. I do not plan on telling most of my family until I get the ultrasound on Feb 28th

I am about 8 weeks along and so far finding it hard getting back on pre-natal vitamins and start eating right. I guess when I know what is coming I am not looking foward to certains aspects of pregnancy. I am not good at taking vitamins because I get sick when I swallow them but I know I have to just suck it up. I know I need to eat veggies but I am so used to eating whatever that I finding it hard to break my junk food habit.

Since it is just a shock I often am forgetting that I am even pregnant, for some reason I am worrying more with this pregnancy too. I have been really sick and really cranky.

I am hoping things will change when I get my Ultrasound February 28th and then tell the family. Anyone feel indifferent at first??

I am thinking things will change when I see the ultrasound because BAM their is the baby. There will be no doubt because the babe will be on the screen and I think it will all sink in. My husband and I truely don't know when this happened, or how (HA HA no comment peeps) and I don't really have a good idea how far along I am. It just caught us way off guard thats all

I am also very scared about taking on two kids and have anxiety as is and just how my daughter will feel with a new addition. She is 14 months old and VERY attached to daddy. I want to take her feelings into account and that is why i wanted to way a little longer to get pregnant, but nothing goes as planned :)

Answer 1

I'm 13 weeks with #2 and I feel the same way. I seem to be more anxious and crabby with this one, emotionally. I also seem to be feeling the aches and pains a lot sooner than I did with my first.

Every now and then, I even wonder if i've made a mistake and I'm not actually pregnant at all..

weird, I too, hope this will pass.

Answer 2

Wow, you say many things that I feel too. I have a 17 month old daughter, and I am 13 weeks pregnant with #2 now.

I too have a hard time taking my vitamins... It seems like I take them every other day... but, on the days that don't, I make sure I take a chewable vitamin (I can't stomach the pre-natals because they make me feel worse, and sometimes make me throw up).

I often forget I am pregnant too. I just don't have the time to think about it the way I did for the first pregnancy.

This baby was planned, but because I have so much else going on, I do feel indifferent towards it.

I just had my 13 week ultra sound yesterday, and it did make it more real.

Good luck

Oh, also, I am very concerned about giving her attention when the new baby comes... My daughter is definetly a daddy's girl, and I am a little afraid I will lose her more once the new baby comes. Is that crazy?

Answer 3

I think most woman, if they havent been trying for some time to get pregnant, feel indifferent at first because they dont feel pregnant. Im 14 weeks pregnant and up until my ultrasound last week I kept forgetting I was even pregnant.. then I saw our baby trying to suck his thumb and I started crying. Now that my children know we are expecting another baby, my 20 month old son will walk up to me and lift my shirt and kiss my belly and say baby (of course he does the same thing to daddy :).
Even though I was comforted with my second and now third pregnancy knowing that I knew what to expect.. It seems I worried a little more with my second and a little more with my third or it could be that I just forgot how much I worried at the beginning of each of my pregnancies. I think thats pretty normal though.
Your ultrasound is on my daughters 10th birthday - no doubt the thought will pop into my head that there is a lady out there that I've never met but I know she is seeing her baby for the first time. Enjoy Honey!
Congrats!

Answer 4

Frankly, I still feel that way a little bit, and I'm 35 weeks. Other than the routine doctor stuff, don't expect that you know what will happen though, every pregnancy is different!!! Some things might even be easier, or not seem as bad because you've already been through it. I don't know if they are available where you are from, but my doctor gave me a prescription for a new different kind of vitamins that has the calcium and iron at different times of day so that they can be absorbed better, and the iron in them is less likely to make you sick. (I'm in Canada). As far as eating healthy, consider getting a chart, (or making one) that you can check off the recommended servings of foods in each food group as you eat them each day. It's far more motivational when you look at the chart and say "gee i need another vegetable or fruit, or another meat/protein" and go looking for that, rather than "I am hungry, lets see what's around"! I just found a great chart that you should be able to copy or print straight off the computer, it's based on the canada's food guide, but it should still work for you wherever you live. Check it out!
http://www.todaysparent.com/pregnancybirth/pregnancy/article.jsp?content=1056142&page=1

Answer 5

First off, you can tell your family to go suck it. Instead of being jerks and making fun of you, they should be supportive of you and the family that you are raising, and tell them that if they can't then they needn't be in your life or your children's. Secondly, if you feel like the guy is only trying to use you just to get papers to be allowed in the US then think of how bad it will be if he does get papers and only uses you for the things YOU HAVE GIVEN HIM. He doesn't deserve you. He doesn't deserve the things you are giving him because point blank: if he helped you bring this child in the world and you have told him (and he can see the stress it has on you) that you need help with the house, etc, then he should do it. If he can't, then kick him to the curb. He doesn't make you happy? He's not acting like a decent father to your first born? He wants his name on the title of YOUR HOUSE that you bought, paid for and maintain? Kick him to the curb because he is nothing but a dog and he will make you more unhappy if you marry him. No permita esa marca estúpida de hombre usted infeliz. EDIT: Also, just because he is the baby's father DOES NOT mean that you HAVE TO put him on the baby's birth certificate. That is what a Legitimation is for. So long as he is proven to be the baby's biological father then you can get child support from him if you wish to go that route. If he cleans up his act then you can get a Legitimation done that will allow for the baby to legitimately have his last name and rights to any moneys, wills or estates that he has/may have/will have.

Answer 6

Hi
I have a 3 yr old daughter and a 8 month old son!

I was so excited with my daughter, didn't know what to expect etc but when i found out that i was pregnant again, i just cried and cried!

Throughout my pregnancy i felt every ache and pain, my daughter helped me through all the sickness etc(had to run around her, didnt get time to feel sick)
I really worried about having my son, i knew what was gonna happen i was really scared! I was scared about about not loving my son as much as i loved my daughter etc.

He's here though and to be honest, i look back now and kick myself at not enjoying my pregnancy with my son as much as i did with my daughter!

The junk food bit, yes im the same, but my excuse is im still breatsfeeding him lol


Good luck

Answer 7

When I just knew I was pregnant with my 2ND child( my first was only 9 mths old) I was embarrassed because I thought my family and friends would think that I didn't know about birth control. I knew I was pregnant after 3 months but I figured if i didn't here it from a Dr. I wasn't pregnant!! Just go about your regular daily routine and eat right and exercise, don't do drugs or drink and you will be fine. Obviously you know you are pregnant and know the rights and wrongs. Being pregnant is the one thing us women have all to our selves(other then periods) and YOU need to treasure it. Best of health to you and your family.xxoo Audrey

Answer 8

what is so important about the ultrasound i mean you already know your pregnant are you worried that the baby is going to be sick or that something is wrong with he/she and look don't worry so much its not good for you, baby nor you body just start to getting into the habit of eating good and try your hardest to take you prenatal pills because to me you get so busy an the you forget to take them so i mean i just started to take mine and I'm 5 months already there is a reason for that but hey i was told its never to late but the junk food has to stop its not good to be overweight and pregnant so good luck

Answer 9

my prenatal vitamins made me sick, too. i took children's chewables instead with my first son and he was over 9 pounds and very healthy, though i was only 116 pre-pregnancy. i'm 23 weeks with my second and i'm taking children's vitamins this time. they're better than nothing.

Answer 10

Yes, indifference is a really common early pregnancy emotion.