I recently moved from a big city to a very small town where everyone knows everyone.
2007-02-02 10:14:40 · 12 answers · asked by Isabella 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You ARE a stranger. Do they accept anyone with open arms? Would you? Small towns have a rather xenophobic way of looking at newbys and it may take a while to get to know each other.
Get out there with a friendly but not-too-friendly attitude; they'll want to 'sniff' you some. Are you a threat to them in any way?
You moved there not visa versa and you're the one who needs to adapt. Join some clubs or civic groups if you can. Take an extension class at a local school. Make some 'quiet noise' in a way that gets you noticed.
Good luck!
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2007-02-02 10:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by Freesumpin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello Oliver! I'm Muslim and I do understand what you say. You are not racist at all. Just a person who wants to live peacefully in their homeland without being harassed by strangers who actually should be grateful for being given the chance to live in a nice country like the UK. I know you don't want to lose your national pride, your feeling that you are really at home, and I know it's a feeling that we live by. Actually, the Muslim guy you met in the bus is quite rude!!! Islam says you should be very polite and grateful! He is not Muslim and has no religion after all. If I were him I would of course say sorry and make some space for the other people. If I were you, I would create or join' if there is any) association concerned with such issues. I mean your goals should like stopping all kinds of abuse by those people or helping them integrate in a more civilised manner. I know you feel so sorry for your town, but I think that this needs some political intervention if things get worse. I have never experienced things like this, but lately some black africans starting invading my country in North Africa and they rob and do all kinds of mischief like invading people's houses and beating them hard. Good luck :)
2016-05-24 06:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me about four years ago and while I don't know your age I would suggest joining some clubs or organizationsthat interest you. Sports are a great way to meet new people and that's where I met most of my friends.Word of advice though I've seen plenty of new kids after me and some of them screw it up by pissing people off and in a small town that dosen't bode too well. Basically just get out there and be friendly and soon enough you'll find out that you fit in just fine.
2007-02-02 10:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by strawberry048 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in that town. :) Besides the bars, try going to the same restaurant regularly. Usually the waitresses are very friendly since they are working on a tip. I moved here while in high school and 16 years later, I'm still not "from" here. I saw an email once that said that just because the cat had kittens in the oven, doesn't make 'em biscuits. We will always be transplants but I like it here.
2007-02-02 10:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by chvyno1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how small are we talking here? i grew up in a town of 6,000 where everyone knew everything about you... the only advice i guess i can give you would be as social with strangers in public as you can(i.e. in the grocery store, and of the small businesses in town, restaurants, etc), people in small towns are usually more friendly and more apt to talk to strangers, see if there are any community outreach programs you can join, if you are religious you should attend and join the church of what ever denomination you are. you'll find that it's easier to make friends than you think, good luck
2007-02-02 10:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by NASER™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see the problem.
I moved once from my country, Argentina, to a very very small village in Canada (only 360 people), it was a great experience even when I always felt I didn't belong there since everybody used to salute me in the streets and treat me like a friend.
2007-02-02 10:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by Transgénico 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well most small towns are a bit clickie (lived in many) but the best way is to be seen..go to council meetings, volunteer somewhere in your community, greet people when they see you..won't take them long
2007-02-02 10:17:43 · answer #7 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say adapt to the environment without changing your attitude on life. this way you stay big city fun, but don't come of as pretentious, its a fine line indeed to walk.
2007-02-02 10:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by blindboygrunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join some local clubs or charities. or you could just go to the local bar. It's always easier to talk to people when you have a buzz.
2007-02-02 10:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by mandapandaz80 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out to the local bar and get loaded,,,,you'll have all kinds of friends next week!!!!!
2007-02-02 10:17:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋