Here's why. I have a husband that I hate two wonderful kids that are geting on my nerves and I live in another country wiht zero friends or family to talk to. I spend every single second of my day in the house with my kids. I have no help from my husbad I need to share a single room with two kids. I have no "ME" time. I am just so sick of things...what can I do to help myself?
2007-02-02 10:09:48 · 23 answers · asked by tweedy778 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
umm no I never wanted to be married thought I was doing the best hting for my child...turns out I couldnt have been more wrong!
2007-02-02 10:17:03 · update #1
there are tons more going on that I care not to disclose but things are bad here i have tried to talk to my husband and that doesn't work. I am jus tlooking for ways to relax and calm myself down.
2007-02-02 10:26:02 · update #2
I know how you feel. I am also contantly in a prison called a "home" in another country than my real home With two kids that I love, but the fact that there is no such thing as a social life (mainly because the friends that we do have are totally boring and I don't enjoy hanging out with them) and a husband that is completely selfish and unappreciative of me. It can send any sane woman crazy. I started feeling as if I was getting depressed. First, for yourself and your kids you should go see a doctor. Maybe he can help you before things get worse. Then you should start to think about your marriage. You cannot live in an unhappy environment its no good for you or your kids. Try some marriage counseling first if there is any hope or love still left. You really need to talk to your husband and let him know how you feel. For me, My husband and I are working on it day by day. As for feeling like a prisoner, I am hoping to remedy it by taking some class's at the local college just so I can get away, and hopefully make some new friends. Class's may not be your thing, but think about something you are interested in and just make yourself do it. It gets you away from the home and gives you some "me time". Your husband, if he wants any hope to save the marriage has no choice but to let you get out of the house alone a few times a week. If you truely hate your marriage and there is no chance at fixing it, then you should concider divorce. It is an extremely hard thing to wrestle with, but it will cause more damage to you and your children to live in an unhappy home. Good luck and take care of yourself first.
2007-02-02 10:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by MRod 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your kids need you. You signed up to be a mom, so be one. I spend 24/7 with my 3 kids too, so I do understand where you're coming from. But as a wife and mother, your duty is to your family. If you need time alone, get up an hour before everyone else. I do this and I have plenty of quiet time to have some coffee, read my Bible, and check my email. Then I'm relaxed and happy by the time the day begins. Take the kids out, go for walks, go play soccer in the back yard, go to PetsMart and look at the critters. Keep them from going nuts, and you can preserve your own sanity. One day you'll look back and wish they were little again.
2007-02-02 10:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by shojo 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell you husband that you need to get out of the house on a regular basis, and re-establish the part of yourself that existed before you became an wife and mother. Tell him that you have reached the end of your rope, and some drastic changes are needed in the family structure.
Then your husband needs to watch the kids for awhile each day while you go to work, school, or some other activity.
You should also discuss with your husband your need to return to your home country, or at least make some new friends here.
2007-02-02 10:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel ya!
I'm not married and don't have any children but I have 2 hamsters and an ANNOYING cat in the house. Seriously I'll trade you the cat for your children. haha.
ANYWAY, I am down in the states and I have no friends/family here too, I can't work and it just sucks!! All I have here is my boyfriend and sometimes that's just not enough.
Normally I would say just rough it out that it'll get better- it does with me I just have bad weeks. But since you have children it's hard to say.
Why do you share a room with children? Shouldn't you be in the same room as your husband?
Well you can be my new friend since we both need it!!
email me anytime!
brittanyplayfoot@yahoo.ca
2007-02-02 10:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do you hate your husband.. First think you need is counseling and therapy for you and then marriage counseling for your marriage. You also may need parenting classes. Have your husband watch the kids one time and you just go out for a bit. Get in the bathtub filled with bubbles and just relax and lock the bathroom door.
2007-02-02 10:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old your children are. What area of the world are you in? What is the temperature there?
If the weather permits it may be a good idea to take walks with your children. You may meet others to socialize with then. There may be a park or play ground? You have decide to change things, no one can get you and the children moving. They may be bored too.
2007-02-02 10:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by JAN 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a chill pill....before you burst. If you truly "hate" your husband you need to rectify that situation before it becomes a major problem with your kids. You also sound military....go find some kind of outreach - church, school, community events...get out. It is up to you to be in control of yourself and find the "ME" time you need.
Good luck!
2007-02-02 10:19:31 · answer #7 · answered by Elvis lives! 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you need to make changes before you loose your mind. Leave your husband if you hate him. Move back to the city, where your family/friends are and get out of the house. You need to be happy in order to take care of your kids properly. If your situation is like that then you need to make some changes. Good luck.
2007-02-02 10:17:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wow, and I thought I was lonely! I am an American living in Germany with my wonderful fiance, and sometimes I get really lonely too. I feel bad for you.
If I was stuck in the house with two children I would use my ear plugs-at least this would muffle the sound. Also, my sister in the states has 4 kids and drowns the sound of them out with an I pod.
Pray, pray, pray-things are so much better with prayer!
2007-02-02 10:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Get a divorce. Forget "me" until you kids are grown, even then, they might not go away LOL Take a deep breath, think about what you are saying, if it is intolerable, then leave. You "me" time is when the kids are in school.
2007-02-02 10:31:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋