Im a guy in college and im going to a club tomorrow and i dont know how to really approach a girl and dance with her..nor do i know how to dance the music will be the hip-hop/reggae feel. also how do i get over the fear of everyone in the club "looking and staring at me bc i look and feel like an idiot"
2007-02-02 09:24:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Think of fear as a good thing. You will get over it once you realize no one really cares about how you look. Everyone is too self-absorbed. That's how young people are. Your problem then becomes "how do I get people to notice me". You will see.
If you have a pathological fear, you may need to see a doctor. Even the best actors are often beset by stage fright before the curtains are raised. Some take the prescription drug propranolol for stage fright.
2007-02-02 09:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by Kitiany 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God, I have been where you are so often in my life. You just need to take the risk my friend. I have to say though, if you look around you will probably find many people that feel just the way you do. Acting cool is just that.....it's acting. When I first started dancing at clubs I would go and just watch how others were dancing and try to do what I thought wouldn't make me look like a moron. I found a long time ago that if you want to have fun at a club you need to be the fun person. Once others see that you are laughing with your friends and are very social it will open the door to be more confident where you can laugh about yourself and your lack of being able to dance. Don't do it by drinking man, every girl gets tired of a drunk guy at a club trying to pick her up. Just be yourself!!! You seem very honest and you will find that is a much better virtue than knowing how to dance at some club.
Harry Pete made a very good point also. I had a roomate from Venezuela and I went out with him one night.....I was petrified to start with but I had 4 women trying to teach me how to dance! It was a blast!! I never learned to dance the latino way, I have no hips but I danced all night long and laughed so hard at my goofiness! It was a very fun time.
2007-02-02 17:47:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ryan B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I believe that there is no such thing as an absolute disadvantage. That is to say anything that can be percieved as a disadvantage can be turned around and turned into an advantage. Let's consider your "fear of approaching a girl because you don't know how to dance". When you put it like that, it sounds like it could put a damper on "approaching a girl and asking her to dance".
If I were you, I would use this truth to my advantage. I would approach a girl who looked interesting to me and say, "Do you know how to dance to hip hop/reggae? And if so, would you be willing to teach me some moves?" And then when you get a girl to say yes, you can use the struggling pupil angle to get her to put her hands on your hips/shoulders/etc to help show you how to move... And if you get any confidence at all from her being interested in teaching you, it should translate into some good dance mojo.
2007-02-02 17:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by Dennis H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone in the club is there to have a go time, most are intoxicated. Just look at the dance floor if you don't believe me.
My mother in law once told me, when I had the fear of people watching me. "Your not as import as you think" Its all in your mind nobody could care less what your doing.
2007-02-02 17:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it. Its sounds hard, but unless you're making a complete fool of yourself, like jumping off the bar, no one will remember you, and that girl will only remember you if she likes you. I can't dance either, so copy a guy that appears to know what he's doing but is only moving a little. Its probably not the best place to meet a chick you want to get serious about.
2007-02-02 17:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by Nathan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, I know how you feel. You sound just like me. Approaching women is not that hard but dancing, phew, I can't do it without one or two beers!!! Inhale, exhale and go for it man. Just remember this tip. It has worked for me before.
When you go to bed, what do you say?
I'm glad I did or
I wish I had?!
Drink two beers, think about the tip and say: Now or Never!!!
2007-02-02 17:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by snak3s2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know how to dance maybe a club isn't the best place for you to meet girls? I mean, if you're comfortable in your environment you're more likely to come off as desirable, and if you know what you're doing then you'll feel comfortable.
2007-02-02 17:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
step 1. Drink
step 2. Dance
seriously...no one is looking at you...alcohol can get you over your inhibitions. fake confidence, move your arms (don't keep them in your pockets) and just move the way the music makes you feel...for real...it's a dance club, no one cares...they just wanna have fun and boogie!
2007-02-02 17:45:34 · answer #8 · answered by prekinpdx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be confident and face it.
2007-02-02 17:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by THE UNKNOWN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋