Okay, bare with me. So, the other night, I had a dream involving an ex-boyfriend of mine. It took place in what seemed like a school or something. There was an "elevator", and he was going to get into it, and as he was inside this "elevator", he asked me "Are you sure you don't want to go to NYC with me? I know you do." And as I was about to get into the elevator with him, I hesitated because it began to close, then I stepped back and let him go...after I walked away, I heard a really loud noise and everyone started screaming and they lifted some door up on the elevator and saw blood everywhere, it appeared to me that the "elevator" was also a woodchipper of some sort...and then I began to cry and scream, huddled in a corner, but I couldn't scream as loud as I was trying to, and I couldn't cry, and eventually I went mute and couldn't make any noise at all...
Now, what could this dream possibly be telling me?
2007-02-02 09:19:20 · 9 answers · asked by CherryDiVa 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You know the part of the dream where you stepped back and let him go? Well, that's exactly what you need to do. Being with him would mean the death of your emotional well-being. It's okay to mourn the loss of the relationship (much like you mourned your ex's death in the dream), but after that, you must move forward without looking back. Your muteness in the dream symbolizes your inability express your feelings and to close the door on this relationship. Take my advice, mourn it, close the door on it, and move on. Good luck to you!
2007-02-02 09:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by JOURNEY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dreams can have many meanings, and they might not always mean the obvious. Like I read somewhere that a person had a dream about having sex with a family member. It didn't mean they wanted to, but they were craving some kind of affection. Maybe you're not sure if you still have feelings for him. You're torn between being with him or letting go. The decision to let go resulted in him "dying" in a wood chipper (or whatever). You let that part of your life go. You could be sad about that decision to not let him in your life, thus the crying, however because you became mute, maybe your not as upset as you really think you are.
2007-02-02 09:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by afdd0101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll give it my best shot.
ex-boyfriend = him specifically, standard love interests
School = place of learning/life/institution
Elevator = to travel, going
"he was going to get in it" = you sensed he was the type to travel or leave your home area (or the scenario actually occurred)
NYC = the big city, life in all it's glorious complexity and diversity; good and bad.
"Are you sure you don't want to go to NYC w/ me? I know you do." = Do you want to go adventuring with me? I know you want an adventure (w/ me...hmmm...)
"as I was about to get into the elevator w/him" = I do want an adventure.
"I hesitated (because it began to close)" = I had to exercise caution because things were moving too fast.
"I stepped back and let him go" = you didn't claw at the buttons trying to open the door, you didn't pound on the door calling his name, you didn't begin weeping into your hands (at that point)
"...I walked away." = decision made.
"I heard a really loud noise... woodchipper of some sort" = travelling (away from home, even to NYC perhaps) can be dangerous or taking a big risk.
"...I began to cry and scream ...couldn't make any noise at all" = standard response to dream terror and horror. Muted because we get no auditory response from our ears when our minds are telling us the dream was reality. In order for the dream to continue as a convincing reality, something must occur which makes you a mute.
Okay, so there you have my list of equalities. In the multiplicity of functions served by our dreamstates, understanding things that happen in our lives is predominant. Outcomes of relationships, decisions to leave home or stay, etc.
Here, it appears to me you are abstracting an episode with an old boyfriend where you sense you declined an invitation for adventure because of the risks involved (perhaps because you were uncertain that it was 'him' you wanted to embark on such an adventure with, or things may just have been moving too fast for you). He continues on with this adventure and meets disaster. You are terrified and filled with sorrow.
What many people don't take into account when considering their dreams is that mentally, we are learning and growing as much as in any other way (physically, spiritually, emotionally). Our abstractions of various scenarios actual or imagined allow us to relate the individual components in their mental setting, organize their relations to each other further, and run plausible scenarios through them to see what the outcomes are. We can thereby understand what's happening there, and with us, to us, better.
This dream, to a young girl of teen years to early twenties might be an angst driven scenario about the difficulties of growing and risk taking. This dream for a woman in her 30's to 50's might be more about understanding why she didn't go questing after adventure, and seeking some psychological consolation for that decision (because it would have been stepping into a metaphorical woodchipper).
My personal interpretation for this dream is that you feel you were given an invitation by this fellow to embark on an adventure (as is any relationship) and that there was some coersion or rushing into things (His insisting "You know you want to{go on this adventure with me}. and the doors closing quickly. You decided against it, as you imagine there to be a disasterous outcome (about which you are horrified and sorrowful).
Final notes
When I was in my late teens early twenties, I almost married a young lady simply because we had decided to make love (and the church I attended at the time told me that people who have sex are supposed to be husband and wife). I was a big dreamer back then. I was going to do this and I was going to do that. But it was mostly just alot of wishful thinking. I had neither the education, resources, or ambition to accomplish my desires.
This particular young lady might well have sensed that there were these certain qualities that I lacked - even on some unconscious level (she doesn't KNOW that a person needs education, resources, or ambition to realize ones dreams, but she senses SOMETHING isn't right) - and she broke up with me. She couldn't tell me why... she said she didn't know.
She was right. I went to NYC. I discovered that I needed to acquire certain abilities and resources if I was ever going to realize any of those dreams. I have been working towards that end for over twenty years. I never did realize any of them. ...yet.
Honestly, we probably wouldn't have 'made it': she and I. There were so many obstacles to overcome. Perhaps you, like she, saw a glimpse of some potentiality, and thought it a risk better not taken.
I hope there is something of use here for you.
Good luck,
wayne
2007-02-02 11:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by Wayne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are hesitant about how you feel about your boyfriend. It sounds like you want to be with him but you have a part of you inside that says maybe it isn't right and should be terminated. Not being able to scream I would think it is related to not feeling secure enough to come to a decision about this. Going mute may just be an indirect way of saying.....you should think about this instead of reacting in an illogical manner.
2007-02-02 09:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really don't know, maybe deep down you hate him in a big way. Maybe he did something bad to you while you were a couple whether it was something he said or did. I'm sure there's other psychological aspects here but I'm no psychiatrist so I won't charge you for this session. LOL.
2007-02-02 09:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by zzap2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once you have been taken to the storage, it would desire to recommend some undesirable pals, thoughts. and while in basic terms 2 got here lower back, somthing had replaced. mabe somthing 2 do with social existence, artwork.. and while they began mumbeling, somthings chainging in youre existence that no1s telling you, yet your commencing as much as comprehend. by feeling like an animal mabe you r frightened that youll have not have been given any say/ decision in whats happening around you. or a reminiscence/ element which you cant permit flow. while the guy asks the place r u going you have a call, and that would desire to be bobbing up in genuine existence ( the alternative, i recommend, not the dream) and its as much as you to p.c.. the marvelous course. while the guy sais I dont think of so, youre pals/ family individuals/husband ect.. dont choose you to flow, or doint like the alternative.while they comprehend youre family individuals might desire to be greaved, yet they are going to come to settle for that. as whith the adult adult males stairing @ u, youre pals cant bear to work out you go away, yet they are going to comprehend and exept u 4 who u r.
2016-09-28 08:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by falce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Means stay away from wooded areas in NYC!
2007-02-02 09:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by Pedro Sanchez 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You eat too much chicken. It's the only explanation.
2007-02-02 09:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by pickersmurf 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well either you want him,or you really hate him.
2007-02-02 09:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋