How would you react if?

Question

Someone tells you all of a sudden that have feelings for you...plus the fact that he is a friend for a long time and married with another woman.

Answer 1

Tell him that you value his friendship and don't want to ruin that. If he can't deal with being just a friend, then you can't see him again. Why? Because he is married and, if he cheats WITH you, he'll cheat ON you. Ask him if there's something going on that is causing him to be unhappy and then suggest ways for him to fix it. Remind him that he made a wedding VOW and you would respect him more if he stayed the honorable person you thought he was! Then STAY AWAY FROM HIM for a few months. You would feel pretty stupid if this was just a "passing phase" of his and you got together and then he had regrets. you'd lose him as a friend,too!!

Answer 2

How did that make you feel? I hope not good. A married man who wants to cheat on his wife, there nothing but liars. You might of know him for a long time, but you didn't really know him, like you think. And if you known him for a long time that means you know his wife or seen her and am sure you heard about her. As a women to women don't act on it. He a married man. Find someone who will love you 100%. A married man can never love the other women 100% in why would you settle for less. Lets say you went out with him like on a date in you were dating him for awhile in you and him took it a foot higher starting sleeping together. After your going to get feelings for him. Then your going want him to leave his wife. There's a chance he won't. All your going to do is cause problems. Don't do it. You don't have the right to sleep with a women's man. In those feelings he says he has, his lien he might just be having problems with his wife right now. Most men do that. When they have problems at home they want to find someone who they can talk to and have affairs with. Most married men use the other women. Any ways if you did be with him, any bad luck comes your way you will deserve everything you get. In for one moment don't think he won't cheat on you. Most women who are the other women think he won't cheat on me because am the one he was cheating with. Come on now please don't start thinking that. If a man who took his vows before man and before God in breaks them he a man who can't be faithful don't matter who you are. Leave this man alone. He just looking for sex. Most cheaters are. In you have no right to try to fix it. or his marriage. Tell him you can't be friends no more for the respect for the other women. You need to think what if you were her. In trust me what comes around goes around. go read ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger.

Answer 3

To save everyone involved a lot of drama, your best bet is to let this friend know your not into being #2 (because no matter what he says that is what you will be - he'll always go home to his wife) and IF you have some feelings for him in that way let him know that the best thing for him to do, if he is unfulfilled in his marriage, is look into possibly a separation. Only then will you consider if/what feelings you have towards him.

Answer 4

Well, maybe a little flattered but definitely would look at it as taboo. I would tell them thanks for the compliment but some roads are not to be traveled, it can only lead to bad things... Never start a relation with a relation going on (for either party starting the relation), stop/finish the relation then move on, don't confuse things by adding another relation, even if you feel that way. So don't get involved girl!

Answer 5

If you value your marriage, I would avoid being friends with this person. NO GOOD can come from you insisting to your husband that you intend to remain friends with somebody that is obviously in love with you. How many husbands would honestly allow their wife to talk, hang out, and have a personal relationship with somebody that is going to try and steal her away the first chance he gets? Clearly your friend doesn't care much about his marriage or his wife's feelings, so you can't really count on him to do the right thing! Do what's best for YOUR marriage!

Answer 6

Say you're flattered but not interested. If you are interested, stay away. If he really wants you, he'll divorce his wife, which I don't recommend, but if he wants to be with you that bad that's what he'll do. Don't be a part of him breaking up his family. Wait until the divorce is finalized. He seems pretty rude and disrespectful of his wife...Would you want that in a future mate? I'd be balistic if my husband was doing that.

Answer 7

I would be shocked and thank him for the compliment BUT i would tell him that he had no chance with me since he is married and should love and want to be only with his wife... I would tell him to go home to his wife.

Answer 8

I was in a similar situation. The best thing to do is stay away from that person because the more you are around them, the more they will feel that way and the harder it will be. If he is willing to cheat on his wife, then I wouldn't be flattered; because he and his wife are supposed to be one, and if he doesn't respect her, he won't respect you.

Answer 9

Well, do you have similar feelings for him? If I were you I would tell him you're flattered but that you're not interested in a married man.

Answer 10

if he were your husband would u want him telling someone else he had feelings for her? feelings are emotions, we can control our emotions. don't get mixed up in any of this, as u could be the one who gets hurt by it. if he is married he needs to be divorced first before he even begins to have feelings for someone else.