Confused about 3SOME?

Question

Here is the problem, when my boyfriend and I are having sex, I talk to him about how much I like girls and how I want to be with them and that I want to have a 3some. The truth is, I don't know if I really want to or not. I think that I say things just to turn him on and he thinks bedroom talk is what I really think about girls. I mean, I like girls, I think some are good looking and sometimes I even think about doing things with another girl, but a 3some? I don't know if I can do that or not. Watch my man being with another girl. I told him about that and he in return said " you will be with her too" I don't know what to do.

Answer 1

Try being with a girl without him first. It'll be way easier to be with a girl alone if you say that you ARE attracted to them. It's hard seeing your boyfriend with somebody else, whether or not you're attracted to the third person. At the same time, some people like seeing their partner with somebody else, but I think you should work on that slowly being that you haven't done it before. If you like your experience with the female, then maybe the next time he can watch, and you can slowly build on it.

Answer 2

mymay. and goldwing.......why answer a qustion just to be rude????? why are u even in this section if u are so shallow minded??? anyway back to the question.......all i have to say is i am in the same boat, always been curious about the other side???? but like u i am in a relationship, 10yrs and a son, so in one sense a threesome would be a great solution but like u i couldnt stomach seeing my other half getting it on with someone else, i cant really give u an answer to this, alot of friends if mine have done it and some say it has made their relationship better, others had split up, I think it is a personal thing, how confident u are within yourself and how much u are willing to risk or possibly gain? good luck, i hope u find some kind of answer......i havent......but good luck anyway

ps your man saying that u are doing the same thing is crap, you want to experience something he cant give u but for him he is having sex with a woman, he already has that......it annoys me that men say that....

PPS hazeypurp i think your advice is great.

Answer 3

You probably shouldn't have said it if you didn't mean it. There are other ways to turn a guy on. I would suggest fessing up if you're really that uncomfortable with it. Being bi doesn't mean you'd necesarily want a threesome. My husband and I have talked about it and we decided that it wasn't for us. We're both too possesive to let someone touch the other. Talk it over with your boyfriend. If he really cares, he'll understand.

Answer 4

Sex, life, and relation sips are about exploring, trying new and different experiences.

If you don't wish to see your man with another woman, have her watch the two of you.

Give it a try, if it doesn't work then don't try it again. If the two of you like it, then you've added a new song to your catalog.

Be honest and open with each other and good luck.

Answer 5

you are playing with fire that could burn your relationship up for good.
threesomes never work out to the girls advantage. you will always be pressured to do it again, and this time with just one more, and before long your expected to host an orgy.

Forget it! Tell him instead that your into domination and that if he ever brings the subject up again he'll be singing in the boys choir.

Answer 6

you really do have some serious issues about sexuality....get a grip, get a life, and get yourself to the point where you like yourself. Good grief...this is as sick as they come...you make love to a man and talk about a woman while doing it?????? you are quite the catch, aren't you?

Answer 7

if you are comfortable with it, do it if its with a girl that u like,

if it doenst feel right..dont do it!!

good luck!