She has burns on her arms and back; and a little on her face. I know that kids can sometimes be cruel. How can I help her deal with other kids reactions to her injuries? She is in fourth grade and will be home-schooled for about 3 weeks. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
2007-02-02 09:07:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
her grandfather died on 1/26/07 as a result of his injuries. I want to encourage her.
2007-02-02 09:08:43 · update #1
I think first step would be to ask your child how she feels what her fears are and things like that? You may be worried about more than she is. Kids are a lot more resilient than you think they are.
First things first. I would see if you can find another burn vicitm in your area who may have suffered the same type or same degree burns as your daughter. That would be willing to talk to her and maybe hang out a little. This gives her someone to talk to about how she feels, that has "been there". She can ask questions and etc too.
Secondly I would ask her how she would feel about giving some small presentation in class, or have you do it after a couple weeks of being back. Most kids will be more curious than anything, they may be afraid she can't do the things she used too, or that she has somehow changed.
I would if it was Ok with her and the teacher do a little talk about what happened and how long she was in the hospital, and what they did...and discuss how she is different, but, she is the same. It seems kids are only scared of what they do not understand, and tend to ridicule those with differences if they haven't been explained to them.
I hope everything goes well. Tell your daughter to keep her head up, and be proud..she's a survivor.
2007-02-02 09:23:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very sorry to hear this! The best thing for this little lady to do, when she can, is get back out into life and help others. It always makes people feel better, and valued, also. Maybe way too early or young to visit nursing homes, but maybe children's hospitals or something... and do a little garden volunteer work if that's around you. And she probably needs a support person or group, people who have already been through and are dealing with the scars, both literally and physically. And try not to be too disappointed that you, Mommy, cannot be the person who understnads best. She is only 9, but she already realizes that Mom does not know everything she knows... She needs to see firsthand that this can be overcome. The sooner the better. As if you didn't have enough on your plate already, here are some time-consuming buthopefully soul-saving suggestions! Just do the best you can, and be happy for your ability to love no matter what! Bless you all.
2016-03-29 01:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry the accident happened. A house caught fire yesterday in my area and I don't know if anyone was injured. You are right when you say that kids can be cruel. I don't know anyone who hasn't been teased at some point in their life. Unfortunately, you can't really stop kids from saying anything. However, you can teach your daughter how to deal with them. Tell her to stay strong because she is beautiful the way she is. If she acts like she doesn't care about the teasing (even if she does), the other kids will most likely get bored and find a new person to torment. I had a friend who was teased and I kept telling her to stand up for herself but she would cry every time someone called her a name. As expected, the teasing continued. When I was in elementary school and someone teased me, I would beat them up! lol I don't recommend that, obviously. I wish you the best and hope she will make some good friends that will protect her.
2007-02-02 09:15:28 · answer #3 · answered by bluefairy421 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear of the tragedy that has struck your family. I would ask the school to invite a burns nurse or doctor in to explain to her class or the school or the upper year groups of the school, exactly what happens to burns victims. The school will probably ask the teachers to talk with their classes and to help the children develop an empathy towards your little girl. You will be surprised - most kids are kind hearted and those who are cruel should and probably will be treated harshly by the school. What a brave girl you have.
2007-02-02 18:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear about your daughter.There must be support groups for victims of burns.I thimk you should talk to her teacher and the principal.I am sure the teacher would talk to the class before she goes back to school .Your daughter will not have much confidence.Have you heard about a little girl in Australia called Sophie- not sure how to spell the surnameDe Lezio.She was attending kindergarten and a car ploughed into the building and she suffered horrific injuries.Talk to your daugher about other children and how they have injuries too.It may help.My prayers are with you.
2007-02-02 09:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. This is a period of time when your daughter will find out who her real friends are. Do the other kids in school know what happened? This might make her return to school a bit easier. If any other kids give her a hard time about her appearance, she can simply explain what happened and hopefully, that will be the end of it. Her true friends will accept her for who she is, not for what she looks like. God Bless.
2007-02-02 09:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by crazydave 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. Some children are going to be cruel. Your daughter is going to have to learn early about strength of character, true friendships and inner beauty. Therapy can help a lot with this. A therapist can stay emotionally detached when it is impossible for a parent to do so. I will keep you both in my prayers and thoughts.
2007-02-02 09:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 48 years old I have a big red birth mark on my face( big red birthmark )some thing it's a burn.
yes kids can and will be cruel, but i find it because of the unknown.
not like some adults that are just ignorant and hate-full.
the thing about kids that i have figured out is that thy don't know how to ask,and that makes them sound cruel at times.
I find that thy are more interested in how i got my mark then the mark it self,once I tell them what it is and how I got it and that it does not hurt me there okay with it. ( I see it as teaching them something)
Now your going to meet some little shi*'s that are just as ignorant as their parents and that's from up bring ( the apple does not fall far from the tree).
and them I just over look and your daughter will come to understand that.
Its going to be hard for her and you, I wish you both lots of love and luck.
If you feel like emailing me please do.
And to all you with the OMG "CAN IT" we don't need you waking up to us say OMG, try just look at use like any other person.
If you need to ask , ask but don't OMG us.
2007-02-02 09:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by ღ♥ஐcookie1ஐ♥ღ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Refrain from smoking in the house.
Smoking in the house is the biggest cause of home fires resulting in fatalities in the USA.
Your daughter will be skittish around fire for a while, so don't expose her to any unneccessarily.
2007-02-02 09:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
omg im so sorry... that is terrible... you should just be very supportive and encouraging, they have support groups for people w burns, it may help her to see others like her, and see that it could have been worse. maybe tell her everything happens for a reason and maybe she can help other children with her story... good luck
2007-02-02 09:12:05 · answer #10 · answered by kellbelle21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋