I am married and he knows that I like women. He seems to be OK with that. It is so hard to meet gay women and if I get to know any they dont want anything to do with me! Should I just forget about the whole women thing and keep on with my life? What about me wanting to be girls? Any similar situations? any advice? how do I meet women that wont care about me being married???? Serious answers please.
2007-02-02 09:06:43 · 14 answers · asked by quentina_tarantina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's a bunch of questions in there.
Why are you married to him, if you want to have an affair? Why would you think that a gay woman would want to have a relationship with you, if you're already in a relationship? Any woman that doesn't care about you being married is a woman to avoid - stay well clear. If they don't mind you being married, perhaps they assume you won't mind that they haven't been tested for STDs?
If your husband is OK with it, then share that experience with him. Get him to take you to a swinging club, and then cast your eyes around. If you find someone you like, take her off to a private room. Your husband doesn't have to join in if you don't want him to, but he'll still feel involved. Otherwise, aren't you being very unfair on him?
2007-02-02 09:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Peach S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can only imagine the response you're going to get to this one! First question is the obvious one: Is your husband going to participate in your quest to find women? Are you interested in a swinging lifestyle where you are allowed and encouraged to have sex with both your husband AND other women? Because if not, and if your husband isn't interested in sharing his wife with other people (which I certainly wouldn't fault him for) then I suggest you take a long hard look in the mirror and ask yourself what's more important? Your husband and your marriage? Or your bisexuality?
2007-02-02 09:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, I have had a girlfriend for a little over seven years of whom I greatly adore. I got married about five and a half years ago to a man that I love more than anyone or anything. He understands my affection for my girlfriend and doesn't have a problem with it because it never conflicts with our relationship, either sexually or emotionally.
My girlfriend and I are very close, but close in a different way than my husband and I. There is never, never a conflict between the two and I will never let there be.
My girlfriend is engaged and her fiance knows about us and is fine with the situation because she has assured him there will never be conflict between myself and his relationship with her.
If you're serious about meeting a woman who doesn't have a problem with your marriage and doesn't feel threatened by it, you will meet her, just have patience. If you find yourself attracted to a girl, flirt with her, let her know your married, and see how things progress from there.
Good luck!!
Betty
2007-02-02 09:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on your husband, if he is okay with the notion, and you are sure there are no jealousies that may pop up, or a possibility that you and a g/f will decide to take off together and leave him, then its conscentual. Personally I believe if you're married to a man, seems you made your choice, maybe you are unhappy and should be single too, theres so many ways to answer this question
2007-02-02 09:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever talked to your husband about bringing another female into bed with the two of you? That way you get what you are longing for and he gets some too. Also that way you two are not cheating on each other. Find a local singers group. They are all over. Good luck and have fun.
2007-02-02 09:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you like women doesn't mean you have to act on those feelings. If my wife was bisexual, and she had like sex or something with another woman, I would consider it cheating. Yes forget about it. There is only one person you should be with, and that is your husband. I personally see someone being with someone other than their spouse or lover a cheater. This is just my opinion though.
2007-02-02 09:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by Donovan G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you serious? If more women were like you, men would never need to divorce. Don't go out there looking for the "Butch" looking chick. You need to find a hottie that is bi and then both of you will be set.
2007-02-02 09:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if your husband is okay with it(which would be strange if he wasn't) You should offer to go through a sexual situation with him and another woman. If he were not crazy, he would definately not object and would enjoy it. And it might even help you deal with your raging attraction.
2007-02-02 09:10:29 · answer #8 · answered by dexbomb118 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welll if u want to live normally go with just live life as it is forget about women but since im not a gilr that gay and not s guy that is gay im not sure
2007-02-02 09:10:44 · answer #9 · answered by msdan99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby me and my husband are swingers. Get my cake and eat it it too..oops bad pun... ha ha.. talk to husband and see if he will go with that. It takes alot of talking and understanding and setting down guidelines.
2007-02-02 09:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by texlatina1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋