I am married and he knows that I like women. He seems to be OK with that. It is so hard to meet gay women and if I get to know any they dont want anything to do with me! Should I just forget about the whole women thing and keep on with my life? What about me wanting to be girls? Any similar situations? any advice? how do I meet women that wont care about me being married???? Serious answers please.
2007-02-02 08:58:21 · 10 answers · asked by quentina_tarantina 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Been there, done that. The best thing you can do is check out other bi-women. Gay women want you for themselves. Bi-women understand that the committed man relationship is a commitment. Does this make sense to you?
2007-02-02 09:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by crystal89431 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not go off of a "he seems to be OK with that.", as that usually is the initial step in misunderstanding and hurt feelings, etc. So are you going to have him join in on the sex or not? If not, then is it OK for him to go and play around? You must realize that it can not be a one way street, that you get to go and play and he gets nothing. And please do not use the excuse that you are just wanting to experiment, then if that is the case and he is OK with it, then he also must be allowed to do the same with no repercussions from you.
It must be mutual. I know a lot of women who are in relationships but just have the odd interaction with another woman. They do not think of it as cheating, however it still is if the partner does not know about it and has not said they are OK with it. This probably is not the answer you are looking for however.
2007-02-02 17:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm happy to hear that you have been open w/ your husband and it's good that he's understanding. You need to decide what makes you happy. Have you considered swinging or trying threesomes with your husband? Check some on-line hook-up services that might help you find women with similar interests in your area. Good luck to you both! :)
2007-02-02 17:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by SDTerp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a lot of lesbians who are just out for casual sex. The only thing of it is, if you want to marry that guy, its only fair to him to be faithful to only him.
It depends. If he is okay with it, you can be him and see what you can do to compromise with being with women too.
Honestly, my own opinions it that if you like women, its only fair to him to be with him.
I have a married lesbian friend. She is married and she goes out with women. Her husband understands, but its hard because a lot of lesbians don't like the "attatchment" of a man behind you.
Then if you decide you like a girl a LOT, what about him? would you leave him for her?
Just a thought...
2007-02-02 17:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman to a woman is kind of like chocolate to a woman. Once you have a woman you have to have more because of the fact that women are passionate lovers. If you are lacking a passionate relationship with your man then turning to a woman is going to happen. Try telling your husband he needs to be passionate like a woman.
2007-02-03 13:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by jes_e_lou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your husband ok with you having affairs with women? Have you discussed it fully with him? If he is ok with it and you are ok with it then it is your relationship and do what ever you want with it. If you want to meet other women then I suggest lesbian bars or lesbian/bi chat rooms. I'm sure you will find plenty of willing participants to indulge your fantasies.
2007-02-02 17:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a popular website called Swingtowns.com
There are a lot of people on there that have bi-sexual wives and they are looking to meet, have a look there. Good luck!
2007-02-02 17:13:32 · answer #7 · answered by James Dean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u really love your husband then just forget about it...but if u're feeling that u're not too interested in him anymore or as before try to date a women....and i think if it's meant to be like this then she'll come to you...
2007-02-02 17:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by prolecto 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that you should forget about others. You are married and therefore committed yourself to your husband. If you want your marriage to be truly lasting, you should commit ALL your love to him and don't even think of anyone else, boy or girl. And he should be willing to do the same for you.
2007-02-02 17:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by rbarc 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are married. You made a decision to be in a monogamous relationship you need to stick to it. Otherwise, you shouldn't have gotten married.
2007-02-02 17:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by Kharm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋