My best friend who has always been there for me is starting to change. we have other friends, that are sort of more popular. She's the stronger person, im the more sensitive. shes been hanging around them more and i feel if she had to choose between them and me she would choose them. maybe its becuase im not as cool or funny as everyone else, but still we have fun together and are close. we talked about how we'd always have each others backs no matter who turns on us and how we'd always have each other when there is drama at school. what should i do to win her back? shes a great person.
2007-02-02 08:51:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
do something good to her.
2007-02-02 08:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by Gruntled Employee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww ... I'm sorry to hear that honey. Well, you're not going to "win" her back. She is changing, as are you during this important time in both of your lives. I'm assuming you're in high school since you mentioned school and also because of her behavior. You're going to need to talk to your friend and let her know how you're feeling. I was the same way in High School. Not neccessarily popular but I had a few friends - and all of em left me for the more popular kids. It's just a part of life sweetie. Perhaps you could get involved in some activities that you can meet some new kids who share the same interests as you do. And your friend - don't give up on her - unless she begins to treat you badly - but just let her know that you are there for her and would like for her to be there for you as well. She's not thinking about what a great friend you are because she's had you for so long. Once those popular people leave her in some kind of trouble - she'll be coming to you asking for advice. I hope it all works out for you ... I'd hate to see best friends torn apart by small stuff - but then again ... that's high school for you baby. good luck!
2007-02-02 08:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if she is a really good friend you should be able to tell her how you are feeling in a non accusing way of course. Most times those "other" friends come and go but if you have the close relationship that you say she will always come back to you.
Overtime just like any relationship friendships grow and change. I have a best friend for over 17 years and during that time our friendship has changed and evolved about a thousand times but we remain close. We finally realized that changes aren't necessarily a bad thing and having other friends gives us an appreciation of our friendship. So I would talk to her and then let it go for now.
2007-02-02 09:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your friend and let her know that latly you been feeling left out! Tell her how much you care about her and dont want to lose her friendship!
Just remeber that everyone goes through changes and sometimes different friends connect in different ways and there is nothing wrong with that. Even if she is friends with someone else doesnt mean that she is not your friend also.
If she happens to be hanging out with someone else why not get with another friend and hang out or all of you hang out together as a group?! Now is a good time to connect with other friends and meet new friends. good luck.
2007-02-02 09:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to get some other friends. I dont know how old you are but Im 20 and graduated like 2 years ago...I dont talk to any of my best friends. Well at the most one of them I talk to and that's not very often at all...
Try to make as many friends as you can and if one kicks you to the curb it doesnt matter because a true friend will always be there for you
2007-02-02 09:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by jobruce86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar problem. Right now you two are still close. Keep it that way. So she has other friends there's nothing wrong with that. It may seem like she likes them better but it's probally just jealousy. IF it comes down to her really choosing them over you then she's not worth having around. But true friends ar e hard to come by so try to keep her close. You should never have to win your friend back...
2007-02-02 09:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by elie101_forever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my word i am pretty much going through the same exact thing. i know how you feel. when my best freind goes off with the upper classmen or the "popular" girls, i find another group of girls who i am in sports and classes with. ive actually made some more really good freinds that i can hang out with any time. my best friend is still my best friend. but now we each have other groups we hang out with sometimes. we still talk alot and go to each other's houses, but i also now have a few more girls i can do that with too.
2007-02-02 08:58:31 · answer #7 · answered by Mace Face 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, has your friend said anything to you that she would prefer her other friends to you? Probably not. I think you're just making too much out of this whole situation. She's entitled to have other friends. Enjoy the time you have together. I don't think you need to "win her back." If she's any kind of friend, she'll always be there for you.
2007-02-02 08:58:24 · answer #8 · answered by Forceof1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything you SHOULD do to win her back. If it's a true relationship, you and her should stay tight. But, if she likes those other dudes better, then i dont know what to say.
Just don't go and try and act like someone your not just so she can hang out with you more. Talk to her about it and tell her how you feel.
CALL HER RIGHT NOW :]
2007-02-02 08:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by __racer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u do nothing
because it sounds as if u are a great person and u two seem to have fun
if she seems to have fun with ur other friends more than she does with u trust me u have nothing to worry about because u might have a quality in ur personality that mobody else has in theirs so she wouldnt trade u in not if shes a true friend
2007-02-02 08:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by Fellinlovetoday 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st of all if ur friend want to dumb u for some loser's juss because ur popular dosen't makes u great cause dat dnt do nothing wit having a friendship.......if ur friend can't accept u for who u iz den find some else but u won't do dat cuz u probably knw her better...it's not worth ur time to try to get her bck if she dnt want to be ur friend...also one day she come bck when her little loser popular friends dnt have her bck in an argument or fight.....all i got to say iz dnt stress it
2007-02-02 08:57:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋