Okay, here is my story. I was engaged and pregnant when i found out the my fiancee was cheating on me. I moved out within a week with my 5yr old son & pregnant with his 2nd child. Exactly 1 month I was to have my daughter. The day that i found out was the biggest shock of my life. I confronted him and he admitted to me that he had messed around with her. She was a co-worker who worked with him and right after we were engaged ,he started a new job that was very different to his previous jobs. I was not us to having women around him nor did i trust him around women. So i asked my sister for advise and told her that everytime he came home he would always talk about this person more than anything and i was jealous. So she said get to know her because u might be wrong about this person. So i finally met her & right off the bat my gut was telling me that she was going to be trouble. Sure enough i envited her to my home and got to know her. We even tried hooking her up with a friend of ours.
2007-02-02 08:50:03 · 25 answers · asked by Faith23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only you will be able to figure that out.
2007-02-02 08:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone hurts you that bad it feels like you will never be able to trust again, it might take a year or so but if he really loves you he will do what it takes to gain your trust back even if it means keeping his mouth shut when your having a bad day and hurling out the past because it will happen but at the end of the day love each other help your relationship heal don't bug him about every women that comes his way but do keep one eye open all the time until you feel secure also your gut instinct is the best a women i think can tell if her man is cheating hopefully he learned what really matters his family some men just get scared and dumb and make a mistake I hope everything works out for you and your family.
2007-02-09 15:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by LuvnLife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let me tell you this "once a cheater always a cheater" Now I know that sounds so cheesy and you have heard it before.What you have to consider now is okay if he knew we have one child together and another on the the way, not only that but all I have been feeling with this pregnancy (discomfort, weight gain,pains etc.) and he still has the heart (HEART) to do this.That is where you have to think twice. He is heartless girl. And only if you really nip it in the butt and get him to the point that you (you ) not him are completely sure that he is sincere and ready to be a real father and partner to you.Than can you trust him ,but even then be ready and girl keep your guard up because you would be surprised about how cold hearted a man could be.If he did not care the first time he will not the next (unless you st rick him emotionally good the first time) sorry girl but men for some reason are strange.I don't know why but unfortunately they are. Good luck! much Love to ya and good luck with your baby!
2007-02-09 19:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by JLIN28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time a man or woman cheats is the hardest, after that the guilty feelings seem to disappear. Once a cheat always a cheat. If he were truly sorry he'd seek counseling on his own. In this day and age our world is filled with self serving people who could care less about who they hurt. It's not even desired to turn into something more, only the thrill of the hunt and the risk of being caught. Once that's over they lose interest and lives are destroyed. Start a new healthy life for you and your children. You deserve 100%; nothing less. God bless.
2007-02-07 13:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by #1 saints fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're asking this question, then chances are, you don't want to leave him and that's to be understood. You have your kids to think about and you have your heart to think about. If he was that dirty to mess around right there under your nose then chances are he will do it again and again. There's a reason this man have to seek sex in different places.Most importantly, he gave no regards to you carrying his child to do such a low thing and then admit to it.I know you would like for your family to be together,but you won't ever trust him again. In fact, he's not gonna give you time to except this before he's doing something else. Most of the time men will tell on themselves. If they talk constantly about that one person all of the time, then look out. You should NEVER invite a female to your home. If they gonna cheat, let them work at it. Don't put the woman on a silver platter and serve it to them.
2007-02-09 15:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married to this man, or just living with him?
You made a flaw. You should have never invited this woman to your home. And why get involved with someone you can't trust? Being in a relationship/marriage is all about being honest with each other.
I don't care what people think, once a cheater- always a cheater.
You can do better. And don't do that to your children. What kind of role model is their father? Be the bigger person and let your kids see that.
2007-02-02 09:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you forgive and 'trust' him again, that thought will always be in the back of your mind. Things will never be the same. I'm not saying it's impossible, but the time it will take to get back to a good level in the marriage will take a toll on you and your family. The one good thing is that he admitted his fault unlike many others out there who will lie to your face and deny everything. It's up to you to decide how much you're willing to forgive and forget and see if he's really worth forgiving. Think of you children and your future with and without him. Each situation is different, you know him and what he is capable of now. Good Luck, stay positive.
2007-02-02 08:59:27 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think in your letter you have answered your own question. You said you didn't trust him around women....why not? Because you already knew you couldn't trust him.
And having children with a man who hasn't really made any comittment to you is just fooling yourself. and you said you knew "she" was going to be trouble. What about him? He was trouble already.
Wake up and stop spending time on this guy. He will just cheat on you again and he's not worth it. Find a man who you can trust.
2007-02-08 16:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that takes the cake yep i would have spotted it right away. trust him again no way. i would never trust someone again regardless tehy will lie once they will do it again. its just they dont' really care or they would never had done it to begin with and you trying to fix this woman up are you a joke? i mean what are you doing? well hey, i wonder i bet you are on your way to being single if you aren't you'd best be and get on with your life with your kids there are more honest men out there you have to lok and then find a real person.
2007-02-09 17:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are all different to a certain extent, but to another certain extent they are very much alike. Take men for example, up until the age of about 40, they cannot help but take all the sex they can get. It is genetic. After the age of 40, most will chill out and be faithful, then at about 50, I hear they get freaked out because they haven't had any strange for 10 years and start it all over again.
Basically what I am telling you is that no matter what man you end up with, the chances are he is going to cheat. It is a genetic trait that can rarely be supressed.
On the female side, women are programmed to be faithful UNTIL something upsets their programming. For example, you are genetically programmed to be faithful to your man, your home and your children, but if your man were to leave you, it is within your programming to accept almost ANY man you feel safe around as a sexual mate. It is just the way it is at the most fundamental level of human existence.
So, you can leave the guy for cheating, but the chances are slim that you will find another man who would not cheat given half the chance.
2007-02-02 09:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Maybe, but after sometime.take a time off with your man,let him know life without you and viseversa.You need to spend sometime alone to assess your situation you cant continue living with him bearing all the hurt & pain because it will make things worst like each time he comes home late you will remind him of his dishonesty.as you find the path leading to healing and forgiveness that is the only time you can go back to relationship.
2007-02-08 22:00:02 · answer #11 · answered by jing v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋