Is Child Support just another form of Welfare and a way for exes to hang onto the former spouse or lover?

Question

Why should society have to take the burden for a domestic situation? These are free services that my tax dollars have to support.

Also, as far as in the "best interest of the child" is concerned, if that is the case, why doesn't the children become beneficiaries of the money if the Custodial Parent dies, especially when they are adults and arrears are owed?

I worked IV-D cases for years, and society does pay for the services (a lot) to maintain Child Support services.

And the men and women who collect (CP's) believe they are entitled to services and get angry if you cannot locate the NCP. As if it is the Child Support Office's fault they procreated with someone irresponsible.

Untrue Ms. Lain, is the CP dies the Child Support order is terminated since one of the parties has died. The new CP has to apply for another order.

Okay everyone, who pays for the office space, workers, supplies, court fees, court time, and if the CP accuses the wrong man, DNA tests....it is the tax payers. No money is taken from the Child Support payments to pay for all of these services. It is the tax payers.

Answer 1

AMEN SISTER! no kidding! i think the parent who has the child should get out and work for the money required to provide. a good parent will assist in monetary needs, a neglectful parent will run and skip out on child support, anyway! then you and i pay tons of dollars to try to find these deadbeats! my dollars are paying for someone to use welfare money to pay for a private eye to look for a deadbeat dad who will never be found! Shouldn't she call it a loss and go out and work like the rest of us???

Answer 2

Child support is NOT welfare, and society does not have to take the burden for a domestic situation. Child support is most often paid by the non-custodial parent to help provide for the child's needs. How on earth did you get welfare from that?

Your second question is incomprehensible, so I'm really guessing at what you mean when I'm answering this question. Whoever becomes the guardian of the child after the custodial parent dies will be the one who receives the child support, so that they have the resources they need to take care of the child. When children are adults, they can support themselves and no longer need child support.

Answer 3

Well, I don't take child support but I do believe a man or woman (which ever the case may be) should pay it. I don't think it is only the women's job or just the man's job to support a child that belongs to two people.
It cost a lot of money to put food on the table, clothes on their back, keep them in school (yes in my state, you have to pay for public school), take them to the doctor and so on and so on. I think I heard a statistic that said it cost half a million to raise a child and that was only the basics, not including "mom, can I go to the movies?".

I'm not sure I understand the second half of the question. If you are saying that all your parents belongings went to their spouse instead of you, then that is because their spouse paid for half of everything and if your parent wanted it differently then they would have to put that in a will. Not sure but I'm guessing that is what you meant. I'm sure all child support was spent raising you so none of that would be left.

It sounds like you've had a bad experience. I hate to hear that, the system isn't set up to be unfair but sometimes people make it that way.

Answer 4

You're mistaken - society does not take the burden for a domestic situation - the non-custodial parent does. It is their responsibility to help take care of their child, and many times it has nothing to do with the custodial parent. The state can and will step in to order child support - the custodial parent cannot refuse it because it is not for them, it is for the child.

As far as children becoming beneficiaries -this may vary from state to state, or on a case by case basis.

Although I do think that some child support - such as that paid by NBA players and some actors - is ridiculous. It doesn't cost hundreds of thousands a year to raise ANY child.

Answer 5

child support is the way society is dealing with removing themselves from the burden of a domestic situation. No parent should be able to walk off from a child, just because the "adults" aren't getting along.

Plus the support isn't ordered until the divorce is final. Unless the other parent is on public assistance. There is no arrears to cover the time the abandoning parent left till the divorce is final.

Which in my personal experience was a yrs time he kept delaying the divorce, I filed in dec 02, went to the parenting classes in Jan 03. He made his decision and I was willing to let him go as it was the second time pulling such a stunt.

If it is used as a way to hold on to a individual then its a rather expensive route. The only satisfaction I get out of it is the other woman now has to deal with him sending money to me each month. And the stress he gets from sending it he now takes out on her. Lives 6 hrs away so not my problem anymore.

Answer 6

Child support is money paid by one parent toward the support and care of dependent children, who live with the custodial parent or guardian. It is not welfare. If you are referring to social services (welfare) paid as Aid to Dependent Children, then, yes tax payers do pay toward that. The children are innocent in the problems of the family. They need to be fed and housed, if a parent cannot do it then the tax payer must. As for the second portion of your question, I don't have an answer for that as I am not sure what you mean.

Edit: Laughing Libra, what are you suggesting then: should we allow these children to suffer because of the problems of their parents. Tax payers money is well spent in these cases. Millions of dollars of tax payer money is wasted on frivilous spending programs but this isn't one. The children are our future, if we don't take care of their welfare then what will happen. Look for another waste of money to rally against. Not being nasty, just disagreeing with you. ok.

Answer 7

If two people have sex and produce a child, someone has to see that that child is supported and has the things he or she needs to survive. If they are married and there is a divorce, which ever parent is ordered to pay child support should pay it. This money is not coming from your tax dollars. It's coming from the income that one of the parents is working for. It sounds as though you think that no parent should be responsible for the children they produce. By all means, if you make them, you should be responsible for them until they are of age.

Answer 8

Child support is not a welfare plan, it is a way the absent parent pays for the care of his child/children to the other parent. We as tax payers do not pay for this service to parents that get chils support. The absent parent is charged for this service and the payment are usually garnished from their paychecks and there tax returns are taken from them.

Answer 9

Huh? Child support is paid for by one divorcee to another, to help support the care of children. The transaction takes place entirely between the two ex-married parties. What tax dollars of yours are being spent other than those involved in enforcement of the contract (police), establishment of the contract (judicial system), which come in to play any time there is a contractual dispute?

Or are you trying to talk about something totally different?

Answer 10

Child Support is nothing like welfare. Child support is paid by the noncustodial parent to the parent that has custody to help take care of the needs of the child/children that he/she helped bring into the world. Child Support has nothing to do with your tax dollars.

Answer 11

Ideally child support is parents being responsible for their children. When abused, it forces either one parent to shoulder the burden of child rearing alone; or it financially punishes one parent through over-stating the financial needs of the child.