Hello,
I wanted to know if anyone can give me some ideas on how win over my boyfriend's parents. He's indian and I'm hispanic (dominican). We have been dating for three years and we love each other and want to get marry. I'm a little scare that his parents won't accept that and don't know what to do. Any one have any ideas on what I can do to win them over????
Thanks a bunch!
2007-02-02 08:36:33 · 14 answers · asked by buttercup 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It all depends on how committed your boyfriend is to your relationship and what his relationship is with his parents. Some Indian parents are accepting and a lot are (closed-minded) not. It really comes down to how much your boyfriend loves you and wants to be with you. Mine is such a sad, sad story...I am still crying : (
2007-02-02 13:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by cj.blue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hey hey girl well if your bf is indian as in eastern indian like coming from india then you sure did get some really rediculous answers. i am an indian girl and i would tell you this there are a lot of indian families who wont accept a foreigner for their daughter in law .but on the other hand there are families who will gladly accept you. now if you are getting into marriage then i assume you are old enough to realise it will take a lot of effort on your and your bf's part to make this marriage work because we indians believe that when there is a marriage its not two ppl who get married but its two famalies that get married. you will have to keep in mind each other's backgrounds and differences. besides every part of india follows a different custom we are very largely diversified and i dont know which place does your bf belong to. anyways i wish you both all the very best. may god keep you two together. learning our native language hindi may be helpful if you plan on settling down in india.
2007-02-02 08:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by AZAIRA(ADITI) 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am dating an Indian guy also and I am from the USA. It is very hard because we are so culturally different. I am considered African-American because of my mother, even though my father is of mixed heritage of Caucasian and American Indian. My boyfriend is from southern India. Although we haven't been dating for nearly as long as many of you here, in our one year of dating, he has already expressed how deeply he feels and told me that he wants to take me to meet his family. He is working with me so that I can learn appropiate Indian dress, behavior, etc. so that I may compliment him and his family finds acceptance with me. He is also teaching me to make many Indian dishes and I have shared with him my interest to learn Hindi. He was very pleased with it and I also think that his family will be pleased to know that I am eager to understand their culture in order make my relationship work. He is a wonderful man who tries to always make sure I am happy and I try to do the same for him. Although I don't know everything, I think it would also be wise to ask him what he believes would impress his family. He would be the very best source of information for you on this matter since it is his family. Good luck and I hope it works out well for you!
2007-02-05 05:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by Miss M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living it - My husband and I are coming up on our seventh wedding anniversary. His parents are from an arrange marriage and I'm sure they would have preferred him to marry and Indian girl.
What helped for me was genuine interest in his religion and culture. I asked his mom to teach me to cook some Indian dishes too. I asked lots of questions and bit my tongue many of times. as with any In-laws, choose your battles wisely. I felt like an outsider many of times especially when they would speak in their language but I think my positive you can't upset me attitude really helped me through it It is what it is we decided it would work so they had to except me.
Bottom line is you are marring him so keep the discussion between the two of you open and realise and except the cultural differences. Best to you!
2007-02-04 13:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Sandra D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For boys it will be 20% and women 10%.it really is harsh on their area to exhibit distinction yet reality.they dont count number on bf and gf type relationship cos they're orthodox and prefer organize marriage
2016-10-17 04:53:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is a great guy, and has all the qualities that make someone a wonderful person, don't worry. If he was raised to be a fine young man, chances are his parents are the people who taught him to be who he is. You just be yourself. If he loves you they will love you.
2007-02-02 08:46:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself when you meet them, but dress to impress do not show to much skin, or wear too tight clothes wear a skirt or dress, and remember their son loves you and wants to marry you. Good luck i am sure everything will be ok.
2007-02-02 08:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he Eastern Indian or Native American?
2007-02-02 08:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by Audrey B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What about if you secretly start to learn how to speak in their native tongue, Indian??? I'm sure that will really make them happy..
CHEERS
2007-02-02 08:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by Minx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being yourself! and if they don't like you for who you are then it doesn't matter you are marrying your boyfriend not his parent! all that matters is that he loves you and you make each other happy
2007-02-02 08:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by Beautiful Disaster♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋