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Question

do you think it is a choice to be gay or that you are born that way i am doing an essay and my teacher beleives we are born this way i am gay and i personally believe it is a choice researchers believe it also is just a neuron that we are born with

Answer 1

you are gay and you think it was a choice you made? you are the first gay person i have ever heard say that. i was born gay. why did you choose to be gay?

Answer 2

I was born bisexual. I knew I liked girls even before I was told about homosexuality. I was little, six years old, when I figured it out. That's because that's when you start school and start playing with boys and girls at recess and start mimicking the adult relationships you see. I realized I liked this one guy, but I was really interested in this one girl. I was a very sheltered child and did not hear anything about homosexuality until middle school. I was not molested by anyone as a child and "turned" bi as a result. I was born with it.

Most researchers actually believe that being homosexual is a combination of factors, but that the beginning factor is biological. Someone else who answered you gave you a very good description of it so I won't get into it. People also say environmental factors add to this, and maybe that's true for some but for me there were no environmental cues that led to this. But even if it is a factor a child cannot control their environment so it's still not a choice. Just like a child doesn't choose to be fat or skinny. Part of it is genetically based, and part of it is what the parents feed the kid. There is no choice on the kid's part.

As for why so many kids come out to themselves as teenagers well until your body hits puberty there really is no sex drive. There is no huge hormonal push to be attracted to anyone. And dating isn't a big deal yet. So it would be easy to go through elementary school not realizing that you liked your own gender, and then realizing it as all these other factors come into play.

Also read the really good stuff other people wrote here about sexuality being on a continuum and how maybe some people just choose to ignore one part of their attraction. It's good stuff.

But all the stuff you're getting here you probably can't use in your essay because your teacher probably wants you to use articles. So go ahead and look up articles about the stuff people wrote about here. Good luck on your essay!

Answer 3

You say that you know that researchers already believe that it is not a choice.

I do not think it is a choice; someone would not choose the possibility of being fired from a job due to being gay, possibly being denied an apartment or home mortgage due to being gay in some places, being denied hospital visitation for a hospitalized partner by not being immediate family, being denied the option to file joint taxes with a partner since they are unable to marry, or being unable to inherit a partners estate without being taxed at a higher rate because they are not married.

Some small minded people hate with such a passion that they constantly go around saying how wrong and bad gay people are, and if it were a choice one would simply choose to not be gay. The reason people do not do so is because it is not a choice. For some people the attraction to the same sex is 100% and there is absolutely no choice in the matter.

You may want to look at the articles I have under sources; they show that some things done towards gay people are something that nobody would choose to have done to them.

Answer 4

Most research has supported that there is a biological component as well as an environmental component. I don't know of any reliable research that suggests it's a "choice" as such just as you never hear anyone talk about making a choice to be heterosexual. The only choice I would agree could be perceived is the choice to live in the closet or the choice to be out and proud about who you are. Well, one other possibility regarding choice would be that sexuality is actually a continuum, (not just gay or straight but a full range of sexuality) and one may chose to ignore part of their sexual orientation. Suppose that we look at sexuality on a scale of 0-6 (following the Kinsey approach) with 0 being completely heterosexual and 6 totally homosexual. If a person is a 1 or even a 2, he or she could easily lead a heterosexual lifestyle without even detecting the "choice" made. A 3 could chose to date men or women, or chose just one or the other. I think you see where I'm going with this. But in the great scheme of things, whether you are attracted to men or women isn't a choice, but a result of genetics and environmental experiences.

Answer 5

My personal opinion is there are three aspects dealing with your question. First a genetic factor, or God's will, because to what you are attracted doesn't depends on you, it just comes, example you like chocolate cake and don't like apple pie, it just happens. Second the circumstances, how you were educated and raised, example if you grew up in a conservative way, then you will repress yourself or explode someday. And third your own choice, you can decide live your life as natural as you feel, or choose to live as others tell you is better.
Personal comment, I think the more natural we all see being gay is just another diversity of nature the more peacefully our environment will become.

Answer 6

I think that I did not choose it. I think that it is a VERY common, and perhaps even dangerous false dichotomy in our society to assume that there are only two options "choice" or "genetics". There are more ways for a trait to be biologically influenced than just genetics, and even if something is influenced by environment, that doesn't mean it's a CHOICE, nor does it necessarily mean it can be undone. You can't untoast bread.


I know I didn't choose my sexuality, and I know I can't change it. Beyond that, I don't care.

I also don't presume to speak for anyone else; I think it's possible for someone to have the types of attractions (or potential attractions) that I would call them bisexual, but they might choose one or the other and fairly accurately say that they chose their sexuality. I know that wasn't my experience, and I don't think it's the usual experience, but I won't say it doesn't happen.

Answer 7

How about arguing that it's both, as in your case you may have simply chosen to be gay because you were born with the desire to make that choice, and saw no good reason to force yourself to ignore those desires.

Those who say there is no choice ignore the fact that one can choose to ignore some of their natural urges - which is what some of the bigoted religious types want to shame or force you into doing.

But those who say it is all choice are dead wrong and probably know in their hearts that those urges are always behind any such decisions, either to make them easy or difficult.

Answer 8

I am not gay but I can answer this question because I have several gay friends and have asked them. Some were born gay....they have been gay as long as they can remember, however I have a couple of gay friends that it was a choice after they experimented with it as teenagers, and still another who became gay after being molested by his step father. So it can be both born gay or a decision. I hope this helps you!

Answer 9

I was born gay, just like anyone else.
Why are you asking if you "personally believe it is a choice" ?

Answer 10

Tell your teacher it makes no difference if people are born gay or choose to be gay. Tell your teacher people are gay, the origin of which is inconsequential. As long as people are law abiding citizens what they do and with their willing partner in a private moment is no one elses business. All citizens are entitled to equal treatment, Justice is supposed to be blind.

Answer 11

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