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2007-02-02 08:21:51 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-02-02 08:33:14 · update #1
Wasn't my fault I was abducted by aliens
2007-02-02 08:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 6⤋
First marriage, after 5 years of being together we got married...sex had already plataued so I should have known, but about 3 years into our 5 year marriage (meaning we had alread been together 7 years) I started to let him know I needed some attention. He said get a boyfriend...so I did. Screwed around for a couple of more years and met someone.
Second marriage, about 7 years into our marriage, things just fell apart...infertility problems, drinking problems, then came the abuse, the threats, the nasty hateful, psychotic behavior. Eventually it took its toll. A friend I turned to for a shoulder to cry on and some sanity and stability in my life became more than a friend. Best thing that ever happened to me. I probably wouldn't be here today if it hadn't of been for him standing by me telling me I wasn't the crazy one.
I don't condone affairs...and I admit I'm weak. But it takes two to build a marriage, just the same as it takes two to beat it into the ground.
I don't know that I'll ever get married again...but if I do, it will be someone I can tell anything too and they won't get mad. No more jealous people in my life.
2007-02-02 08:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Fling = 1 night stand.
Affair = Friendship with occasional sex.
Relationship = Love out side of the marriage.
All of the above = cheating.
Flings have a good chance of spreading std.
Relationships interfere with love within the marriage. They will cause extreme stress.
Affairs are easy:
1. No love involved.
2. + No yesterdays.
3. + No tomorrows. = Nothing to interfere with the moment.
Enjoying friendship, conversation and gratification. Just good friends that have occasional sex with no strings attached. Enjoy the moment because it is one more time in your life that was good. Anytime I can have a perfect evening I will take it and remember it. (It only happened 1 time in 22 yrs. and lasted about 3 wks. but it was real good and I don't feel guilty at all.) We are still good friends and talk and laugh together occasionally.
My wife is still the love of my life and always will be.
2007-02-02 09:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by The 5 pound Robin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never had an extramarital affair in the sense that I slept with another. However, I did kiss his best friend up...I tell myslef that it was becasue my husband never pays attention to me except to berate and criticize me. So, I felt soooooo guilty afterward, I would never do that again. Although sometimes the thought does cross my mind when he treats me like sh*t.
2007-02-02 08:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by LaRae 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i felt that my marriage was going to fail anyways. there were alot of problems that just wouldnt go away and i actually felt alone. after, i felt like crap and realized it had really screwed me up inside even though my wife never found out. i realized that i was still in love with her and never wanted to be with another person no matter what i thought. because even though there were many problems i realized i still had many reasons to love my wife. and at the end of the affair which was only a week and i ended it, i brought myself to the conclusion that i would seek counseling in order to try and save my marriage even if i had to try and do it alone. lesson: affairs dont make you feel as good as you think they do. they actually make you feel worst and no matter what reasons you had to have one. well those reason are not important anymore because you can forgive someone for almost anything but an affair is something that is almost guaranteed to never be forgiven!!!
2007-02-02 08:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Marriage involves promises, vows between two people. So, going outside of this agreement is a betrayal of those promises and a breach of trust. Views on sex outside of marriage are a matter of morals, religious belief, etc. So, the majority of those who have religious beliefs about sexual boundaries within marriage have laws that are the same for single or married. Sex belongs between the married partners. The Bible is just as strong about sexual purity (fornication) in single people as it is about adultery outside the marriage. This is true for many religions. Putting all the religious views out of this, then it comes down to the promises between two people who have committed to a life together. Even "Open" marriages still seem to have agreements between the spouses about what is and is not accepted behavior. What is considered betrayal is between the couple. When someone is single, then it is their own choice and they are not betraying vows made to another who trusts them. What they do is between them and their own belief system, not dragging another person into the mess. No one is forced to be married or make promises to another. Asking another to give you their heart and ask them to trust you with their life. It is a horrible emotional trauma for most who find out that their spouse has betrayed that trust. It's not fair to the spouse or even the other person in this triangle. So, if marriage between a couple includes the agreement exclude outside partners, then it is a betrayal to cheat. If someone will not honor their commitment, then they should stay single. Keep their lifestyle choice their own. Not living a secret second life and hurting others.
2016-03-15 04:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for over 14 years.I have never had an extramarital affair because my husband is my entire world.I live my live my life to be with him..In my heart..In my mind..No one would ever be able to take his place.
2007-02-02 09:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by noga 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because I was taken for granted, and unhappy, and ignored in my marriage and someone I'd known my whole life and trusted completely took the opportunity to confuse me even more by saying all the things I needed to hear at the time.
I was weak. That's why. But....got tested again in my second marriage, and I've passed the tests with flying colors. Found out the game, and that the price is not worth paying to screw up.
2007-02-02 08:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Was very close to having an affair because he constantly lied and used me as his punching bag. I fell in love with a close friend and together with his strength I was able to ask for a divorce. Once we separated, the friend and I then started our relationship... I guess you could say I had an emotional love affair in the beginning...
2007-02-02 10:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by dekahf 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have not but came close. The reason why was because my husband is gone for long periods of time and the phone thing just had not been working the way it use to be so I decided to talk to other guys but not have intercourse with them. I felt bad shortly after and havent done anything like that since. I guess I was just lonely and feeling sorry for myself.
2007-02-02 08:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by Jan l 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Many people have affairs for seperate reasons. Some do because the love and attention is missing at home. Some do it purely for sexual reasons. I think mainly though it is from missing things in life. We all need love and attention.
2007-02-02 08:25:41 · answer #11 · answered by beaches 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋