he refuses to wear a condom, i have told him, he will have to if he wants to have sex with me, i mean i love him and all but what should i do, i am ot ready for any little ancle bitters(kids) or anything like that. but i DO love him, what should i do?? he keeps telling me he will pull out, but that isnt very effective, and so i just wanna no what you all have to say about this, im 14. his friends keeps telling me im a prude and i'll never get any if i dont go ahead with him (( shows wat he nos, when i was in south africa, the guys were practecly thowing them selves at me)) but what should i do?
2007-02-02 08:17:14 · 64 answers · asked by i mis all my m8s in south africa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i was hoping nobody would ask his age, hes 17
2007-02-02 08:25:29 · update #1
every time we speak on the phone or online hes always asking me. if i was still in africa i wouldnt be having this problem ((we dont usually talk about this kind of thing untill we r atleast out of high school, well at the school i went to atleast))
2007-02-02 08:41:20 · update #2
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This loser only want you for sex ... when he gets what he want he's going to leave you, hunting for his next prey ... NO GLOVE NO LOVE !!!!!!!!
2007-02-05 07:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by Brownskin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest giving these a thorough read:
Good Friends--Bad Friends http://watchtower.org/e/20041208/article_01.htm
You Can Remain Chaste in an Immoral World ...
- Thinking Ability to Protect you
> Beware of a Smooth Palate
- Too High a Price
- "Drink Water out of Your Own Cistern"
- Need for Self-Control
- "His Own Errors Will Catch the Wicked"
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2000/7/15/article_01.htm
What's Wrong With Premarital Sex?
- What Fornication Includes
- Serious Threats
- Learning Self-Control
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/7/22a/article_01.htm
Teen Pregnancy :
- Mothers Too Soon
- A Global Tragedy
- Facing the Challenges of Teen Motherhood
- Help and Protection for Young Ones
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/10/8/article_01.htm
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2007-02-02 18:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 14? Why are you even thinking about sex? Think of it this way, you can't be a kid and raise one too. You need to wait until you are older, more mature and hopefully married. Also think, you're 14, is there a chance you won't be with him in the future that you will find somebody better for you that isn't trying to force you into something you don't want to that there is someone who will respect and actually love you. Also think, what if you were to get pregnant (It's does happen even with a condom, it happened to me a few months ago), what would you do? What would he do? Would he stay with you? Where would you live?
Just put more thought into it before you commit yourself to anything this life changing, especially at such a young age.
2007-02-02 08:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by Monica T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is wants to have sex with you and he refuses to wear a condom then HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU. You are a very smart girl for deciding to practise safe sex. If you choose to have sex with him without using a condom then you do not only risk pregnancy but you can contract other sexually transmitted diseases. He will probably tell you that he is clean. But did you know that many people who have genital warts do not even know
that they have it but they carry the virus. Remember, No Glove No Love!
If I were you I wouldn't even have sex with this guy because he does not deserve you with or without a condom. The fact that he would even put you in a situation like this and pressure you shows how little he cares about you. And don't worry about never being able to get "any" from anyone else for there are a lot more men out there who would be pleased to wear a condom to protect their partner and themselves.
It might be helpful for you to to look at these websites;
http://www.avert.org/teencondoms.htm
2007-02-02 09:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by white_pussy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok your 14 first of all. second if ur going to have sex do it responsibly and accept the consequences. third i think u shouldnt let the peer pressure get to you because sex comes at the right time. you should take it slowly and live your life and have fun THE GOOD WAY. SEX will come later on in ur life the best tiem is when your mature and are capable of taking care of you and your husband a new born baby. If that guy really loves you he will understand n respect your decision. try him out tell him no n if he dumps you than that means he didnt loved you n he just was there to hit it n quitted. This is just an advice cuz im a guy but i see things differently than usual guys now days. i respect n love my girlfriend and i had never asked her for anything like that. This just comes at a certain time. PLUS SEX is not EVERYTHING in a relationship the most important things are RESPECT, HONESTY, LOYALTY AND MOST IMPORTANT LOVE!
2007-02-02 08:27:20 · answer #5 · answered by chiva_88 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it sweetie. Guys that age will say anything and everything to get in your pants. There are tons of reasons reasons why you shouldn't have sex right now. But, I can think of a million other reasons as to why you should NEVER do it without a condom.
His friends do not have your best interests at heart. You have to worry about pregnancy and STD's. You can be a prude with a clean bill of health. Thats much more important. Before you can really love him, you have to be able to love yourself. And if you do, you will not put yourself in jeopardy.
2007-02-02 08:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you are only 14 just a child yourself. Boyfriend is only after one thing. He does not care about you, he does not love you or he would wait and or understand. Neither of you want or need the responsibility of a child. And why are you listening to his friends -trust your own instincts - it doesn't matter what other people say it is not their body nor if something happens will it be their responsibility ( well the BF's responsibility for sure). Wait for sex until the time is right. Sex too early leads to all kinds of problems enjoy being a teenager before all the adult responsibilities they will come fast enough.
2007-02-02 08:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by burnished_dragon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can remember what I was doing when I was 17...I would say anything to anyone to get them in the sack...I never wore a condom either, but back in the early 70's we did not have to worry about all of the STD's that were going around like today...
look, you are going to do what you want, but think about a few things...what are you going to do if you get pregnant...where will you turn...abortion, adoption, keeping your child...
what are you going to do if you get an STD or worse...think Hepatitis B or C here and HIV...where your days might be numbered...kids are not supposed to die before their parents...
and think about his selfishness and lackadaisical attitude...if he wants to have sex with you without a condom...he doesn't care about his life either...what if you had Hep B or C or HIV...he gets it and he dies in the process
but the reality is that he wants to have sex with you so he can make you number 214...
stick to your guns and say no...at least you will still have self respect in the am and not be the result of a one-night stand and then you will be like all of the other girls that you hang with that have lost their self-respect and can't stand that you are different...
good luck
2007-02-02 16:03:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. You may "love" him, but he's just using you. You have to know what kind of a creep he is by the fact that he talks with his buddies about whether you're having sex with him. How much bragging do you think he's going to do if you did give in?
"Pulling out" is not going to protect you because pre-ejaculate can contain sperm cells, and they swim very well. And it only takes one. It's also not going to protect you from STD's.
If you're not ready, that's the end of the discussion. The fact that he keeps pressuring you shows that he has no respect for you at all. You deserve better.
2007-02-02 10:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. He sounds like he's just in it for a score and will soon dump you later (trust me)..If someone really loves you they would never put you in a life changing situation. My daughter was as young as you and made this mistake. She regretted it (especially when the whole school found out), the boy dropped her and she had to endure the humiliation of her wrongdoing.
Any boyfriend worth having would not pressure you into anything, if anything they would take their time and make it special. Don't make the mistake my daughter made, enjoy being a teen and don't be placed in a situation where there is no going back.
2007-02-02 08:36:09 · answer #10 · answered by trojan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nto to cut up you boyfriend but he sounds like a real JERK. i wouldn't have sex with him period but if you do decide to make sure you stand your ground and wear a condom. there so many things that can go wrong if you don't pregnancy, std's aids. your not a prude wither you sound like your a real lady who knows what she wants but you just need to be tough about what you want and if he refuses to wear a condom tell him no. I pretty positive there is some man out there when your ready of course, to make that moment special for you and who will respect your wishes. this guy obviously doesn't respect you. take care
2007-02-02 11:43:44 · answer #11 · answered by candace m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋