I work very hard on my marriage. Its been 7 years and 3 kids. Will it one day be easier to enjoy?
2007-02-02 08:15:56 · 17 answers · asked by nosredna3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Life gets easier, which in turn takes some stresses of the marriage.
2007-02-02 08:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by Bridgette B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know l have learned that u both have to make the marriage work and want it to , we have 2 children and been married for 14yrs and he is in iraq right now but when he is home we have always done this, we make a date night 2 a month or l will get up before him and leave him a note and say something like l am having breakfast at such and such place if u care to join me. should not be l but should be we r working together as a team hon just because u have kids changes nothing if u know how to work at it. got to spice things up . everybody is in search of who they realy are. not who you were, because some people change . talking is the key l think. what u put into the relationship sometimes is what u get . mareiage is work hon but if u truly love one another u will make it happen. good luck to u and ur family. hope everything works out. just for the hell of it suprise her when she comes home, kids already gone and give her an hr to get ready for a night out and then a nice dinner by candle light, and then what l did ,,, blind fold her untill u get up to the room of ur hotel for the night and touch her like she is so fragile , get to know one another again. my husband and l have had our ups and downs but there is notthing that we wont talk about. but if she works , then the next day or when she returns to work u send her a rose and a card thanking her for lastnight. mmmmmm
2007-02-02 16:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 7 years + 3 kids !!
Did you try to find the basic of your arguments?
Did you discuss it with a counselor?
After seven years of any relationship, things will be clear for both sides.
It must be something out there that is provoking the trigger. Either it is about you or her.
I will suggest seeing a therapist and discussing your marriage calmly by addressing the issues. Make sure she attends this session too.
I think of your kids now. How old are they?
They are living in this disturbed-unhealthy environment of fights or miscommunication. Therefore, what kind of examples you are offering them about love, marriage, and even life.
I think it is about time to solve your problems OR at least reach some kind of compromising & peace.
""there is always solution to every problem""
Dr. Wayne Dyer.
2007-02-02 16:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah when all the kids are out the house! why cant you enjoy it now? maybe you and your lady can schedule a getaway once a month for a day or so. You probably need some alone time for yourself also. Get started on an old hobby or get a new one.
2007-02-02 16:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by jobruce86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on what is making it hard. Raising kids brings alot of stress. However , if it is the relationship itself, it may not become easier.
2007-02-02 16:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by Shelley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prolly
2007-02-02 18:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by coltsfanjoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on who u married if it will get easier or harder. u can enjoy marriage if with the right person.
2007-02-02 16:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, NO the only time it;s easy is on your honeymoon MAYBE, the other times it gets' HARDEr,HardeR. and harder. You are so in love then everything goes to hell. Fussing, fighting, crying, hospital, divorce court, 3 or 4 kids crying, I'm hunger and you'll be left pregnant with Mommy I'm Hungry. You'll be thinking, "That sorry Bast*** hadn't paid that child support and I can't find him.
2007-02-02 16:25:31 · answer #8 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as long as you & your spouse continue to work @ it. It will get much easier.
So enjoy!!!
2007-02-02 16:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONly if you and hubby go into coiupl;lkes counseliong and air all resentments towards one another, clean them up one at a time, recommit your loive for one another, learn to have passion for life and one another, learn to plan specail dates for justy you two, and truly learn to love your ;lives and one anoither. Love means sharing, caring, going the extra muikle foir each other, helping one another, listening without judgement, keeping klife soimpler, having better sex, doding spcial fun things with the family and one another, learning to love the one you have instead of wondering about the waht ifs.
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three very short Robert Johnson books. No others will be necessary.
2007-02-02 16:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋