my step son sole some money the other day . he stole 1 dollar from his best friend and 1 dollar from my son . he got 5 dollars from his grandma for his birthday and i told him he is to pay back each one of them 2 dollars and he can have the last $ . do you think that is far ? this is not his first time staeling . he didnt learn the last time . his dad and him dont think that is far . what do i do . and the last 2 weeks he has done nothing but lie to me everything he tells me is a lie . i am ready just to give up on him. i dont want to do anything for him . am i being childesh about this whole thing ? his dad is doing nothing to help me out he just tells me i need to grow up. but why should i do anything for someone that lies and steals his dad wont do nothing about it why should i reward him by taking him out to eat and letting him do what he wants to do . please help me on this one before i give up on on him i really do love him i just dont want him to end up in more trouble .
2007-02-02 08:14:45 · 4 answers · asked by SUZANNE S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
get an education... then wait it out and see if its a phase
2007-02-02 08:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by Brendan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is the kind of thing that makes second marriages fail and messes up the lives of children.
Unfortunately your husband is the boy's father, and if he thinks that stealing is all right, he is having a bad influence on his son. He is having a bad influence on your son too.
Of course, your stepson has a legitimate reason to be upset, because his parents are not together. He may see you as part of the problem. And maybe you are. These are issues that you need to deal with, for the sake of both the children.
But this is no reason to allow stealing and lying.
Parenting in a blended family is a lot harder than when the parents are still married to each other.
2007-02-02 16:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be setting the bar too low on discipline. My father was not afraid to administer a severe thrashing every now and then when my brother and I would get out of line. One of my more memorable quotes of his was: Stop crying or I'll really give you something to cry about. If you are afraid about getting into deep trouble at home, just like adults are afraid of getting sent to prison, it can be an incentive to keep you in line.
2007-02-02 16:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by days_o_work 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scare him tell him you will call the cops.You can do that too,they will explane it to him stealing is bad.
2007-02-02 17:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋