12/26/06, my 9 and 10 yrs old daughters were burned in a house fire. The grandfather passed away on 1/26/07. The 9 yrs old has 3rd degree burns on her arms and back & grafting everywhere else. I am caring for them. I am just looking for others advice on words of encouragement for them. THANK YOU
2007-02-02 08:11:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Always tell them that you love them...
tell them they are beautiful, no matter what...
tell them that God has a purpose for them...
Be strong & thankful, you have been lucky that they survived...
May God bless you & your girls...
2007-02-02 08:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very sorry to hear this! The best thing for this little lady to do, when she can, is get back out into life and help others. It always makes people feel better, and valued, also. Maybe way too early or young to visit nursing homes, but maybe children's hospitals or something... and do a little garden volunteer work if that's around you. And she probably needs a support person or group, people who have already been through and are dealing with the scars, both literally and physically. And try not to be too disappointed that you, Mommy, cannot be the person who understnads best. She is only 9, but she already realizes that Mom does not know everything she knows... She needs to see firsthand that this can be overcome. The sooner the better. As if you didn't have enough on your plate already, here are some time-consuming buthopefully soul-saving suggestions! Just do the best you can, and be happy for your ability to love no matter what! Bless you all.
2016-05-24 06:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I beleive all you can do is tell them you love them everyday, and always tell her how beautiful she is. Make her feel beautiful in special ways, like fixing her hair , or painting her nails,or having her try on beautiful dresses, and remark at how beautiful she is. Young girls love feeling like princesses. But mostly, never single out her physical problem, put it as a thing in the past and treat her just how you would have if it would have never happened. Of course if she wants to talk about it, don't ignore that it exists, but let her know that this will not effect the way she lives her life. She is just as smart and beautiful as she was before.I went to high school with a girl who was mentally retarded. All through her life her parents never treated her like she was different, they always told her she could do anything anyone else ever did.And she walked around with her head held high every time I'd see her. I'll never forget the time she got out in front of the entire school during a pep rally and performed a dance routine. Everyone cheered wildly when she was done and she was just floating on cloud 9, she was so proud of herself. She died my senior year of brain complications, but you can be sure she lived the best life she could have ever had, even with her differences. The point is praise, constantly let her know that despite her differences, she can still have any kind of life she desires.
2007-02-02 08:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by Choco_Taco25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tragedies of various types have happened to many down through the years. This confirms the truth of God’s Word that time and unforeseen occurrence befall all. (Ecclesiastes 9:11) But God comforts and sustains his people in their time of need and also guarantees a fine future in his new world, where such calamities will be a thing of the past.
Revelation 21 : 4 states "And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.”
2007-02-02 08:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by ----0---- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can find a support group for burn victims and their families. Same with grief support for children. Call your local hospital on the first issue and churches on the second issue.
Nobody will be able to help them like children and parents who have already been through both of those events. Good luck.
2007-02-02 08:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful they are still alive!!! My heart goes out to you seriously... God only knows what goes through their little minds now-- Celebrate every day u have with them, and make it a happy recovery (as well as it can be) and have faith...
2007-02-02 08:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EH...
Sorry to hear about this first of all....
And try by telling them that they can't control everything going on around them. Tell them that they need to keep trying when they try to give up, cause not everything is going to be perfect or easy.
2007-02-02 08:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by Kemical X 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋