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Question

why doesn't a wife mater that much in a marriage?
even when she does so much,still theres no apperattion how come?
or dont hear thank you or need help things like that.

Answer 1

I don't think it's that case in all marriages, but it happens.

Your husband and/or kids are taking your sacrifices for granted. They are used to taking and not giving back. And this isn't something you should have to talk to them about, you'd think they would appreciate what you do for them, even if it's as simple as a thank-you.

Maybe they won't take you for granted if you just kicked back and did some special things for yourself, leaving some responsibility to them. Put them in their place!

Answer 2

In most marriages sooner or later couples take each other for granted.The longer the marriage lasts the worst this becomes.Its not that each is unappreciated but each just takes the other for granted and automatically comes to count on each others actions and reactions. Without a wife or husband you wouldnt have a marriage and both should be a 50/50 partner in a marriage. This is why in many counseling classes many couples are advised to get back to the basics such as thank yous and pleases. We all kind of forget it was the little things that actually made our spouse fall in love with us in the first place and there definitely is a worldwide shortage of the little things in life.

Answer 3

I used to wonder about the answer to this question all of the time. Twenty years, and two marriages later, I realize, if you're being a friend, or a wife, or a mother....or whatever....and you're doing it out of "love", especially unconditional love, you should be doing it expecting nothing. If you expect nothing, you won't be let down. Don't worry so much about why you don't get thank you's. Just make sure you're happy, and being respected. If you're not, move on and find one that does make you happy.

Answer 4

Tell him NICELY & NOT WITH A WHINEY VOICE & NOT WHEN HE IS WATCHING TV OR IS ON THE COMPUTER ETC ( sorry about the capital letters but need to get through that it is important) that you would appreciate it if he would let you know that he does appreciate all the things you do for him & a thanks honey etc would help
because if you don't let him know what you want in your marriage
guys are not to good at guessing
they think " well I'm here, that should tell her i love her plus I tell her in bed as well " haha thats how a lot are

Answer 5

My wife used to ask that on occasion and I reminded her that I built her the house. I put an enormous amount of work into it, quite literally hauling the cement, sand and wood myself. She realized that there was a good division of labor. I do my part, wash dishes and things, but I think some women complain a bit too much. I also think that most guys are very unappreciative

Answer 6

My opinion is that the wife is the glue in a marriage. If she weakens so does the marriage. I think people know this but are so used to the old way they dont show it.

Answer 7

Because we are taken for granted! and when we are needed our husbands thinks it's our role as a wife to do it whether we won't to or not. Most of the time we will not be appreciated for the things we do unless you have a very understanding husband that is willing to make some sacrifices

Answer 8

I am a wife, and I am appreciated.
My husband is very thankful for the things I do and I am thankful for the things he does. We both matter in our marriage, if we don't, it is not a marriage.

Answer 9

It is called lack of respect and any woman who is in a relationship like the one described above needs to find a more loving and respectful husband/partner

Answer 10

Is it that you are TRULY not appreciated or do you just not FEEL appreciated?

If you need to hear appreciation expressed VERBALLY, be sure you express YOUR appreciation verbally.

Most husbands happily work hard for their families and don't expect or get many VERBAL expressions of "thank you for paying the mortgage and cutting the grass."

But, he probably knows that your do appreciate those things.

So, since he doesn't necessarily need to be told verbally how much he is appreciated, he feel think that it is not necessary for you.

So, have a talk about it -- and be sure to VERBALLY express your appreciation for your husband.

And let him know that you need him to VERBALLY express appreciation for your wifely efforts.