I've been bff's with my friend since we were like 2. But when we moved up a grade it meant a different school... We got spit up and NEVER see each-other in school anymore. We then started to drift. I became homeschooled which didn;t help... We don't talk anymore and when we rarely do we have nothing to say, or all she talks about is her new friends and her boyfriend... After a while I sent her an e-mail telling her I miss her and didn't want us to completely drift. I was surprsie to find out how emotional she was over the subject too. And I can tell now that she's actually worried about us not being friends.... But she has changed... She is completely different from the person I used to know.. And I rally don't like the new her. In fact I hate the new her and I think she may end up in situations I would hope to avoid... And I really can't loose her as a friend... I want to save our friendship but she's not my kind of friend anymore.... Help!!
2007-02-02 08:05:56 · 6 answers · asked by elie101_forever 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, the one thing I can tell you on this one...people change, things change, environment changes. I think you guys could still be friends on a completely different level;however my guess is it may not be the same as the way you remember it. Honestly, it can't. You both have grown and changed and have different ideas and friends etc...You don't have to lose her as a friend, things will just be different. If you think you may not get along with her because of the change, just keep her as a friend and occ get together etc...
2007-02-02 08:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that problem once. My friend chose a relationship with drugs and yea. Well we drifted but I still chose to be around her without being in those situations. If you tell her you don't like the way she is then she will just get mad at you. You will just have to learn to deal with her or not hang out with her because you can't change her and if you want to be hear friend work around the stuff you don't like. Don't put yourself in bad situations and tell her that. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-02-02 16:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by usernamenoway 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learned this song in Girl Scouts, maybe you've heard it:
"Make new friends, but keep the old
One is silver and the other gold"
You can still be friends, but it won't be the same as before. You will have to accept that. It is a part of growing up. Be there for her if something happens to her and she needs a friend. She will always appreciate that.
2007-02-02 16:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by bffer1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't change that drastically. She is probably still the same but she might be trying to be someone who she is not. Maybe someone who she ideally wants to be. Just spend more time with her and besides people act differently around certain people. She might open up herself and go back to her old self when shes around you.
Gosh you should see my sister, shes so damn mean but once she picks up the phone that angelic voice comes out =___=
2007-02-02 16:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by yewieh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay clear and don't worry about it. Or try to talk things out. If she TRY to change then she isn't a real friend. But if she tries and fails then maybe its not meant to be. If you don't try to save it then it wasn't that good of a friend ship to begin with.
2007-02-02 16:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by divaL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her and tell her how you feel. Tell her that you do not want your friendship to end because you go to different schools.
2007-02-02 16:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by 3120johnsons@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋