Please help. I've been with my girlfriend for sometime now (approximately 9 months). We are in love. In fact, the other day, she finally told me that she loves me, but I guess I just don't understand how she can love me. I am such a BORING person. I never have much to talk about, and I find that she is always initiating the conversation. I love both her and her 4 year old daughter with all my heart. I do everything with them. We go places together, we watch movies together, and we are going to Hawaii in September 08. I've asked her if she is happy, and she says "yes," but I feel like I'm going to lose her due to my dull nature. I try to talk about things, but I get tongue tied easily. My skills lie elsewhere. I just want to be able to have an open, loving relationship with her. On top of my introverted nature, I had a bad childhood where communication was not stressed. I hate being nervous around her because I love her so much. Does anyone have suggestions? Thank you!
2007-02-02 08:04:59 · 3 answers · asked by chickenbeansoup 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You sound very sweet. Actually you sound a lot like my boyfriend. He gets tongue tied and really doesn't have much to talk about except what the car next to him is doing. We hang out at his house a lot which for most 20-something year olds, is a little dull. But I love it. I feel very secure there which is something Dovie above me touched on. He says he doesn't understand how I could love him as he has nothing to offer (he has very low self esteem). But, I'm happy with him. I think he's amazing. He is sensitive (but not too sensitive) he takes care of me, he shows me he loves me, he wants to spend time with me and hear about my life and my hopes and dreams. If I ask him straight out, he'll tell me what his goals and aspirations are too. If your girlfriend has a 4 year old, probably the places she wants to go the most are 4 year old oriented (parks, zoos, amusement parks, kiddie movies). I doubt that she thinks you're dull if you're willing to do all that. Not all guys are talkative. My dad and HIS dad can get out everything they need to say for the entire day in two words or less. If she's happy (and she wouldn't stick with someone who she sees no future with if she has a kid to worry about), then just let it be. Work on building your own self esteem so that you can believe that someone could be happy with you.
2007-02-02 08:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by Katie L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 07:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by bustamante 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously okay with this aspect of your personality and though you may think you're boring, she must not. Perhaps she is really happy with your relationship because there is no stress and she enjoys just being with you. You do not have to change yourself into someone else to be loved. As long as you're talking about the relationship and how you both feel when it's appropriate, quiet and peace can be very soothing. I don't know, but she may have come from a relationship where there was too much drama and she just feels secure and safe now with you.
2007-02-02 08:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋