He put me on his insurance. I called his HR today, and am still not on the insurance, and I asked them to page my new husband. I was hung on, and then, I phoned back. The HR girls were rude to me, and come to find out, my husband was sitting there the whole time. When I asked him about this, he hung up on me. Then I called him again, and again, he did the same thing, hung up on me. What should I think ??? Please, this is true, and very serious. Thank you.
2007-02-02 07:41:52 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
PS, I had to put nearly 500.00 worth of my medication on his American Express. The bill came in yesterday, and he was adamant that I call our insurance company. Then they told me to call his Human Resourse. I'm also 51 yrs old, and not a child. I just don't understand why he hung up on me twice.
2007-02-02 07:51:53 · update #1
This is our 2nd marriage together. He's 57 yrs old. I never, ever call him at work, unless it's an emergency. I'm too old to play games.
2007-02-02 08:00:06 · update #2
It was very rude and unprofessional of the HR employees to hang up on you. It would have been quite simple for the HR employees to tell you that your husband was with them at that time working on the issue. It was also very rude for your husband to hang up on you. He also could easily have said that he was working on the insurance issue and he would tell you everything at home. It is a simple matter of respect, and whether a spouse is at work or not, respect for the other is always applicable.
Although I don't think that you should have called back again and again, I understand why you did it. Since you only call if it is important, it was ridiculous that your husband was so hateful.
I am curious as to how he behaved when he arrived home. I hope that he apologized, because you certainly deserve an apology. As for the HR employees, they are just that, employees, not girls. If they want to be girls, they can do it on their own time, not while at work and receiving a paycheck. It almost sounds as if your husband is bad-mouthing you at work, since HR hung up on you the first time that you called.
I think that you should seriously consider how often and how long you can tolerate such disrespect from your new husband.
Best of luck to you and take care.
2007-02-02 08:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by Abby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jan 17 is not that long ago , why are you bothering him at work?. Most companies don't like personal calls if he was in HR at the time , more than likely that was what he was doing. You need to grow up it takes time he has his work to do and your calling is taking up his and the HR time. If you don't trust him enough to handle putting you on Insurance than you shouldn't have gotten married. You are being silly calling back, calling back, you going to make him lose his job, grow up.
2007-02-02 07:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Marriage at any age is hard. But there are ways to work through anything. When he gets home explain how you felt and let him know it is not ok!! How old is he? Honestly, marraige is a huge commitment but when you start working through the hard stuff that's when the blessing comes!! I really hope you make it and stick through everything because God will truly bless your marriage if you do. I know the anxiety you are feeling right now and my only advice is to make a cup of tea, RELAX and remind yourself that just because he is being immature and rude does not mean that he doesn't love you. Some men just don't know how to react to the pressures of marriage. It is a whole new situation for both of you with alot of adjustments to make in your lives.
2007-02-02 07:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Hey, what's YOUR phone # at work? You should give it to the HR girls so they can call you and nag you while you're trying to get work done.
Just calm down! It sounds like your husband is trying to take care of it...you got your medication!
By the way, you owe your husband an apology!
2007-02-02 08:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry, but no excuse, who cares if he was around his HR girls. I'd be damned if I called my husband and he hung up on me because he is around some girls. You are his wife and if he is not going to treat you like it around EVERYONE then I would go get the marriage annulled. You don't deserve to be treated in such a dis-respectful manner.
2007-02-02 08:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by Happy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Girl he is not being truthful with you and that is very wrong because how can you trust him. i don't see why it would be any reason for him to lie about putting you on his insurance unless he thought that you two were not going to be together for a long time. My fiance and i aren't even sure if we are going to get married and he has me on his insurance! Something is not right but if you think he is cheating then you should check it out.
2007-02-02 07:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.Dennis 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well you need to talk to him.. it seems as if he is playing games with you and your married now.. I would ask him about the girl too and why he was right there and said nothing and let her be rude to you.. I'm newly married too and no one disrespects me at all or he would kill anyone who would. I have Q'S My self about your man this doesn't sound like a newly married man and hes not taking it very seriously and I would question his actions and let him no your hurt and to let him no your not happy with his actions and let him know that the girl needs to apologize to you.. good luck newly married i hope it wasn't a mistake....
2007-02-02 07:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by tlcoufan 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you overstepped your bounds by calling his HR department. You should have asked him about it, and made sure he had taken care of it. Then, you kept calling back. You are effecting his professional like when you call, and have issues with the people he has to work with. It can be very embarassing.
Some advice, don't be one of those wives who constantly calls their husband at work. He is there to work. You can spend time with him, and talk to him when he is at home. It is very annoying when you are trying to get things done, and you are constantly bombarded by calls.
2007-02-02 07:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I agree with waiting till he gets home. Then you need to sit down and discuss it with him and how it made you fell. Listen to what he has to say and hear what his feelings were. Then the two of you need to come up with some kind of compromise on the situation. Marriage is a team effort and you two really need to work together. Good luck.
2007-02-02 07:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Were you very rude when you called..mabye he hung up on you because he was busy and you kept calling over and over adn then you embarressed him and he kept hanign up on you..either way it was no way for him to act and he should not have behaved that way.
I think you are okay to be upset he shouldnt have kept hanging up on you.
2007-02-02 08:06:23 · answer #10 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋