People always say not to get divorced b/c of the children. But... it seems like the children would be better off if they had 2 happy parents separated, then 2 unhappy parents together. If they have to spend their whole lives seeing their parents fight, that just doesn't seem healthy.
2007-02-02 07:39:29 · 29 answers · asked by HELP 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My parents hated each other and stayed together for me and siblings. We were relieved when they finally decided to divorce. Now they are both married to other people and happy. It is so much better to see them happy rather than being miserable for our sake.
2007-02-02 07:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Children would rather be from a broken home than live in one! I think if a couple are having problems the should always try to work them out, too many people take the easy way out and get divorced at the first sign of trouble, however if they can't resolve their issues it would be better for them to separate. My parents marriage is horrible and has always been, I would rather they separated.
2007-02-02 16:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that parents should consider the children but do not soley base a decision to stay with someone because of the children esp of the relationship is abusive or a violent one in any way. You would not want your children to see such behavior between you and your spouse and let them believe what they are living in and how you two act is it what they should expect from a marriage. Sometimes the hardest decisions go against what the majority of others will tell you but you have to evaluate your life and that environment your children are in to see what is best. But I do believe in providing the best environment for your children even if that means a divorced home. I speak from experience...I just wish I would have left my husband earlier...would have saved my children a lot of heartache. Best of Luck to you!
2007-02-02 16:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by Bama Girl 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are so right. They do what they know. So if the kids see two parents fighting they are going to assume everyone is like that and will have relationships based on that. Marriage for shildren is never really the answer. Staying together for the kids sake is doing nothing but causeing more problems then it helps. Not only do you have to be unhappy forever but your kids will start to feel as if THEY are the reason you guys aren't happy (staying together for them and all) its best to have two happy homes then one very unhappy one!
2007-02-02 17:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion if the marriage is bad end it because the children suffer, they repeat and absorb everything. They are better off in a better environment instead of a unstable one. I grew up in a family where my parents were always at each others throats so did my husband. I will never do that to my kids. Children are agile they will adjust. So what I am saying is that I agree with you.
2007-02-02 16:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My parents were married for 16 years before they divorced and for most of their marriage they were constantly fighting. don't get me wrong there were a lot of good times but the fighting was also very bad. I am now 27 and raised voices still upset me. When you live in a home with constant arguing and tension it is very difficult on the kids.
2007-02-02 15:43:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually, the misconception of parents getting divorced because of fighting, is just that, a misconception.. If you think the fighting stops there, your wrong.. In fact, in most cases it gets worse..
What is sad is that people use the weapons in an emotional war, like they do in a actual war.. looking for the biggest most lethal one they can find.. they do it hard, fast and to the point.. unfortunately the children are usually the weapon..
That is where the children get hurt..
2007-02-02 15:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by tiny b 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It depends on the maturity of the parents. Normally in younger couples under 35 there is a lot more tendencies toward domestic violence. If you love your kids, accept you had your chance. Now it's their turn to become something you could not.
Remember, you always CAN get divorced. BUT few people out of selfishnes think about weather they SHOULD get divorced.
2007-02-02 15:48:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are completely right, as long as during the divorce, the childrens sees that its for the best and not for the worse.
Also, they shouldn't be involved in the divorce...... No talking agains't eachother or this sort of things, I see that happening with familly right now and I'm just disgusted by the parents behavior.
The kids get spoiled with gifts so they take one or the others side........ or they lie about many things, etc.
2007-02-02 15:45:42 · answer #9 · answered by bubuane2000 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Children do know when their parents are unhappy and it does affect them. Family therapy during the divorce makes a world of difference. Please remember that the divorce affects them more than you but it can be good for all of you if you and Dad put their needs first. Good luck to you all. I hope you find peace.
2007-02-02 15:45:56 · answer #10 · answered by #1 saints fan 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋