My step daughter is emotionally messed up. She has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and anti social disorder. She is 17. Her mother has allowed her stepfather to molest and rape her. He has been put away for this. But she continues to want to see her mother and her father will not let her go. She is with us now and is very hard to handle. I have so much compassion for her and really love her like my own. I just do not know how to help her. She continues to act out sexually. Let me also say she has been found to be mildly retarded. She does not understand her mother, (now doing drugs) does not want any contact with her. The last time she seen her mother, she was sexually assaulted by her mother's "friend" so her mother could get more drugs. She is getting treatment but nothing seems to be helping. I try to show her we love her but she seems out of reach to us. What can I do to help her?
2007-02-02 07:39:27 · 4 answers · asked by Marie 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Assuming her mild retardation doesn't hinder her as much, she will eventually see that her advances toward them in ways of getting nurtured are futile. It takes time, and it's not the easiest thing to watch. She will realize at one point where true love resides.
Continue with her treatment.
Have you asked the doctor (pysch) about this? Is there some form of action you can take to prevent her from seeing them. Granted, animosity may arise due to any block that may come between them.
This is a heavily fueled (emotionally) situation, and it needs to be handled with care (as you are obviously doing). Props to you for providing a caring and stable home life for this girl, whether she appreciates it or not.
My first step would be to talk to the doctor and possibly have joint meetings where you are included as well. Take care.
2007-02-02 07:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by polishedamethyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do all that you can do. You can provide her the means to seek treatment. You can give her love and support. You can take care of her with her best interests in mind. You can keep her away from the harmful influences of the step father and drug addicted mother.
And, if nothing helps, you can see if temporary inpatient treatment (and/or high levels of psychological or psychotropic treatment) would be beneficial. These are big steps, and that's why there are psychiatrists and physicians to help.
You can also seek support of your family, friends, and husband. You all need to be united and make a decision together. That way you can support each other and provide help to your step daughter in unity.
God luck.
2007-02-02 15:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by Perdendosi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats so sad. I have great sympothy. As far as helping her. Keep talking to her like a friend not a worried mother. Explain to her what her mother is doing is wrong, and she needs counciling. professional help. I wish you the bestest luck!
2007-02-02 15:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by shitpile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you brought to see a therapist?
2007-02-02 15:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋