This is what happened last night we were watching a movie and then she asked me for a wipe to clean the baby she was just beside me so I get the bag and grab the box of wipes and hand it over to her, then she raised her tone and she said " I told you a wipe not the whole box" and she handed back to me, If she would of had asked nicely I would had done it but I handed the box back to her and she threw it back at me so I grab the wipes out of the box and handed all the wipes that were there and she grabed them and threw them at my face hard, which I did the same thing back and I told her not to do that again, and we haven't spoke since, and no we were not mad at each other I didn't do anything wrong and no she was not on her period, and no there's no cheating problems. And today she came to my work crying saying that her boss told her that she was being moddy to the clients, which is no suprise to me. She saids that she hasn't been moddy so should I be aggressive to her too?
2007-02-02 07:22:31 · 22 answers · asked by Shadow 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How dare you throwing something at her?
Didn;t your mother taucght you never to do to a lady? The mother of your child!!!
If she asked for help, she asked for help, not sarcasm or jokes. Having a baby is stressfull enough, leave alone having and insensitive husband and a demanding boss.
She can't do eveything at the same time, being a mother, a wife and a employee and she has to put up with you throwing stuff at her!!!!
Apologize profusely and never NEVER do it again.
\Good luck
2007-02-02 07:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well her hromones are sure on the loose.
Tell her when she says "I am not moody" that is her opinion, but eventually if everyone else around you tells you that you are bald it doesn't matter how much you stamp your foot and proclaim "I have a full head of hair!"
Tell her it isn't about winning or losing the argument but staying close and helping each other. And that the biggest symptom of being moody is the person being that way doesn't see it. So it's not a personal attack but a symptom of something we want to fix.
Also, start just taking a few hits for the team. If she blows up, you have to be even more calm. Not get into junior high baby wipe throwing contests with her. Be the first to admit you are not perfect or that you made a mistake. Geezus man. Help her out here.
She might need an SSRI for a while (ask your doctor) to deal with her depression and mood swings.
2007-02-02 07:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your antic the night before could have been prevented if you would have just done what she asked in the first place (men). You should have apologized about not hearing her correctly and left it at that, instead you kinda provoked it and although comical it was kinda childish (on both parts).
Her reaction for the most part sounds like she is having a bad day or week and there is something bothering her. Ask her if there is anything wrong, did you do something , could you do something for her, be supportive and listen. There should be at least one person who is thinking rational at all times. Give her a hug and let her know that you love her and hope she can talk to you about what is going on in her life.
2007-02-02 08:14:05 · answer #3 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, cut her some slack. You guys obviously have a baby. She had this thing growing in her, then ripped out of her either through cutting her gut open or like a watermelon coming out of her crotch, the kid is now needing to be cleaned up because it is crapping it's diaper.... think if that was you. Wouldn't you be moody too?!?!
This is a reflective Universe. One gets back what one sends out. Give her some understanding and peace. And for God's sake give her A wipe if she asks for it.
2007-02-02 07:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her hormones are out of wack..
Doesn't need to be PMS. You don't need to be on your period...she has a new baby.
Consider post partum depression. Consider hormones. Do the best thing and have her see her OB doctor. It may be nothing, isolated...or maybe there is something huge wrong in your relationship. How could I know....
But I do know that the amount of anger shown was disproportionate to the situation. How old is the baby? Something could be medically wrong.
Check it out. And be kind to her......no matter how much effort it takes.
2007-02-02 07:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a crappy husband and father. What kind of man throws ANYTHING at a woman holding a baby??? I agree with the wife, she asked for a WIPE not a box, she's obviously got her hands full with a dirty baby, your lazy butt should have been helping not staring at the tv. You are one of the men who makes the entire gender look bad.
2007-02-02 09:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by kherome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows, if you figure out the answer to this question, you will be the man. I would ignore it from now on, and not reciprocate. When my ex would get that way, I would go out and work in the yard, or find something of that nature to do. Of course, then the last few months of my marriage, that is all I did. But, I always got compliments on how great the outside of my house looked.
Funny thing, since I have been gone, the yard looks terrible.
2007-02-02 07:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I think you should have got up and walked out of the room or house instead of playing the "I badder than you" game. That's one of the issues that lead to abuse. Someone needed to be the bigger person here. I think you throwing them back at her was stupid. But as far as you question, maybe she just wanted you to Listen to her not just hear her. And when she snarled you should've told her that she doesn't have to be rude, that maybe you didn't know she meant One freaking wipe. She should have never thrown them at you either, that was the instigating. And of course she's gonna be moody, she's a woman. I hope for your sake her zod. sign isn't cancer..... as I am..... we are moody and mean lol. Good luck, Hun, and there is no pun intended, I'm not insulting you by any means.
(Hell I didnt even catch on to the "a wipe" till way later in your story)
2007-02-02 07:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by chaa107 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like she's got other issues going on that she's not telling anyone about. Try talking to her about it. Ask her if there's something bothering her.
Repaying her agressiveness with more agressiveness is the wrong thing to do. It's only going to heat the situation up until the relationship is over.
Instead of taking the stance of monkey see monkey do, why don't you try telling her how you feel and think when she does stuff like that, and get her to talk about why she's that way.
Could be something serious.
2007-02-02 07:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Sound childish. She seems like she just wanted help fast, to get back to the movie or whatever. You should have just taken back the box of wipes, and handed her 1...then talk to her later once she calms down, on why she raised her voice.
2007-02-02 07:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by ~ Ruchira~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋