I am 11 weeks and 3 days pregnant. My fiance' has a little boy who is 4. Either it is my hormone's and sensitivity or this little one is being mean to me. He is aware that he will have a little brother or sister soon, but my fiance' and I weren't sure if he really understood or not. Well, ever since we have told him and his birth mom (which she is freaking out) it seems like he has been a pain towards me lately and it's so frusterating because I'm so sensitive to everything. So naturally, I get pretty upset when he's like this. Does anyone think it has anything to do with the pregnancy? If so, how do you deal with it? Just wanted some opinions.
2007-02-02 07:20:24 · 6 answers · asked by crystalblue 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
One word... Yes! Sorry to tell you it's only going to get worse as you start to show and start buying things for the baby. I am 34 weeks pregnant. My stepson, who is 10 years old, should get an award for being the biggest pain in the butt! He has been acting out at school and home for extra attention. His newest thing is to make zeros on tests and not turning in his homework. My husband and I have tried so hard to make it clear to him that nothing is going to change for him when the baby is born, but it doesn't seem to be working. Now we have decided to let him get through these feelings on his own. He will have to accept his baby sister one way or another. We are not going to let him act like a little "Prima Donna" anymore. Enough is enough!!! I actually pulled out the biggest gray hair you've ever seen the other day. I called it my "stepson hair". We are hoping when the baby gets here he will love her and not be so jealous. All we can do is pray! My best advice to you is to not let the little one turn into a "monster" as my stepson did. You need to calm his fears early and definitely do not let him get away with murder. Your fiancé should step in when his little one is being hateful. That behavior should not be accepted under ANY circumstances! I wish you the best of luck! Keep your chin up!
2007-02-02 07:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by Pren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some of the other people and I think that the little guy is jealous and can you blame him? First you and now a new baby. What you should do is have your fiance sit him down and explain to him how much he loves him and how that will never change and have him spend special time with him. Let him help you go shopping for the baby or do a craft project with him for the baby. Get him involved in the baby and assure him that he will still be loved.
2007-02-02 15:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's none of her business if you and your fiance want to have a baby. There's a reason they aren't together anymore. The mother may be talking bad to her son about you as well (which will screw him up later) and that is probably why he is behaving badly toward you. You need to have a discussion w/ her and ask her to act like a mature adult. And yes, your hormones do make you more sensitive.
2007-02-02 15:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably does. one of my best friends has a little boy and when she got pregnant he was pissed. he lovs babies but i guess the thought of him no longer being the baby pissed him off becuz he told her no momma i hate babies and would try to hit her belly. she didn't let him of ourse but after a while she finally took my advise. she told him you know hen this baby comes you will be its big brother which means it'll need you to teach it things and protect it. he then became excited about it and started helping with the laundry and dishes. (he's only 3 mind you) she lost the baby due to fainting. but thats not the point. i think once you make them feel like they are apart of it and are needed then they can lighten up about it. he might also be picking up on how his mother is reacting and basicly mimking it. children want to please. pretty much i think he might be acting as if he is upse about it becuz his mother is. children really don't develope their own ideas about things for a very long time. maybe your soon to be husband should talk to her about acting out over the pregnancy in front of their son.
2007-02-02 15:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by Kimi is 31 weeks 1/7 w/#2! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother is probably jealous and is telling her son that daddy wont have as much time for him anymore once the baby comes.
So he's taking it out on you.
2007-02-02 15:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's your hormones making you extra sensative, but just in case tell her to get a life.
2007-02-02 15:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋