We have been together for four years. At first everything was great. Then I became pregnant, it was all planned. Throughout my the nine months he accused me of cheating which I would never do. He said the baby I was pregnant with was not his. he was never there for me at all. I had a full time job and did the housework, and had dinner for him when he got home. The week we had our baby he was his old self. Once we got home with our baby he changed. He started handing out with a few guys from work, whom he never really did anything with before. He would rather go out with his friends than be with me and our baby. When his one friend is over he treats me like crap. He would treaten to hit me and call me names, then after his friend would leave he would act like it never happened. He also started talking to girls he met online. He said he never met any of them and they are just friends. Friends he text messages all day long and they call each other sweetie and babe. What does this mean
2007-02-02 07:19:51 · 7 answers · asked by motherofone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He never lets me see the messages and when he shows me the phone the messages are gone. He comes home to me every night, he is not sleeping around. I know when he gets to work and when hes off. He comes straight home unless he plans to go out with his guy friends from work. Those guys he hangs out with are young single without any children. He is not in any of those catergories anymore. He has his priorities all mixed up.
2007-02-02 07:24:36 · update #1
It means the party's over. Get out of this relationship and start living for yourself and your child.
This man does not want a commitment with you and is only hanging around for free housekeeping.
Get on with your life and let him find another poor girl who is willing to cook his meals for him.
2007-02-02 07:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl get dressed up and tell him you are deserving of a night
on the town with your girlfriends (not him) girlfriends OK
do you hair nails wear the best party clothes and put your
makeup on Listen to the song (Red High Heels)
go and get your groove on (not with another man)
When you are ready for this tell him or ask him will he watch the baby while you have some me time if he says no have a backup
sitter waiting for your call I bet any amount of money
He will make sure he is home while you are getting ready to go out do not dress trashy, dress sophisticated,classy
By the time you are ready he will wonder where you are
going and try to tag along but stress it is your night out(me time)
I did this and girl it worked,When I feel my fiancee is
lingering with friends I dress nice to go to work and he is
like boy you look nice you want me take you to work
I say no honey.When I come home OOOOOH!LA!LA!
it is like he thinks about it all day and it makes him want me
more than his goof ball homies...
2007-02-02 15:47:07 · answer #2 · answered by bananasplit1744 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah sweetie, I think this relationship is over. He is too immature to grow up and realize that he has you and his child to care for and be home with every night. How would he feel if the roles were reversed? He wouldn't do it, and you shouldn't either!
And you don't know that he's not cheating, he could be doing it when he's with these "guy friends".
2007-02-02 15:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by eaglesnest1119 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen please, you say he's your fiance and he's already putting you second and not taking care of his responsibilities then to marry him anyways is a no-no simply because when you get married things change and if they are already bad there only going to get worse you say that he is on-line with other females sending them message after message you are in denial and as far as him hanging out with his friends that he never hung out much then gurl he is with another women in those times please don't allow yourself to be fooled you have a baby to think about so don't make any excuses for him your going to make things worse and if he is treating you like dirt in front of his friends then please believe that your not his only gurl his friends know that just as well and they probably laugh about it everytime their around you i don't have to say anymore cause you already know what this means you have an idea and you don't want it to be true good luck to you and don't deny yourself the best because you love him and you have a baby from him most men don't care about that any ways if he loved you then he wouldn't have a problem showing it if he really did love you then you wouldn't have to doubt you would already know and most importantly if he did love you then you wouldn't have asked this question (soul search you might just be making a big mistake) don't say "I DO" unless you know for sure that he loves you
2007-02-02 15:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by BLESSED352 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a loser. He is looking for a way out. He can't take responsibility. Take your pick.
Any man who threatens to hit a woman is scum. Period. It will be hard, but move out and file for custody of your child. If he snaps, you and your child will probably be the ones who feel his wrath, and he sounds very unstable. Take care of your baby and get out now.
2007-02-02 15:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by Steak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of it, you are more worthy than that to put up with all that.
2007-02-02 15:32:42 · answer #6 · answered by rinib2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ur fault . without being at marriage never do sex
2007-02-02 15:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋