Just some added info, he's just a baby. His mother died and now he has no where to go. My fiance and I are considering taking him and raising him ourselves. His ex-wife died and the baby's father is AWOL. What would you do?
2007-02-02 07:19:39 · 44 answers · asked by lovelee1 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I am adoptive Mom of a child my (then) husband had with another woman. Its a tough road being an adoptive Mom.. But its a road I would take again and again given the chance. My adopted son is the light of my life and even though I have gone on to have two biological children, my chosen child is extra special to me. You will eventually face tough questions about the birth Mom and sometimes when the adopted child gets older they may some stuff that you need a thick skin to handle (You arent my REAL mom etc) but I wouldnt go back and make a diffenent decision.. adoption is a blessing to the child, to the parent...Go For It!!!!
2007-02-02 07:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by hippiemommy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were in a position to give him a good home, YES no question!
As he is a baby, I know he could go to a good home if I could not provide it right now, so then I would let the baby be adopted by someone else.
Starting out a marriage with a baby can be a challenge, weigh the option carefully, as a healthy baby will have a lot of couples interested in adopting, so you don't have to. Only if you want to.
2007-02-02 07:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by B Jones 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did this baby have to do with his parentage? A baby is a baby. If you REALLY want to raise this child with love and affection, then by all means see what you can do about adopting him. Believe me, there are untold thousands of families who would love to have a chance to have this child, so don't do this because you "feel you should," do it because you really want a child, can't have one, and feel this is the right child for you. It isn't as easy as saying, "Oh well, OK, we'll do the right thing here and take the kid." Adoptions have to be court approved, and usually adoptive families are investigated up, down and sideways by the Department of Human Services. Be prepared for that!
2007-02-02 07:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of that is the baby's fault. As long as you can let go of any resentment & not look at him as "the ex's child" Then I think it's a good idea. However, I suggest counseling first, just to make sure you can handle the situation and are willing to devote the next 18 years (minimum) of your lives to this child, who one day be a teen and suddenly hate you for 2-4 years!
2007-02-02 07:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it would be great for you to bring the baby in, who care's who the real mother is, that doesn't make the baby tarnished with anything bad, to know that it's going to a couple that will take care of it and on top of that have a mom and dad that are together in this day and age is wonderful. Bring it in and raise it as your own.
2007-02-02 07:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by Lo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are no other relatives, like grandparents or aunts, uncles, cousins, sisters, brothers...from the family of the baby's mother, then I would adopt him. He's just a baby, and if you are the closest thing to family that he has, your life will be blessed for being so selfless and kindhearted.
Also, I predict you will love him like your own in no time at all.
2007-02-02 07:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can I say yes. It would be a wonderful gift you could give the child. Don't consider it unless you feel you could get past the x thing and don't make the decision to do it unless you are absolutely sure. Babies are babies. Just love them.
2007-02-02 07:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by D Marie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put the brat up for adoption. Gods I hate kids! I'm saving my money to get fixed so when I get married & start having sex (I'm not a pre-marital sex fan) I don't have to worry about brats. I just have to find a guy who's the same way...
Seriously though, if you want to keep it in the family, why not an aunt/uncle's house? Or maybe the baby has a godmother/-father?
2007-02-02 07:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by swordofmystique 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you think you can provide a good home for the baby and will raise him as if he was your own rather than the "Ex's" baby and not let that get in the way of being a good parent...then sure absolutely give the baby a life that he deserves.
2007-02-02 07:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by daddysgurl6891 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-02-02 07:27:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋