I want to love my husband more. I want to not let his bad attitude get on my nerves.
2007-02-02 07:09:46 · 13 answers · asked by HELP 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-02-02 07:12:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Loving unconditionally is an inborn trait I think. I don't know that you can develop it. Some people love very strongly and that person is the center of their universe (I'm one of those). There is probably nothing much that my guy could do that would make me fall out of love with him. I love every single thing about him - even his not-so-great traits. We have lived together for almost a year and I have never argued with him or felt anything other than delight to be with him. I have been that way in the four relationships in my life. Conversely, it makes breaking up nearly unbearable for me as I don't stop loving.
I hope that you can find yourself in an unconditional love situation - it's truly the greatest gift that you can give or get.
2007-02-02 15:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know how. " I want to not let his bad attitude get on my nerves" It is what you allow. I am not saying he is not aggravating if he is with a bad attitude. I am saying that you "choose" to let it bother you.
Thus the key is in how you "choose" to feel. Without knowing the actual way he shows the bad attitude I am not able to help with details.
To love unconditionally is to love without expecting or controlling.
I suggest you try to redirect your thoughts away from whatever he does to express this bad attitude.
You have the choice to give attention or not to give attention.
When he is displaying the bad attitude if you can remove yourself or keep from giving him attention for it.
This can lessen it.
2007-02-02 15:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by moire1111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unconditional love doesn't mean unconditionally staying together. You should love every human on the planet, even evil people, but you don't have to have a personal relationship with them all! Sometimes it is better to love certain people from afar. Only you can decide if it is more loving to stick around or if the kindest thing to do is to love your husband from afar.
2007-02-02 22:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by unnua 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving someone unconditionally is not something that you have to "learn;" it's something that you just do when you meet the right person. When you meet the right person, it just happens - you love them without question, unconditionally, and you do it without thinking about it. It's a natural response, not one that you can condition or train yourself to do.
I know, I tried it...with my first wife. Didn't work. No matter what I did, I couldn't love her enough to save the marriage. I woke up one morning and realized that I was sacrificing MY life and MY dreams in an effort to force myself to love someone in a way that I just wasn't capable of doing.
With my second wife - the woman I'm married to now - it's completely different. I didn't have to learn how to love her unconditionally, it just happened. And I couldn't be happier about it!
You can't learn "unconditional love;" it comes from within.
When it happens to you, you'll know.
2007-02-02 15:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by Team Chief 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think in your head "I love you." Not "I love you if you have a good attitude" or "I love you if you are not on my nerves." Unconditional love is accepting someone for who and what they are no matter the circumstances.
2007-02-02 15:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to learn how to accept the good along with the bad. Every person has flaws, as long as he respects you for who you are. I had to learn how to deal with my fiance with his anger and withdrawl from society type issues. He has never hurt me or ever disrespected me. He is who he is, me and one other person are the only two people alive that he really opens up to. When it really counts, he's always be there when i need him the most and/or defend me when i'm needed defending
2007-02-02 15:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by SuNDeViL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is kind of uncontrollable. You're just going to have to ignore his bad attitude.
2007-02-02 15:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by lisateric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you cant fix his bad attitude alone, that he has to do something about it. trying to fix someone can drain you of your own happiness and cause you to drift apart. try to get some counseling or work together. peace
2007-02-02 15:14:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no how...you either do or you don't. True love is unconditional but make no mistake, that does not mean you'll never have problems.
2007-02-02 15:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by chaa107 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True love is when you see the imperfect person perfectly in your own mind.
2007-02-02 15:28:04 · answer #11 · answered by 1.2..3...Boo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋