My husband is 14 yrs older than me and i am 24 going on 25.Aside from a few strange moments because his daughter is only 8 yrs younger than me and his brother is my age we are fine and love each other.His brother lives with us not by my choice but we thus far have managed to work it all out.Five days ago he had a heart attack and while at the hospital we learned he has lung cancer!He does smoke 6 packs of cigeretts a day at least .He kept asking me to leave whenever he was speaking to the doctor and made me sit outside when he had an appointment yesterday.
Does he have a right to do this too me?
2007-02-02 07:04:10 · 10 answers · asked by Melrose G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am very concerned the only thing i heard the doctor says was if he keeps this up he will be dead by the time he is 45!I feel like i am being kept in the dark and this is driving me crazy!
2007-02-02 07:12:27 · update #1
Yes, his medical care is his own business. But if he should become incapacitated you are the next of kin and therefore would have knowledge to all his medical records and decisions from that point forward.
I know it doesn't seem fair, but it is the law. Too many people abused the system and now its a all or nothing affair.
Do talk to your husband about your feelings. That it is important to you that you know about his health and treatment.
2007-02-02 07:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look you already know what is wrong with your husband , he told you, why do you have to go to the Doctor with him , anyway. When a man or woman goes to their Doctor that something private between a Doctor and his patient. I think privacy is a privilege everyone needs. You may be the type or not that when he is talking to his Doctor you start asking question are giving opinion on things that he wants to talk about. You may not mean to but when your in a serious talk with your Doctor , you don't anyone butting in telling what all they know, how you been acting and the things you noticed. Just stay in the waiting room until he ask to come in with him. He'll ask when he gets ready, maybe never.
2007-02-02 15:21:10 · answer #2 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have sometimes felt nervous to speak in front of family to doctors about medical issues. It's a weird thing but I've been there and can understand why he might do this.
I feel like I will be able to get my points across to the doc better if no one else is in the room and also that I will be able to pay more attention to what the doctor is saying rather than worrying what my family might be thinking about what is being said. Does that make sense?
He has the right of course but if it makes you feel bad, talk to him about it (calmly) and try to understand why he does this.
2007-02-02 15:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by tifa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be depressing or anything, but in a few months time what is it going to matter?
What was his reasoning behind sending you outside? Were you freaking out or hysterical? If not, I'd imagine that he just doesn't want you to hear what the doctor says because it's going to hurt you more than him sending you outside.
Regardless, I think it's your right as his wife to be there beside him through everything. Even in sickness and health. This would definately be one of those times.
2007-02-02 15:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he does. Even though its morally wrong (in my opinion) you do not have medical power of atterney of him so he can. Perhaps he feels he doesn't want her to here all the nasty details. Speak to him about it and tell him that you love him and want to know what is going on.. no matter how bad it is
2007-02-02 15:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he does have this right (by law), Maybe he just doesn't want you to worry abut him, and that's why he is doing this. Just lost a uncle, my aunt had no ideal that he had cancer, she did not find out until she got the death cert.
2007-02-02 15:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by babycake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
new medical rights law -he does have the right
the Dr's cannot talk to you if he does not want you to know.talk with him and see whats behind this action.Possibly he does want to worry you.
if hes has life threatening illness you must talk to him and get paperwork done him.talk to him first.
2007-02-02 15:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by zachsgrammy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think that he`s trying to spare you any upset. As his wife you have every right to be in with him when he`s talking to the doctor, and if you want that, then you must insist on being there.
Just remember that whatever they talk about could be upsetting for you.
2007-02-02 15:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by Tatty 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Legally, yes he has the right to ask you to leave while he talks with his phycisian or has an appointment.
2007-02-02 15:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the words of The Amityville Horror..........."GET OUT"
2007-02-02 15:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by chad.cheney 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋