my husband exwife who he shares 2 children with got diagnosed with cancer last month.its curable and she has a huge local support team(mom,dad,sisters,freinds).the problem is she relies on my husband for everything.we now have both girls(which i love)almost full time(as she needed surgery and chemo) but continue to pay full child support to her.we are not rich by all means and this is really hurting us.plus she allways wants my husband to come visit her with the girls,or have my husband pick her up to bring her to the girls sports/school activities(her mom/sisters could do this to just as easly)the reason i seem so much like a b-tch is this women made our lifes hell befor she got sick i can't even begin to tell u the stuff she has done.now that shes sick she wants my husband to be her good friend.the problem is my husband does all this stuff for her and even throws extra money her way that we don't have.i do feel sorry for her but i can't forget all the things she has done to us.
2007-02-02 06:45:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no this has not changed her for the better she still demanding of my husband and guilts him into doing thind for her.plus after all she has been thru she still can't find anything nice to say to me and after all i have done for her girls
2007-02-02 06:47:36 · update #1
That's the way it goes when you marry a man with a wife and kids. She will always be the mother of his children. You have to suck it up or leave.
2007-02-02 06:47:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married to a man who has an ex wife and two children. She tries butting into our business and she has depended on us to take her places when she has not been well.
I politely had a talk with her and let her know that our business is our business and I am wise enough to handle our affairs. I also let her know that I do not appreciate her disrupting our home life.
I talked to my husband nicely and reminded him that we have a life too and we cannot be running her around all of the time and catering to her everytime she cries out for help.
She's a nice person and everything, but it got to be tiring and I had to nip it in the bud before the problem got out of hand.
This situation where the wife is sick, just be her friend and be supportive to her , but you need to talk to both her and your husband, but in a polite way.
2007-02-02 06:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you. However, when you marry someone with children it seems that these kinds of problems will arise. I would suggest you have a frank talk with your husband and express your concerns while telling him that you understand his desire to help her out. If you don't have money to give, then you shouldn't. The only way to change the child support is to go back to court. If she is going to be well soon. I wouldn't do that. I would just try to hang in there. But you really do need to talk with your husband and he needs to understand your feelings.
2007-02-02 06:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by xraytls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you talk to your husband, and explain what you are feeling? If he's a loving, understanding husband, he will take your feelings into consideration. Right now your husband may be feeling sorry for her. And if she's as evil as you claim her to be, she may be taking advantage. Be strong and pray for guidance.
2007-02-02 06:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by MsGreen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His first obligation is to his kids, his second to you, but nothing really to his wife except for what the court has decreed. He sounds like he is decent and kind to her, so that in itself isn't objectionable.
He should steer clear of her except for the stuff with the kids and let her family deal with her.
2007-02-02 07:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by marleyfu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont let her come between you and YOUR man, obviously thats what she wants. just coz someone is ill ,doesnt mean they become a good person so dont let her poison you.
2007-02-02 06:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your trapped in her web.....no way out unless your husband changes.....live with it, or leave.....sorry to hear this....good luck....
2007-02-02 06:52:29 · answer #7 · answered by The Emperor of Ecstasy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋