My hubbie looks at other girls all the time,He does it more now then before. Nothing obvious, but I catch it. I know it's natural but it bugs me. It hurts to know I dressed up to look good for him and he drifts off and looks at some other girl.
any thoughts on this girls?
2007-02-02 06:44:37 · 42 answers · asked by grl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get over it. Men look, period. Women look too. As long as there just looking, you shouldn't be upset. When they stop looking, it means they're dead.
2007-02-02 06:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by Ya Ya 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok lets keep it real, my husband use to do it all the time...I would get really insecure but now, After a while, I decided that I really liked hot cops so I started looking at all of them, he would get a little jealous. I simply wanted to give him a dose of how it felt, and now we both joke around, pointing out the hot stuff! guys or girls. I will often make sure he doesn't miss out on the hot babe across the street or the sexy Mom in the convertible.. lol After all we are human, we also joke around about trying a threesome but it never got any close because we respect each other and love each other more than anyone and as long as you go home to him, there is nothing wrong with looking.
Now, I find the hot girls before he does so it's not exciting to him anymore because he can't hide anything from me anymore. lol I really don't think you should worry, instead make it a game. It's healthier for your relationship as well. Trust wise.
2007-02-02 07:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys are like this, it's natural instinct for them, it doesn't mean they want to be with these girls though. It's about attraction, we all do it. When women go to see strippers on a hen night, we don't want to be with them, we like them but theres not enough there to make us leave the one we love. I don't see male models on tv and think "well he would be a great father" I think "WOW he's gorgeous!" I think by the sound of it it's nothing to worry about.
BUT if you feel you're feelings are not being taken into consideration you ned to voice your opinions and tell him you understand he's a man but you need some attention too.
I think you should try to refresh your relationship a little and rekindle the romance and excitement, I'm sure he loves you but the same routine does get to become the regular, not spectacular like it may have been in the beginning. In relationships we crave "the honeymoon period" but I suggest dressing up and "wooing" him, even though I am with you on the fact that since he looks at other women it isn't your fault.
I reckon if this doesn't work another talk needs to occur. Your self-esteem should not be dented by the fact he looks at other women, it's natural to feel hurt by this though. It's not just you, believe me, most guys do it.
I hope you resolve your relationship issues, just remember, you have a relationship that means something compared to a randomer who he may never meet again. Always remember communication is the key, especially when feelings are involved.
PinkMyst - wishing you all the best! = D
2007-02-02 07:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been together for 8 years. When I met him I wore a size 3. It is 8 years later and I don't Weare anywhere near the same size. My point is I catch him looking at other women even befor I got bigger and had our children. It is a natrual part of a male and as long as he does not try to touch anyother woman I wouldn't take to much offence to it. It would be if he trys to get touchy with other women I would start to worry about it.
2007-02-06 05:22:45 · answer #4 · answered by jenapher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer your own question hon and be serious...Do you look at other guys even in passing? Seriously...?
People look at other members of the opposite sex because we find them attractive. Plain and simple. Men do it and Women do it. If it offends you, say something to him about it, but be prepared for the ensuing argument...
Not like you can just put blinders on each other. Your spouse is going to look. So are you. All couples look whether they admit it or not. Anybody who can say that they've never looked at another person is a liar. It's impossible to not look unless you're confined to a single room with no windows or contact from the outside world at all.
Don't take the looking for something that it's not.
If I had a nickel for everytime I've been in a room full of women (all with wedding rings on) gabbing about how hot some person was...
2007-02-02 06:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's natural and the sooner you get used to it, the better! You mean you don't look at nice looking men??!! Come on! There's no harm in looking when he's with you and he goes home with you! We make comments to each other while watching a movie together about an attractive person and it's harmless. That's why men wear sun glasses most of the time, so they can look! I know, it hurts, but he will be happier if you let him get it out of his system. You have to be secure with yourself and that he loves you and is just looking at other women.
2007-02-02 06:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its mans nature. My fiance seen my cuzin and he looked at her too.....that itch actually married and had enough balls to have her buttons unbuttoned on a blouse so he can have a quick glance. And she kept pouring him a drink while her husband was unattended. I was gonna put her in place and all but she my cuzin and i know he dont want her. Its just she happened to be there and its another woman who is not bad looking in a room so eyez are going to be there. Of course i made a huge deal when she got up to go to the bar and he looked at her a**.....i seen his eyez; there was nothing else around her at the moment for him to look at but her a** so not to make any deal in from of my family i texed him. He ran after me to try to tell me he didnt look at her even once. Total lie. I hate when men sometimes think we are so stupid that we actually would believe some cheap lie. Cmon! But anyways as you can tell it made me jealous....I know you can tell but I am fine with this. Its their nature, because guess what when i see a good lookin man i make sure i am all in his face lookin up and down his body....nastyyyy! And when he sees me he get angry and thats when i say "Well hunney sorry i was having as much fun as you was when you was staring at my cuzin!" hehe ;) And guess what...i havent seen him look around too much anymore. My motto is " YOU DO ME...I'LL DO YOU!" basically if you mess something i do just the same way, so next time before you mess anything on more serious level you think of consiquences. Hey i have to do what i have to do.
2007-02-02 06:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be hurt, I catch my husband doing it too. He still loves me and thinks I'm a hot mama, but he has a penis and therefore cannot help but look. Do tell him, though, that you know he'll look when you're not around, but if he could keep it to a minimum in your presence you'd find it more respectful. It doesn't mean that he doesn't think your just as hot and even hotter than those girls. They're just scenery, you're the one he's in love with.
2007-02-02 06:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to control this, it's human nature. I catch him sometimes, but I'm sure he catches me too. I can't get mad at him for looking because I do the exact same thing, maybe even more. Now, when he talks to other women suggestively that's when I start to fume.
2007-02-02 06:54:00 · answer #9 · answered by JC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I catch him looking. No I'm not jealous, nor am I hurt. He's married not blind. There are beautiful things in this world: nature, architecture, fine art, luxury cars, people, etc. There is a difference between a look of appreciation and staring. Staring is disrespectful.
2007-02-02 06:53:17 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the time....it's disrespectful if it's a steady long gaze but if he just takes a quick look, well I can't say that I don't do that to other guys. Anything longer than a couple of seconds I would make a big deal- OMG
2007-02-02 06:49:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋