My partner and I planed a pregnancy and then he wanted me to have an abortion since the day I told him I was. So I left him and started dealing with it myself being stressful and more, now I’m 5 months pregnant and he wants to be there with me saying that he changed his mined. That he wants to be with me…. after everything he said and did. Should I forgive him???
2007-02-02 06:21:33 · 17 answers · asked by dalia 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i say give him a second chance, but also take it slowly. give him time to prove himself before you accept him back 100%. you are in a time when you need support and security, and you need to see that he can provide that for you. make him work a little bit!
but remember, no matter what happens between you and your man, your baby needs him as a daddy!
2007-02-02 06:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by Janci 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all are you married or are you in a live in association with your partner. If you are married and he says he has changed his mind fine, but ask him what made him change his mind, if he really has changed his mind i think you can forgive him because you both planned the pregnancy and you say you are in your fifth month of pregnancy as you know it is not advisable to go in for an abortion at this stage, it would be best that the two of you'll make up and forgive each other.
2007-02-02 14:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by chriskendall5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men go through some crazy emotions and feel very left out when women get pregnant. I would try to work things out with him but if he ever gets abusive, physically, mentally, or emotionally, I would kick him to the curb. You don't need that kind of stress with a baby. Especially if you feel like he will harm the baby after it is born. I had a friend that had a baby and her husband shook the baby when she was 4 months old and killed her. It was devestating on everyone and the man is in jail for murder. Not trying to freak you out or anything but just be careful. Good Luck.
2007-02-02 14:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by MyOpinionMatters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is so important, that God mentions the word not once, but twice in his own prayer..The Lords Prayer. Someone once told me it is not how much you love someone, its how many times you forgive each other. You, too, will need forgiveness at some time in your life and you did make the right choice by not making the baby pay for your mistakes..by giving him a chance to be born. Now, do the right thing, forgive, and you shall be forgiven. May God Bless
2007-02-02 14:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so glad that you choose,life now that you did he may have
needed time to think about it, my ex didn't become excited actually
he was kind ed of mad but he was there through pregnancy and
would do sweet for me. and the best thing he did was be there
while we gave birth to our daughter. and really change him he
wanted to be a family. but it did,t work for us, but maybe
for you will no matter what he said or did forgive him you will feel
so better,and it will be less painful to you, he,s not perfect, is
gonna fail sometimes but the great thing in this he want to
be there let him and then decide later on if do sen,t then you
can,t say you try, maybe you will even marry.
2007-02-02 14:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by Tella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest seeing a counselor to try to find out what spurred his initial behavior. If it was stress, then not dealing with it could set you up for him leaving every time he gets stressed out. A counselor can help him identify the stress and have healthy coping mechanisms for dealing with it. You should not just jump back in an forgive and forget or you could be setting yourself up for a roller coaster that could last for decades.
2007-02-02 14:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a difficult one.But the only one who has the answer is your heart.Ask yourself if you believe his "change of mind" is for real.Ask yourself if the change will be permanent or he will bail on you when the baby gets sick or won't let you sleep at night?.Ask your heart if you want his company and if you see him taking care of the baby with your same commitment.If all those questions have a "yes" for an answer...give him a chance.
The baby is 50% his creation as well.
Anyone can panic with news about a baby.
I'll bet when he sees the baby for the first time...his knees will tremble and he will be under the baby spell for ever!
2007-02-02 14:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a good idea as long as you feel he is sincere. You will need him. chances are he just freaked out. Give him the benefit of the doubt this time. I'd sit him down & explain that if he runs again, he should be prepared to keep on running. The only thing worse than having a dad who isn't there at all is a dad who isn't consistent in loving his family.
2007-02-02 14:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by kelly24592 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't view pregnancy the same way women do. Some men need time to adjust. They don't bond with the baby until the baby is born, we bond with the baby the minute we find out we're pregnant. If he wants to be there, I'd give him a chance... too many dead beat dads out there.
2007-02-02 14:25:22 · answer #9 · answered by Gig 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Forgive him if every other thing he does in life is acceptable to you.
Does he want to get back with you, or does he just want to hold your hand during the birth, then skip out again?
2007-02-02 14:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by gg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋