So, my wife thinks I'm cheating on her, but she can't prove it. Should I tell her the truth?

Question

I really need help, I do love her and want to stay married. Should I?
a.) come clean about everything
b.) Deny everything and stop the affair
c.) not worry about it because she will never prove anything ( I really like "being" with this other woman.)

Answer 1

Hey!
I am "the other woman" for a couple of guys, and my husband was suspect of me too. Don't think she will never find out, because I was busted, and I am super careful, but frequency leads to carelessness. (He found some "toys" in a backpack in my truck!-OOPS!)

But I have "laid low" for a while since getting busted, and my guys on the side have totally understood. Pretty much just chatting, pics...

DEFINATELY deny everything. (Unless she has pics or finds something-physical evidence) Then you better learn to think fast on your feet!

I'm about to catch "spring fever" again soon, so I have to appear good and trustworthy here in a month or so!

Good luck!

Answer 2

B is the best answer. But you do not want to hear that or you would not have had option C. You think a woman does not know. Dream on she knows. There are ways to find out things. A detective , maybe watching you right now. There are Gps UNITS, to track your every move. My ex thought I would not catch him either, it was all under the pretense of friendship. Pictures are worth a 1000 words. I had written statements from other people that knew also. You can't hide an affair for ever. If you want to stay married stop the affair. Turn all your cheating efforts toward winning your wife back and into a loving relationship. If not be a man and stand up admit the affair and get a divorce so your wife can move on without a cheater in her life. You are also a liar, a thief of her time and cheat , so is she really loosing such a wonderful man?

Answer 3

Even though I am at the end of this answer list I hope you read this and take my advice.

Ask yourself why you would want to tell your wife? Is it to verify her suspicions so that she'll at least know? Is it to make yourself feel better once you're relieved of the burden? Ask yourself why.

The reason I am telling you to do this is because many extramarital affairs are not for the long term. If your wife leaves you, you're left with a floozy who enjoys sleeping with other wives' men. Your wife must be lovely, as many women are, and if you love her then you also need to learn to respect her. Respect who she is to you... respect who she was to you... respect who she will be one day.

By telling her, you are hurting her. If you keep this to yourself and cease the affair, then you'll be saving her from not trusting you, from paranoia, from heart break... however, you will be the one who bears the guilt, the shame, and the paranoia. When your wife holds you and tells you how much she loves you, an unbearable wave of guilt will come over you about how you lied and what you did to her.

Be ready for that.

Work on your marriage. Reconnect. Spend time talking with her and getting to know her again... there will most likely be things that you never noticed about her. She is your wife, and you must cherish and honor her. Do not be that man that tears women down... that hurts them and causes endless amounts of tears. Be dignified. Be respectable.

Good luck.

Answer 4

You're sick!! If you like being with the "other" woman, why are you still with your wife?? Your don't deserve her. If you had any self respect at all and really wanted to save your marriage, you would come clean and stop what you are doing!! If you can't live without the "other" woman, you need to let your wife go and let her find what she truly deserves.

I don't understand people that cheat. If you are so unhappy in you marriage that you need to find companionship with someone else, then the marriage should be over. Cheating does nothing but destroy lives.

Have some respect for yourself and your wife and save your dignity!!

Answer 5

Ok... I know men cheat cause its an opportunity. But, as a woman who was cheated on, we tend to think that despite how much we're doing for our hubby, we're not woman enough to keep him happy. Are you using protection? Cause its pretty messed up to risk your wifes life cause you want freaky sex. Rule of thumb.. Never bring your wife anything Tylenol cant fix. I think you should end the relationship with your wife. Let her go find someone who wants her. Otherwise you'll just keep crushing her self- esteem. Or prove you love your wife and stop the affair

Answer 6

i imagine it really is incorrect for a married individual to be getting own information from the option sex. It opens a door for too many questions and opportunities. you may want to tell him the way you experience about this difficulty without yelling and accusing which will basically make him more effective desirous to do "what he needs." If he's talking to her without you modern-day then there might want to correctly be something more effective to this difficulty. If he can not talk in the front of you to her, i might want to ask your self why. yet again I say, do no longer cope with this once you're disillusioned or mad, be calm and loving and allow him do not forget that this makes you experience uncomfortable. it is going to likely produce a more effective powerful result than in case you pass into it yelling and hysterical.

Answer 7

Just be a man and face up to the facts as well as the consequences. You owe the honesty to yourself really.

The truth isn't what is going to damage the marriage, it is what you have done. Take responsibility for your own actions.

If you make a promise. Keep it. If you wanted to see other women, you should have included that in your wedding vows. What is done is done.

If you like being with the other woman...then you are not ready for a monogamous relationship.

Know thyself...if your wife wants a monogamous relationship, and you don't, well, you aren't compatible, or it's not the right time for you.

unless you are a second rate person, A is your only choice. If you are second rate...ignore me and keep destroying your wife painfully and slowly.

Answer 8

B. Deny everything and stop the affair regardless of how much you are addicted to the other person.

You must stop destroying your marriage. Having an emotional or physical affair will corrode your family life and your marriage, I urge to stop, no more clandestine phonecalls or racy emails, simply stop, even if the fantasy continues in yoru head, you need to STOP or else face the consequences.

Valentine's day is around the corner, give your wife a VERY nice guilt gift and roses and the whole sheebang. Please, be considerate to your wife, she must be in a lot of pain and you need to get yoru act together.

Good luck

Answer 9

None of them are good or fun, but B is probably the least painful for everyone. Go with her to counciling and maybe some day in the future you can put her mind at rest by coming clean. Karma will bring enough pain no matter what course you take. Do you want a lot of pain, hopefully over quickly, or to drag it out? Only you know what you are capable of surviving.

Answer 10

if u want to continue cheating than get a divorce, don't cheat, it only hurts the self worth of your wife. if u want to stay married quit seeing the other girl, be a man. be honest with your wife, come clean, as she already suspects it. we as women have really good intuitions what we don't know it tells us. seek counseling and be fair to your wife. if u come clean and are honest, admitting it will make u see how wrong it is and how much it has hurt your wife, by hiding it your not acknowledging it and it most likely will just continue till someone gets really hurt over it. you have to be accountable for the things u do.