I am 24 and my girlfriend is 22. I am at the age where i have a career job, i am secure financially and i want to marry the girl i have been with for 3 years. She however does not want to get married for another 5-6 years and doesnt want to be engaged for atleast another 4. I dont want to have my kids in their teens when i hit 50. I want to be there for them and I want to be able to be there for them, however, due to health history in my family i am worried that at 50 i may not be able to enjoy my children's time as much as if i was 40. How can i discuss this with my girlfriend, i don't want to make her marry me before she is ready, but I don't wait to wait until im 30 to be married to a girl who i am confident is the one.
2007-02-02 06:10:24 · 7 answers · asked by Drew 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Funny it's normally the girl who wants to get married before the guy.
2007-02-02 06:11:02 · update #1
It sounds like you only have two choices. You can either wait until your GF is ready to get married (if ever) or find someone else that is ready now. I'd be more inclined to find someone else that is family oriented. Your current GF may decide that in 4 years she is still not ready.
2007-02-02 06:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with what the others are saying: two choices... stay and wait, or get out and find someone else who has the same family-minded goal as you.
I wonder what will happen if you decide to wait 5-6 years, only to find that she isn't ready to have children for another 5-10 years after that. That will still put you near the age mark you were trying to avoid in the first place.
Don't force marriage on her if she isn't ready. I think if I were ready to marry and my mate wasn't willing, I'd have to move on. It will hurt you if you have true feelings for this girl, but obviously she isn't feeling the same. Find someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with her. Good luck to you!
2007-02-02 06:28:18 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can she give you a valid reason as to why she doesn't want to get married until another 5-6 years? You could try talking to her. Does she want children?
2007-02-02 06:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by mvas800 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like women in this situation you have to make a choice.....
you have to wait for her to be on the same page at the same time
or you have to leave this relationship and look for someone who is where you are now.
She's not wrong and you shouldn't try to push her because it will never work out.
Marriage is interesting already when both people want it.
2007-02-02 06:15:15 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u could discuss what her reasons are for this, and than discuss your reasons, but u are ready now and her reluctance may mean she isn't sure of u. time waits for no one, and her bad timing will cost her a marriage i believe. when we meet the right person we often want to take it that step farther, she perhaps isn't all that sure.
2007-02-02 06:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it look's like you'll be waiting to late on this girl maybe you should get some one who will not make you wait that long for marrige if she loved you she wouldn't make you wait for years before she marries you
2007-02-02 06:20:49 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOUR AVIATOR KNID OF LOOKS LIKE JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE. OK BACK ON SUBJECT, DON'T FORCE HER TO MARRY, SHE'LL HATE U FOREVER.
2007-02-02 06:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by star-e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋