can someone help me, i feel relly down,?

Question

in the 3rd year of a really hard degree that i just dont want any more. i have no friends, no boyfriend and am at home if im not at uni. im only 22 but cant help thinking that i want more out of life. i just dont know what to do to help myself

Answer 1

Going to school can be very hard on ones life.
You need to get out and meet people while your in school.
Stick with it your just about done and you will be further ahead when you finish.
Good Luck

Answer 2

Try different classes to find out what you're interested in. Maybe you just haven't found a thing that you really enjoy doing yet. I know it's hard but try to join some clubs or even stay at school or the library more. You can meet some nice people that way. I'm in forth year and I'm kind of going through the same thing because graduation is just so stressful! Don't worry because you're not alone and I bet lots of other people feel the same way and you just need to talk to people and get to know them!

Also, if traveling is your thing (I just love to travel!) try going on an exchange program to a country you've never been before. I know there are many scholarships and bursaries out there if money is a problem. Schools will often give you credit for the exchanges too! You can really meet some interesting people on an exchange and you can really get a lot more out of life. You can also start fresh since you're going to a whole new place! Good luck and cheer up! You'll make it!

Answer 3

At the end of the day school, college and uni doesn't last forever and since you said it's your third year at uni i'm assuming it's your last year. If it is then stick to it...a degrees a good thing to have and once your feeling better i'm sure you'll be relieved that you carried on with it. You may be feeling down because of the fact that you haven't made any friends at uni - it is hard, especially in the third year when everyone's already formed their little circle of friends.i think one thing you could do to help yourself in terms of building up confidence is volunteering - a lot of universities are doing mediating courses where you can help fellow students and if you'd rather look elsewhere to help you could look through your local paper ads and look for some volunteering work. It really should help! Then again you may have a more serious problem such as depression and you should seek help from your local GP or councellor. Either way i hope you do feel better!! xx

Answer 4

It's doesn't really surprise me to know another guy feeling the same way i did when i was 22. You have to know about yourself. What makes you happy and what keeps you busy. If you are looking to make some new friends then join a Gym or some cooking classes. Go dance lessons or join a local group. If you are into keeping yourself busy then pick up a habit or project which can enjoying doing. Working out will cut your stress out which in turn make you feel better. Empty mind devil's playground. If you keep yourself left doing nothing these thoughts will always come back to you. Do i need to wonder that you live alone? Best thing start a part time job which will keep you busy and get to meet some new people. coffee shop is not a bad idea.

Take care

Answer 5

So you basically spend all your time studying, and you're starting to feel lonely, which is causing you to feel depressed.

How much free time do you have? Maybe you took too big of a school load. Ease up on your work load and be realistic when you sign up for your classes for next year. An extra year of college is no big deal, these should be the best years of your life and I think you should have more fun.

But if you have some free time AT ALL, I suggest joining a school club or a sport at your local fitness center (it won't take as much time up as a college-level sport). Concentrating on something other than schoolwork will help your life feel more balanced, and you will make friends in the process.

When the time is right, you will find the right guy. You don't have enough time for a boyfriend right now anyway.

Answer 6

I think that you need to look at the situation you are in you should be just about done with the degree and it would really be a waste of time with out getting it RIGHT? I'm 23 and wish I had a degree or was working for one. I am a mother of 3 and have no friends and not bf either but you can do it you know that the other things but do you need to have a bf and or lots of friends to be happy? you should find things that make you happy you know look you could take time for your self as far as maybe going to the mall or joining a club, trying to do things that make you happy then you will more than likely make new friends and other things but is now ther right time for all that other mess to stress over? Your going to spend to much time fretting over things that you have no control!

Keep your head on girl it will get better!

E mail me if you would like at least you could have someone to talk to!!

Answer 7

Hi there!

Don't give up 5 minutes away from the MIRACLE! You have worked very hard to get this far. Take a deep breath and go for a long walk (or ride if it is really too cold for a walk) Clear your mind of school. Have a break, go to the movies and get a good nights sleep. You will have a renewed outlook on this.

So many people would love to have the opportunity (and money) to go to college. You are one of the few people in the world who has the chance. Don't give up. Complete your degree. After you have it...then procrastinate if you still feel the same way.

Best wishes.

Answer 8

hang in there! I know its hard, and I've been there. The best thing to do is to get an extracircullar activity where you dont feel depressed. I just joined the ymca so I can workout and meet new friends. Also, take a part time job at a coffee shop or the mall where you can be near lots of people your age (I'm 25 now). Also, I talk to my family alot, that helps me feel loved, and keeps in perspective. About ur degree, talk to your college advisor, I used to work as a college couselor, and there are plenty of other choices in every degree or you may want to consider bachelors in interdisciplinary studies. continue school, join school clubs if you have time.

Answer 9

Firstly keep at the degree dont waste the previous hard work. see the GP if you think meds can help. Can u ask for a sick note for 2 weeks? Go back to your mums for pampering? Is this possible for u? Try and get involved in a group on campus but not connected to ur work. Try photography or even work behind the uni bar. A job could give you a social outlet, but wait until you start to improve mentally. Good luck, think positive.

Answer 10

If I could, i would swap places with you.

I would love to have the chance to improve my knowledge of the world, & train for something that I enjoyed doing so I could get a decent job.

That is something to really look forward to isn't it?

What has happened to make you feel so down about your life & prospects?

Are you shy? (If you answer yes, that might mean you spend too long questioning yourself, rather than getting out there & doing).

Maybe life seem's shallow & a waste of time?
Huh. I don't agree with that!

If there are some people getting you down, disconnect from them.

Join a local group EG. do some voluntary work to help people who are less fortunate EG. the homeless.

That should make you appreciate you are one of the fortunate people on this planet & help you to realise every minute of your life is valuable because in one minute an act of true kindness can fill another person's lonely life with warmth & gratitude for years to come.

Don't allow the hum-drum to quell that basic instinct in you.
Fight against the apathy you feel.

Get fitter too! That way, instead of feeling dread, you will realise your dreams. Keep on believing in that, never give up.

Oh! & don't let the grey old bureaucrats who have probably made your course as dull as ditchwater, put you off from learning!! OK?

Answer 11

And you will have, it's hard going to school and maintaining a social life especially if you have a demanding major, trust me I am in nursing school. You are in your third year, you have to ask yourself if you really do not want to go to school for this or are you just tired of school, you are only 22 y/o you have your whole life ahead of you to have fun. I think you should concentrate and finish school you will not regret it. Boys are time consuming and they stress you out and sometimes more trouble than what they are worth. Finish school and get it over and done with. When your done hopefully you will have a great job be set financially and then you can have fun. If you really do not like your major than that's worth thinking about b/c you don't want to waste money on a career that you will hate and you will wind up going back to school. Talk to a career counselor at school assuming that your school has one. Good Luck