is 12yrs too young to start having sex?????

Question

My youngest daughter is just turned 12yrs & she has told her sisters that she really wants to have sex with her boyfriend who is 16yrs old
I knew that she was friendly with the boy but didnt know that she wasnted sex.
what should i do?????

Answer 1

I can't believe you would allow your 12 year old to go out with a 16 year old put a stop to it. She is to young and he is to old for her if it continues call the cops because that is statutory rape.

Answer 2

What do YOU think? Of course it is. Tell her that sex is for adults, she may be coming a teen but she is far from becoming an adult and that sex doesn't make her more adult like. It is an expression of love, which she couldn't possibly feel as it develops over a long time and love is more than a physical attraction. Love is admiration of qualities of the other person and tolerance and acceptance of all their habits you don't like as much.
Let her know the purpose of sex-to express love for someone and to create a baby so if she doesn't want to get pregnant not to have sex. And that she can't manage looking after a baby.
Let her know all the risks- that she can get STDs that can leave her eternally infertile, that she can get HIV which could become AIDS anf lead to a premature death, Let her know that condoms are not fail-proof. That she can still gets pregnant, STDs, AIDs etc even with that and that the Pill is not 100% guaranteed too.
Show her soome gruesome pictures of people with genitals diseases and warts and stuff.
All that should do the trick.
At 12 sex can only do more harm than good.
At that age some people's bodies are not completely formed yet so it can hurt a lot.
Anywhere there are glands there is always the risk of cancer. If she starts having sex at 12, the possibility of getting it through her life is increased.

Answer 3

Talk to the parents of the 16 year old. You knew she was friendly with the boy - tell his parents that - and tell them that now you know it is much more serious. Tell them they can have your support in getting the message through to this boy that he is on his way to jail fast if he sexually touches your daughter. Then take your daughter to the doctor and have him talk to her. She is probably too young to be responsible for any kind of regular birth control but I think there is a pill that you can take once a month now (I don't recall the name. I would explain to the doctor that you don't want your daughter to even be thinking about how she's on birth control (it would make her think that then sex was a no-lose proposition). He could perhaps devise some sort of strategy for you - you could tell her that you have to give her this medicine once a month because it's a kind of oral vaccine for the flu (sorry, I can't come up with a better story.)
The important thing is, protect her from pregnancy in the case that she does get together with this 16 year old. You can't watch her 24-hours a day and you just want her to get older without getting pregnant, while you work to get rid of this 16 year old who's dating jailbait!
Last, but most important: you have to have a tough long talk with your daughter. But I have said everything I've said because she is 12.

Answer 4

12 Is way to young and you cannot watch her every move so give her a good talking to about sex and all the sexually transmitted disease she can get from unprotected sex and how hard it is to raise a child at such a young age. Also get her on a contraceptive pill because she cannot be under your watchfull eye all the time and may sneak out and meet her boyfriend and then she could come home pregnant one day and by then it is to late. If she is on the pill at least you know she is protected against a unwanted pregnancy, I was put on the pill by age 13 by my mum and my sister was 17 yrs old when she had my nephew and I was 14 yrs at the time; This showed me how hard it is to raise a baby at 17 let alone 12 and to this day age 23 I am not a mum yet because Im putting a career first so I have the fund's to raise a baby.

Answer 5

You have a couple of problems
1. Yes 12 is way to young to have sex.
2. What is a 16 year old dating a 12 year old
Way to old for your daughter
3. Your other daughter told you something she may not know
want to know

I would have a huge sex talk with both children
I would point out that sex is a huge responsibility
It comes with consequent that they are not ready for
Pregnancy, Std's and HIV
Sex should always be saved for love.
Most people do not unstated what love really is until their 20'S
Tell them about how bad sex can be with the wrong person
I would also call and ask it the 16 year touch your daughter can he be charge?
I would her boyfriend that if you ever find out that he touch a 12, I would call the police
Good luck

Answer 6

Even if your daughter is more mature than the average 12 year old and if he is a little immature for his age there is still a serious issue here of him being arrested for rape if he goes anywhere near your daughter in that way. At 12 your daughter may feel ready but would probably be putting her emotional well-being at stake as there are a lot of adult issues and emotions attatched to a sexual relationship that a child is too young to be dealing with. If you feel you can then perhaps you could sit down with her and talk it over, explaining that if she loves her boyfriend then she will wait because to do anything now could jeopardise his liberty and land him on the sex offenders register. I would perhaps also make a call to his parents house so they can deal with him at their end...he needs to be aware of the law. Goodluck to you and your daughter x

Answer 7

WHY does your 12 year old have a 16 year old boyfriend? Or any boy friend for that matter???? How can you even ask if 12 is too young. If you don't know that answer you have no business raising children.

By the way. Yes 12 is too young to have sex. Think about it. I am always amazed by questions like this, although I should be quite used to it.

Answer 8

the short answer should be no. Rationally if any random 16 yr old wants to have sex with a girl 12 years just means he's doing it just for the pleasure of it. I suggest you check on this 16 yr old's background just to make sure he isnt the type to sleep around. Plus, what does your 12 year old daughter know of sex? She having sex with him could also end up in her being traumatised. I think you should sit with your daughter and talk to her about pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases plus the other minus points of having sex at such an age. Also tell her about condoms and pills if she's persistent to sleep with this boy. Your daughter is underaged too because in most places the legal age of having sex is 18 or 21. Lastly, i would talk to this boys parents to let them know about your children's relationship. Good luck!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

This is definitely too young.
A 12-year-old girl may be physically ready, but no 12-year-old is mentally ready to have sex and possibly have a child.
Why is a 16-year-old showing interest in a 12-year-old anyway?
Take all possible measures to keep your daughter safe from sex. Diseases, pregnancy, etc. should not be welcomed into a 12-year-old girl's life.
If your daughter refuses to stop seeing this 16-year-old, don't allow them to go anywhere where sex could happen. Limit her visits and set a time limit. (Say that he can come over for 2 hours tops) Don't allow her to stay home alone with him.
And talk to your daughter about it. Once she knows the risks of sex, she may not want to have it anymore.

Answer 11

YES, 12 is way to young to start having sex. If your daughter is thinking about having sex then now is the time to really listen to her. have a sit down with her and ask her to express herself to you but you must listen so she can feel like her feelings are being validated she might be trying to find love in all the wrong places. just listen and you might just learn something that you didn't know just like you said you knew she was friendly with him but you didn't know she wanted to have sex let her open up to you by choice and then after she says what she wants to say then hug her, let her know that your glad she talked to you, after a couple of hours of meditation then tell her how you feel about what was told to you and teach her about the consiqences of the decisions she will have to face as a 12 year old. I don't have any children that old yet but i was once 12 facing the same thing your daughter is facing and this is how i wanted my parents to deal with me instead of trying to beat me or kick me out i want to wish you all the luck in the world because facing a teen with hormones is the hardest thing to do GOD bless.