Just wondering if anyone else, in the process of coming out to themselves has had to overcome personal beliefs about homosexuality.
2007-02-02 05:56:31 · 9 answers · asked by collegedebt 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I was still a christian when I came to terms with what I am. When I saw what the christian view was, instead of hating myself I removed myself from the source of hate. I suppose you have to figure out where that negative outlook is coming from and remove it from your life. I'm proud and happy with who and what I am now.
Ask yourself where these negative ideas about homosexuality are coming from and decide what holds more weight, what you are or what these negative ideas say. You will find that you can't change who you are and that all the negative ideas come from places and people that don't understand us. You know who you are and you know better than anyone else that you're just being what you are and there is nothing wrong with that.
2007-02-02 06:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was back in high school still a bit of a closest case dating my first bf ever, we both where in the base ball team, (funny thing was that I was the pitcher and he was the catcher) back to the story..we date for a while and one night while he was throwing a party I had to go home early, and he couldn't take me so I hitch a ride with his best friend, little did I know that his best friend was bi and had told my bf before hand that he thought I was cute, when I went to school the next day, during lunch I sat with a couple of friends when out of no where my secret BF comes from behind and starts to scream at the top of his lungs, saying "I love you, did you have sex with him, did you tell me if you did, please tell me....everybody turn around and just stared at me....I was speachless after that it was kinda hard not to let people know I was gay....
P.S no I didn't do anything with his best friend but if I had the chance again I think I would of he was Hot!!
2007-02-02 06:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeppers. I think the "ever" means that EVERYONE (in our society anyway) has at one point or another in their upbringing. Mine did continue through part of my coming out process. Won't even get into my one ex-girlfriend.... :-/
I started hating all of the things about me that could be viewed as stereotypically gay. I didn't play sports. I wrote poetry. All that stuff (and it's funny, because I saw all these things but no one else did. I'm not someone that people tended to "suspect"). And It was like I felt some weird responsibility to prove these all wrong, to be the super anti-stereotype. And then I realized that that was stupid, and that the entire point was that I should be allowed to be myself.
2007-02-02 20:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was raised to believe that homosexuality was wrong, I believed the lies. I hated myself for having gay feelings, became self-detructive and depressed. I wanted the homosexual feelings to go away but at the same time I did have a crush. I had mixed emotions. I felt one way but it wasn't something that I really wanted. I was uncomfortable being around my friend who was openly gay at the time and we aren't close friends any more, Know that I'm out that really hurts me because when I did came out I felt that we could've grown together instead of growing apart and thats what happened since he came out earlier than me.
2007-02-02 06:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.. while I did try to pretend I enjoyed having sex with girls for a while, I never spoke or acted out against gays.. actually, in high school I drove my girlfriend around in a car with a 'homophobia is not a family value' sticker on the back....
2007-02-06 00:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that while I was a teenager I had ill feelings for homosexuals, in part because my parents were church goers as was I. When I was 20 I came to grips with my sexuality, and left the church and subsequently my parents. I had to learn to love myself for who I am, and to not let bigots and zealots effect me.
2007-02-02 07:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by winstonbad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I avoided being bi and ts because I associated those with something bad. I was raised Jehovah's witness and then I was raped by a gay man when I was 16. I used to debate against gay marriage and gays in the military. I also called them every name there is (behind their backs).
I'm different now.
2007-02-02 06:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by girl with a gun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember the first time I was videotaped (in acting class) I said, "jeez, do I really sound that queeny?" Then I realized what I was doing and felt foolish.
I also worked on projecting a more masculine image, since that was the kind of person I also wanted to attract. :o)
2007-02-02 06:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suffered many things back then, I don't think that homophobia was one of those, though.
2007-02-02 06:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by Kedar 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋