2007-02-02 05:45:50 · 25 answers · asked by Sad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first off dont u ever beg any man to stay, in fact if he wants to go that bad well help him pack his **** and send him on his way. dont let him have total control over u and dont even give him the satifaction of it. u know its is hard right now but whats hurts us only makes us stronger in the end. my husband and l have been married for 14yrs and for the most part it has been great, dont get me wrong every marriage has its problems. l love him with all my heart but l am an independant person as well and if he wanted to go l am sure l would be hurt but u know what him go cause he is just not that into u anymore. only u can complete urself and dont ever think that u cant live without a man. u go and get an attorney and take it from there. l dont know the reason for him wanting to leave but u cant make someone stay if they dont want to , u dont own him. Maybe the greatest chanllenge now is to find a way to keep independence while also commiting ourselves to the ties that bind us , people, families, friends together. when u have 2 children, l think that that's such a priority to protect them and to never loose sight of the fact that even if uoure in a fight or even if things are going badly, its in their best interests that everybody comes out okay. good luck hon.
2007-02-02 08:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't beg anymore.
This surely is the most difficult time for you and you love him still and want him back. If his leaving is final, you can either sit there and cry and be miserable, or, for your kids' sake, get it together and move on. Get your best friend over, talk to her, have a good cry, maybe even get your family to keep the kids for a few days, cry some more, scream, etc....when you're ready, get a grip, talk to your husband about financial stuff (let him know you've accepted things, no crying, no begging), try to be as cold as you can, maybe, just maybe he'll realize what he's doing...and if not, you have to stand up straight and accept that life will go on without him, but your kids need you!!!!
2007-02-02 05:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by avechm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A good website for you is listed below. It has a lot of suggestions on saving a marriage. Also, if you aren't see a counselor, that would be a good step. Work on caring for yourself and your children. Find things that you enjoy--movies, music, a massage, walks, supportive friends--and do those things.
If you need help understanding your husband, a good book is Wild at Heart. When you are strong, you will be in better shape to work on your marriage. Good luck!
2007-02-02 05:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he's going to take care of his children because when you get over the shock of him leaving you'll be responsible for taking care of 2 children.
Then you can ask him if he thinks there's any chance of fixing the relationship.
If he says yes...get some marriage counseling....if he says no do your best to stop begging him. Keep your self-respect.
2007-02-02 06:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to leave let him leave begging him isnt gonna make it better then he will thant u need him and take advantage of that then u'll really be unhappy. Theres things u can do and programs u can join to help u and ur children financially.
2007-02-02 05:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by kgriffin112986 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want a man who doesn't want you? Move on, it'll be really hard for awhile but in time you'll be a better person for it. Don't beg him, because when one is feeling the need to go, very seldom do they change their mind.
2007-02-02 06:41:11 · answer #6 · answered by Emily S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a lawyer and get child support. Begging won't do it. All it does is make you look weak. Be strong for your kids and realize that you married a bum. I'm sorry for your situation.
Good luck.
2007-02-02 05:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by Dizney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay stop acting like he is the only man out there cause
he is not.. remember to say one nice thing about yourself
once a day. just be good to yourself. SOME men are jerks.
and i would never beg, him to stay again.
2007-02-02 06:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not picture myself with someone that does not want me just let him go its for the best yeah its going to hurt like hell but if he doesn't want you anymore there's nothing you could do be very strong don't let him bring you down good luck just tell him its fine even tho its going to hurt you let him go i am sure you have done your best maybe he will come back in the later on and you will have some one else that's when you say no thanks good luck
2007-02-02 05:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by Sexy Eyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not worth begging for. Tell him to get out and hit him up for child support payments.
2007-02-02 05:54:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋