My boyfriend cheated and I put him out. I told him he owes me money before he can get his things. He decided he still loved me and wanted to work things out. That was a week ago and I haven't heard a word from him. He hasn't asked for his stuff or anything. I need to know what I can do with his stuff? After a certain period of time, can I donate his clothes to Goodwill, can I sell his golf clubs? What can I do?
2007-02-02 05:32:42 · 10 answers · asked by Mikala M 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
My boyfriend cheated and I put him out. I told him he owes me money before he can get his things. He decided he still loved me and wanted to work things out. That was a week ago and I haven't heard a word from him. He hasn't asked for his stuff or anything. I need to know what I can do with his stuff? After a certain period of time, can I donate his clothes to Goodwill, can I sell his golf clubs? What can I do?
Let me clarify, I'm not asking him for money for his stuff, I'm asking him for my stuff back or for the money of the stuff he has of mine. Furthermore, I'd be more than happy to give him his stuff, but I'm not calling him - it's his stuff. He can call anytime he wants it.
2007-02-02 05:39:14 · update #1
I guess you all are confused. I'm not acting like a bi***! I kicked him out of our house and I AM done with it. I'm not concerned with him. It's funny how all the men are saying that I'm acting like a bi***. Anyway, he's more than welcome to call for his belongings...he's more than welcome to come by for his belongings, he's more than welcome to his belongings (then I'll take him to court for the money - that's fine). I'm just asking about abandonment issues.
Wow, you men are touchy.
2007-02-02 05:48:55 · update #2
TELL HIM THAT YOUR PUTTING IT OUT BY THE TRASH AND IF HE WANTS IT HE BETTER PICK IT UP BEFORE THE SANITATION DEPT. PICKS IT UP. EITHER WAY HIS STUFF IS OUT OF YOUR HAIR.
2007-02-02 05:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by strike_eagle29 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have a couple of options here. You don't say where you live, so it's kind of hard to know what the laws are where you live. You can: 1) Consult an attorney as to what you can and can't do legally. Most attorneys will give you a brief free consultation over the phone; 2) Be the bigger person here, call up your ex-boyfriend and see if you can make arrangements for him to come and pick up his stuff with the agreement that he brings your stuff with him and returns it to you. I would probably try Option #2 first, before you get into some legal battle about each others stuff.
2007-02-02 05:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by BRIAN W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, you're making a very cautious, sincere list of all that has been taken from the condominium, including furnishings, and so on. If in case you have pictures showing heritage of furniture, stereo, television, and so on., then make copies...Present all lists and pix with countersuit of divorce. The court docket will take a appear at your "proof," make price considerations, and decide who should get what. Due to the quick nature of the wedding, the cause of the dissolution, etc., the courtroom will make the finals on this. AND, you've gotten greater issues than divorce, a couple of garments, and some furniture that relatively isn't worth the fee of an attorney....It is youngster help! You ought to...Have got to return on the EX boyfriend and sue for little one aid, interval. Your youngster's existence is what you are quite playing with right here, and he/she deserves a cozy future..You 'husband" is just not going to be responsible for child support, for he has denied fathering, is divorcing you because of it, and no court will award youngster aid from him. Get busy, lady, you will have rather a lot to do.
2016-08-10 14:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by treat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CANNOT merely put his stuff out.
Send him a letter, certified return receipt requested, with an itemized list of the belongings you have of his. Also, send him an itemized account of the money you owe him, along with copies of any receipts for those items (for example, utility bills).
In the letter, give him 30 days from the date of his receipt of the letter to pick up his stuff and/or pay you the money he owes.
Wait more than 30 days, maybe 45, and then put the stuff out unless he has contacted you. If he hasn't paid the money in the 30 days, take him to small claims court.
2007-02-02 05:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by tivodan1116 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can do whatever you want to with it! I told my ex that he had until a certain date to come get his stuff from the house if he wanted it and he didn't come by so I took it to the trash dump! or some of it I donated to a resale shop. He called about it a few weeks later, but I told him that it was all gone cause he never let me know that he wanted it back. He abandoned his stuff...so sorry for him! NOT!
2007-02-02 05:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he cheated once he will again and again - be done with him. Give him a bill for the items he has of yours and request a Return/Pay or quit in the next 10 days. If in that time he does not comply dispose of his thins as you see fit and he has no recourse. Send the letter registered mail return receipt so you have proof it was delivered to him. Better luck next time.
2007-02-02 05:43:49 · answer #6 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a good chance to come get it. Then call and let him know that on X date goodwill will be by to get his stuff. If he doesn't show it is abandonment.
2007-02-02 05:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like this.
Take that Steven! Stupidass!! LOL
Ok legally you can not just get rid of his stuff.
Take photographs of his items too when you make the list so you can prove their existing condition.
Box it up and store it somewhere. When he comes to get his stuff, just shove the boxes and the list at him. Much easier than watching him walk around and collect his stuff. Then tell him to go fuckoff.
2007-02-02 06:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by murkglider 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The law states you have to give him his stuff. If anything should happen to it, he can take you to court for the monetary lost and win. If he owes you money, legitimately, you can take him to court for it. I'd advise you to just give him his stuff, forget the money, and move on.
2007-02-02 05:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by Michael E 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't charge him money for getting his own stuff. That is called extortion and can land you in jail. Just give him the stuff.
2007-02-02 05:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by ShadowSlash M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋