My 19 month old son is still not sleeping through the night and he keeps turning and rolling on the bed then he cries. He does this everynight and I have to wake up for 8 to 10 times at night just to pacify and comfort him. But he sleeps and stop to cry when I start to hold him. This makes me very exhausting everyday at work and home.Please help.
2007-02-02 05:18:56 · 12 answers · asked by Irma G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
If he lays quietly and sleeps when you hold him, why not let him sleep with you? Maybe it's a little separation anxiety he's going through. Some people won't agree, but I remember that Dr. Sears said something along the lines of: Whatever sleep arrangment gets all family members the most sleep-- that's the best sleeping arrangment for you.
2007-02-02 05:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by April 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Make sure that you have a set routine so that your son can know that it's bed time. You can put a portable video above his bed and put a video for him to sleep to. I 've tried everything too, I have a two year old and he still wakes up 5 nights a week at least once a night, some baby's need more comfort than others. Now all he needs is for me to hold his hand for a couple of minutes than he is fine. Hang in there.
2016-03-29 01:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the poster who suggested bringing him to bed with you. Every child is different and you have to do what works for your family. If that means co-sleeping at this stage in his life so you both can get some rest then so be it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. It sounds like you are a great mom, just a bit tired. Don't take the outdated advice on letting him "cry it out". That only solves the problem in the short term - long term even greater problems can arise like insecurity, behavioral problems, etc. Best of luck!
2007-02-02 07:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by junenorth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with the concept of letting a child "cry it out" but you need to find the fine line between comforting and letting your child figure out how to comfort himself and fall back asleep on his own.
Try to get him to form an attachment to some sort of comfort object - a blanket or stuffed animal. Every time you comfort him, use this item and make a big deal about how nice blankie feels, it's so soothing, etc., etc. He will start to associate that object with being comforted, not just being held by you, and at some point, he should be able to soothe himself with his "lovey."
and btw, once he is attached to one specific thing, get a spare one, just in case! I was lucky, my son decided on a blankie and I two that were the same fabric but totally different colors and patterns - but he didn't care about that part, they are interchangeable as far as he's concerned. However, some kids are VERY particular about this sort of stuff!
2007-02-02 15:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by peanut'smom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one wants to hear their child cry but then are miserable and want to complain about it. Just like your Pediatrician told you, and i know he/she did because they all do. Let him cry! It's the only way he'll learn to sooth himself. He's too old for a pacifier, throw it away. Stop holding him threw the night, yeah it was ok when he was a baby but he's over a yr now.
When it's bed time, but him in the crib/bed, turn the light out, tell him good night and a kiss and shut the door.
If he cries let him, he'll eventually stop and learn it's ok to sleep without mommy or daddy rocking him. The longer you wait the harder it gets.
2007-02-02 05:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sometimes children cry in their sleep without actually waking up. By you then going in to pacify him you may actually be waking him up. Let him cry it out, he's almost two.
I also like the suggestion someone made about a white noise machine, it could be that your son is a light sleeper, and the white noise machine would block out all those sounds that keep waking him.
2007-02-02 05:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all be persistant!! Second of all is he really tired when you put him to bed? Try a bed time ritual where you give him a bath and read him a book, give him some milk or whatever he drinks, brush his teeth, and tell him its bedtime, put him in his bed, and turn out the lights. DO not go back in his room... he will self soothe and go back to sleep. This will be hard for the first week or so no doubt. Do not hold him to get him to go back to sleep, he will be dependent on you and not learn to self soothe. I hope this helps! IT did for me!!
2007-02-02 05:29:50 · answer #7 · answered by csmutz2001 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stay in bed and let him cry himself back to sleep. I will wear himself out and go to sleep and sleep better. He probably just counts on you being there when he is awake. If he cries really hard or long then get up, tuck him back in and tell him goodnight. He may cry but you have at least let him know that you are still there, but you are going to bed too.
2007-02-02 05:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy to Boys 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ok my 8 month old daughter is the same way. he wants to sleep with you because mommy is a sign of comfort and security. take one of your shirts or a blanket you use, that smells like you, and lay it in the bottom of the crib. then when he goes to sleep he will smell you and think that he is laying with you. good luck!
2007-02-06 02:37:05 · answer #9 · answered by ber-ber21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to learn to soothe and pacify himself. Let him cry for a little while and try to comfort himself. I know this is hard to do but if you continue to rush to his side he knows that he has you trained and will continue to do it as long as he gets away with it.
2007-02-02 05:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by Wendy S 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋