for the last month i've been feeling very depressed and i'm only 16 the main part of this is my mother because she is a very cold and critical. for no reasons i feel like crying and smashing things up and getting into fights with random people that i dont even know why i want to do that, does anyone have any idea for me to get over this without me ending up in prison!
2007-02-02 05:17:33 · 5 answers · asked by ♥ 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You need to find your own method of stress release as you are the only one that knows what calms you down. You need to find this quick as you have stated that you are about to act out what you feel inside. Doing this will take you the next level where more and more you will become like the person or persons you despise. I don't know your situation but I know how I felt when I was younger. This can eat at you mentally and physically if you don't find a way to control it.
For me I made a vow to myself that I would never act or copy any actions that I disproved of from my family where the actions where directed towards me or someone else. When I got upset I would go for a bike ride or drive or find a place to be alone and listen to music until I calmed down. The best thing you can learn right now is to walk away without saying the last word or physically challenging the person. It will make you stronger because you learn to deal with these people over time and in the future it will pay off. Dealing with people is not always easy but can be rewarding.
If your problem needs more pressing attention then you should talk to doctor or school nurse about finding ways to calm yourself. Try and find a way to control this with out meds first.
Don't let the anger control you, you will still feel like crying as you are human. But when you act out on someone random as you have been acted upon it will make you feel worse instead of better.
Good luck and hang in there.
2007-02-02 05:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by Tim D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging from your age, some of this may be hormonally generated. Especially if these times seem to coincide with your "cycle" in any way. You may want to have some tests done checking your levels and discuss the possibility of mild medications to help with this. There is SO much more available for PMS and PMDD, not like when I was your age. Don't be afraid to talk with someone about this and seek help.
"Do you have unpleasant, disturbing emotional and physical symptoms before your monthly menstrual periods? Do these symptoms disrupt your life and interfere with your usual activities and your relationships with others? Do the symptoms go away when your flow begins or shortly thereafter, only to return before your next period?"
2007-02-02 13:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by Yahzmin ♥♥ 4ever 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom about your feelings; if that's an option. Let her know exactly how you feel. Remind her that you'll be gone in a couple of years and she needs to treat you with respect. On that note, make sure you don't get in any trouble so that you have an outlet after you leave your mom's domain. Make sure you get into college and make something of yourself. If you're mom is not proud of you now, imagine how she will be if you end up in prison. You have to show her that you're strong mentally so that she feels guilty later in life when you become successful. Getting in trouble will only hurt you in the end and not your mom.......good luck.
2007-02-02 13:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide for yourself how you will ultimately respond to your mother's coldness, but remember something: all things in the world are involved in and subject to pain or conflict. No one is perfect, and those who claim to be are caught in an illusion. By being angry with your mother and lashing out at whomever (or whatever) you are perpetuating the anger...passing it on and allowing it to continue. Be the end of the line for the anger and do not let your mother's ways cause you too to be angry. You are your own individual self, but your actions affect everyone around you...just as your mother's critical emotions affect you.
And give it time. If you are lucky enough to understand the real importance of patience at your age, you'd be very well prepared for later years.
Compassion, respect, patience, and understanding. Believe in them, promote them, and they will flourish around you.
2007-02-02 13:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear friend, very sorry for your mother, but don't worry, everything gets well soon' first of all I pray to the great God to cure you mom soon and secondly try to speak with your best friend and tell Him( God) your problem. he helps you provided that you request Him deeply and honestly. try it and see the result.
this is my email, un_1000@yahoo and inform me about your mother recovery.
thanks and God bless you
2007-02-02 13:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by un_1000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋