Im thinkin about abortion i need some help from women who had them before, anti-abortionits not welcome?

Question

Im pregnant and im having serious second thoughts, i went to a family planning and they were all anti-abortionists and made me feel like **** and forced me into a decision i now know was not right for me. im scared about the procedure if it hurts,long term effects,emmotional effects etc, ive heard it can cause me to be streil also? now i dont need people writting me telling me how i shouldnt have dont it etc b/c i was on birth control and it didnt work. i just need help from women who had abortions and know what to expect,

Answer 1

I've never aborted, but these women have:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm

and here's more information that may be helpful to you:

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm
http://www.standupgirl.com/site/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=218&Itemid=40

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS15_pilldanger.pdf

Information from Former Abortionists:
http://www.prolifeaction.org/providers/index.htm
http://www.humanlifereview.com/2000_summer/meehan_s2000.php

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help:
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp

Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

Support for Pregnant College and Career Women:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org

Answer 2

I had one when I was very young and from that procedure I ended up getting an infection in my blood and had to have surgery cause all of my organs were infected. So please if your going to get one think really hard and long. Do research on the clinic as well. The clinic that performed the abortion for me is now shut down. Really the after effects is what really hurts, even though the baby is gone you breast still make milk and I even had morning' sickness. I felt very ashamed of having that done and if I could take it back I would. So you need to make sure this what you want.

Answer 3

I think this is something that you have to decide for yourself. Don't let anyone tell you what you should or should not do. It's a decision that you will have to live with for the rest of your life. I had one two years ago and I felt very much like you do right now. I was so confused and went back and forth. I finally decided to have it done and I did it on my own. I still remember that day like it was yesterday. If I could take it back I would. Yes the procedure hurts but what is worse is what you deal with afterwards. I don't know about anyone else but for me it completely devastated me. When I was having it done I wanted to jump out of the chair but it was too late. I had severe depression for at least a year and it's something that I was unable to talk to anyone about. In fact it wasn't until this year that I finally was able to confide in my mother. I have a close friend who got pregnant around the same time but chose to keep it and seeing that child always reminds me of my own loss. I wish I would have talked to family members and taken a little more time to decide. It's something that I will always regret. I am now married to the father of that child and now have been unable to get pregnant. I want a child so bad now and it hasnt happened and I blame myself for it. I see it as a punishment for what i did even though its not. My life would have been turned upside down if I had kept it as I was in graduate school at that time but at least I would be able to live with myself. I struggle to this day with the decision I made and I would not wish that upon anyone else. Only you know whats right for you. Just remember that you have to live with that decision. I can tell you from my own experience that living with the decision to have an abortion is not an easy one. Theres always that "what if" and wondering what the child would have looked like and what life would have been like. I find myself crying about it every now and then and it's not easy. I hope this helps. Do what your heart tells you and talk to people that care about you and maybe you'll know what to do. I wish you the best. Take care & God bless!